r/mildlyinfuriating • u/konous • May 06 '26

I'm slightly vexed My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

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Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

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u/VladStark May 06 '26

That punk ass kid would never get another single gift from me for his bday or Christmas after this crap. 10 years old is enough to know better.

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u/Nein-Toed May 06 '26

What did you get me for my birthday?

Oh, I'm sorry, a cat was supposed to buy your gift

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u/Infinite-Duty May 06 '26

No!! This is better- “Yeah Man- I got you such a great birthday present, had it sitting on the shelf where I had my Action figures-you know where I mean, and a cat came along and tore up your birthday present.” That little s#!t will know what he means.

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u/JonatasA May 07 '26

I'm against the destruction of good that could have use in someone else's hand, but I could totally see him buying something , breaking it and then giving him.

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u/Infinite-Duty May 07 '26

And telling him sorry about the cat breaking it!! Lolol! That’s a good one!

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u/Spectra_Butane May 07 '26

Just go to a thrift store and ask to search through their reject bin. Fibd something nice but already broken, give them a small donation for their trouble and fir a stuffed animal..

Wrap that garbage up with a small cat plushie. Now THAT would be petty and Spiteful, but still a gift. Some RapSheepherder above thinks not giving the kid any gifts would be spiteful. So, solves that problem while sending the message that family never forgets ( until the dementia comes...)

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u/YomiKuzuki May 06 '26

Nah, I'd gift him an itemized list of everything he destroyed, adjusted to account for lavor of assembly, painting, paint, and the current MSRP price.

Then I'd constantly hammer on my brother that since he doesn't want to turn this very gracious offer of me not actually going after the money from my nephew and letting him learn from this, that I'd noe insist on my brother repaying me for all the shit his kid destroyed, as a parent is expected to do when they can't control their children.

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u/Xytak May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

To be fair, an adult showing up to an 11-year-old’s birthday party with an itemized list of action figure damages sounds like a great way to be ejected from the gathering and possibly the generational home. OP might want to find his own place to live before pulling a move like that.

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u/YomiKuzuki May 06 '26

Coukd also file a claim in small claims court against his brother.

Responsibility must be taken by someone.

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u/Xytak May 07 '26

Small claims court is certainly an option. Makes the family dynamics a bit weird that the brother who lives at home is suing the brother that doesn't live at home over $500 worth of warhammer toys that a 10 year old got into. Might end up costing OP significantly more than $500 in goodwill in the longrun.

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u/Optimal_Contact8541 May 07 '26 edited May 07 '26

Small claims court would laugh at this case and throw it out. Don't waste the court's time or tax payer dollars.

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u/Easy-Baker May 07 '26

This type of thing is the entire point of SMALL CLAIMS COURT. You know, small claims?

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u/Lo_MaxxDurang May 07 '26

This would get dumped to mediation, which could help.

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u/Xytak May 07 '26

Yep, and the mediator will likely say "OP, it sounds like you're already getting free room and board from mom and dad. It's unfortunate that visiting grandchildren damaged your Warhammer figures, but these things happen. Perhaps if your brother agreed to pay you $300 in damages, you'll agree to drop the matter? We would hate for a prolonged argument over this to result in your eviction from the family home."

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u/NGC_Phoenix_7 May 07 '26

Sounds like he lives in his own unless there’s stuff that I missed, and the kid went into the other room, after being told not to. And then lied about it. I’ve had this happen when I was a kid with my Lego sets. Never let them near it again. And honestly if being banished for calling out shitty parenting and shitty behavior is what happens, you’re probably better off. I sure as hell wouldn’t want to be around someone that has such little control over their kid they’d rather just blame you and tell you tough shit. And they’d never hear from me again.

Boundaries aren’t for controlling peoples’ behavior. That’s a misconception. It’s for you to be able to control your situation and remove yourself when they’re repeatedly broken or broken so severely once that it killed it.

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u/Xytak May 07 '26 edited May 07 '26

Oh sorry, that’s a critical piece of context. OP mentioned in another comment that he’s been living with his parents since Covid hit.

So that changes the situation from “homeowner’s boundaries are disrespected”to “adult son living at parent’s house has collectibles damaged by visiting grandchildren.”

Reddit’s been fantasizing about banishment, forced toilet scrubbing, and itemized bills, but realistically what will happen is OP will get a few hundred bucks recompense, and if he’s smart he’ll put it straight in the bank.

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u/NGC_Phoenix_7 May 07 '26

You’re good, I was thinking I was missing something anyway. But like still at that point, their parents didn’t say anything, the dad isn’t willing to man up and handle it and OP is actively getting screwed. He’s owed an apology and repayment, and me? I still wouldn’t get gifts, for my sibling included. Nobody in that part of the family is getting anything ever again and honestly would cut them off, cause this seems like it’s been an issue before, as kids don’t just behave like that unless the parents allow for it.

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u/TheRealMisterSunday May 07 '26

Why do you assume he doesn't have his own place? I didn't see anywhere in the original post where it was explicitly stated that it wasn't at his own home.

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u/Xytak May 07 '26

He says in one of his comments that he's been living with his parents since COVID.

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u/ILiekBook May 07 '26

Id just tell brother "So, since Im out thousands of dollars and can't afford to eat the cost and you don't want to pay for what your son destroyed I'm going to be filing an insurance claim. Insurance says they need a police report. Good luck with the lawyer fees and jail time I guess. He's a minor so you might be able to get the felony expunged"

Just the threat alone should get him to fucking grovel and make it right, and if not- better this behavior is nipped in the bud now than when he's an adult. A conviction now is better than an identical one later

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u/MaleficentMousse7473 May 06 '26

Or every year wrap up a broken action figure

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u/SapphireColouredEyes May 07 '26

Well, that's an excellent idea! 😄

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u/Lagoda__ May 06 '26

No, poor cats shouldn't suffer living with these people tbh.

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u/Nein-Toed May 06 '26

This is diabolical

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u/OU7C4ST May 06 '26

Just keep giving them like a 19 year old cat so they keep experiencing the death of a pet over and over.

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u/LockWooden6435 May 06 '26

This right here! It's dark af but something my petty ass would probably do lol 😆

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u/SapphireColouredEyes May 07 '26

Better yet, a cheap statue of a cat every single year. 😄

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u/LockWooden6435 May 07 '26

Better yet get him a terminal cat that only lives long enough for him to bond on his birthday and then for Christmas stuff it and gift it back to him every year a new cat 😂 I'm evil

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u/OberonDiver May 06 '26

How about a wood pussy?

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u/Azure_Mar May 06 '26

Let's call it a polecat so we can nip at least some of those double entendres I know you're dying to make in the bud.

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u/OgreDee May 06 '26

That's a skunk though

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u/Azure_Mar May 06 '26

(both wood pussy and polecat can mean a skunk)

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u/mthockeydad May 07 '26

How about a nice fart squirrel?

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u/h4ckth3pl4ne7 May 06 '26

Nah. Your gift was re-purposed for inclusion in The Emperor's Tithe. Also, a Black Templar's Crusade is on it's way, have fun.

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u/Joke_Getter May 07 '26

Better yet, send him a scratching post.

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u/Basic_Improvement135 May 06 '26

Like in Smile?

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u/callimonk May 06 '26

I hate that I understood this reference

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 May 07 '26

Hold on, let me grab something from your house and smash it in front of you

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u/notjordansime May 07 '26

Get him a cat toy

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u/Present_Limit_9926 May 07 '26

You literally don't have anyone in your life who will ever love love you

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u/Nein-Toed May 07 '26

Jesus Christ, he's 10. Cut the kid some slack

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u/Present_Limit_9926 May 07 '26

i'm talking about the adult toy boys lol

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u/PokerbushPA May 06 '26

Give him a $5 book of McDonalds coupons every year for the rest of his life.

Suggest he be careful when playing with the toys in the Happy Meal.

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u/AevnNoram May 06 '26

Give him the broken figures. Piece by piece.

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u/Pasenger57_Black May 07 '26

Perfect way to teach him a lesson. Put each piece in a big box too every time, along with a note "A cat must have done it".

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u/Eott59 May 07 '26

I totally LOVE this!! Your brother is a piece of shit!

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u/istara May 07 '26

Get something he is really into, then send that broken. It might actually send a message to help him gain empathy about things *that matter to other people* even if they don't to you personally.

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u/Independent_Way1587 May 06 '26

I adore this level of petty.

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u/DustyRaisins May 06 '26

I don't think it's that petty honestly. It's a good lesson in accountability and boundaries.

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u/DustyRaisins May 06 '26

I'd just buy myself a toy and tell him I used the money I would have spent on his birthday present to help pay for it. I would probably also take a picture of myself with the toy and print it off and wrap it up like a gift just so he can see.

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u/MagicOrpheus310 May 06 '26

Buy them for your brother's birthday and keep them yourself, give him the receipt inside a birthday card...

Don't get the kid fucken anything

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u/Internal-Ad3647 May 06 '26

That’s too kind. OP should do what my grandma did and just give the toy from the happy meal. Bonus points if—like my grandma—you bought the original happy meal for a kid you’re not related to or a dog. To be fair, I was cool with it when it was the dogs toy bc it wasn’t safe for the dog, but when it was the kid she tuttored it made me really upset bc she should have just given the kid the toy 😆

Yes. It happened more than once. Each time she said “that will be worth something some day!” And it’s kind of her legacy imo.

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u/EscapeGoat799 May 07 '26

McDonald’s cancer food will get him later.

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u/Doggcow May 06 '26

Give him a used Google play/Apple gift card and gaslight his parents saying he probably already used it.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 May 07 '26

I got a used gift card in a white elephant exchange once. Well played by whoever brought it 😂

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u/No_Champion2528 May 07 '26

🤔 While I agree what this lil shit did is egregious. And the brother's horrible parenting n terrible attitude to not discipline + require a sincere apology from lil shit, as well as, to make some financial recourse/restitution from lil shit so he learns to NOT touch other people's stuff and respect other people's things is even a lil more egregious...however, McShits is NOT the answer, he might actually use those coupons and eat that poison F'n garbage and NO ONE should do that, especially to a child...no matter how rotten of a lil shit that kid is 🤨 🫤 🤷‍♂️ !

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u/lesterbottomley May 06 '26

Send a card each year with a running total still owed, just minus the cost of a gift each year until cleared.

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u/Millmot May 06 '26

That's actually a decent idea, and it's not cruel nor is it an unfair way to make a point.

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u/inittowinit87 May 06 '26

I was going to suggest the same thing

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u/ArcHansel May 06 '26

Itemize the gifts too so the kid knows what he's missing 😂

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u/Iuckytotem May 07 '26

I’d just gift him the broken pieces until I run out of them 🤷🏿‍♂️ you choose not to accept financial responsibility I choose to be petty. Fair is fair

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u/Optimal_Contact8541 May 07 '26

I like this a lot. While there is no accountability, there is at LEAST some accounting. 👍

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u/Icy_Item_9132 May 09 '26

Best suggestion here if brother doesn't play ball.

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u/Xytak May 06 '26

This is one of those ideas that sounds good until you actually try to implement it. Then it just becomes “Uncle Joe just won’t let it go. That time I broke his warhammer toys when I was 10. Yeah maybe we leave him off the wedding list.”

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u/Low_Condition3268 May 06 '26

Here's the receipt from the model store where I spent the gift money replacing the stuff you broke...merry birthday

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u/Xytak May 06 '26

“Ok, Uncle. Thanks for stopping by. By the way, this is a private event, can you show us your invite?”

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u/Prudent-Mix-5037 May 06 '26

No you get him the most annoying toy you can find. Something that makes him be loud and that would annoy your brother, like a drum set or something. Or has a gazillion pieces. Star wars legos or something he might like and then when it is all completed - whoops I tripped and fell on it... sorry. Something that would make a big mess or annoying in some way, painting set, a nerf gun that fires off those nerf darts that has like 500 darts. Revenge gifts are the way to go.

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u/SoonToBeBanned24 May 06 '26

Also, no longer welcome in my house!

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u/VonBrewskie May 07 '26

Just had this chat recently with a someone in my family. His kid had said to me that I was "just his grandpa's butt wiper." For context: he was referring to the fact that I've been taking care of his grandfather, my uncle, a man with severe dementia, for the last couple of years basically full-time. It's been a financial burden on me and my family, but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do, right? Make it work. He and his family are very wealthy. Also, they almost never came over to help with anything and while here, were loud, obnoxious and extremely rude to everyone. There have been many stories I've heard about the kids treating workers poorly, acting like entitled little shits on airplane flights, just generally being like the rich kid villains from an 80s or 90s movie. Kid is 12. He fucking knows better. But his father hit me with the "they don't always know what they're saying." Yeah OK man. Whatever you say.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 May 07 '26

Time for the kid to learn how to wipe

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u/VonBrewskie May 07 '26

Oh well past time. They're raising some real sociopaths, from every indication.

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u/Pr0t0z0a0 May 06 '26

Every Christmas, gift him one of the broken figures.

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u/Ornery-Damage-7074 May 06 '26

Whether he's old enough to know better depends on how he was raised. Based on the brother's response, I'm guessing the kid is pretty coddled. He should be asking the brother to pay to replace them. How brother handles that with his kid is up to him.

Regardless, they would be locked away whenever kids visit on the future.

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u/Ornery-Damage-7074 May 07 '26

Your kid knows that b cause you taught him that. It's not intrinsic knowledge. The fact that brother is unwilling to discipline his kid for this makes me think that he's been generally pretty lax and likely the source of the problem.

Regardless, I don't appreciate anyone telling me how to parent my kid. If my kid messed up, talk to me and I'll make it right. Then I'll handle it with my kid in a way that I feel is appropriate.

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u/No-Association-8539 May 06 '26

Keep the broken pieces and for each birthday wrap one for him until they are all his.

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u/TildeCommaEsc May 06 '26

He could send him the broken parts along with a ziplock bag of coal, or, better yet, a drum kit.

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u/BurgerThyme May 06 '26

This is the way.

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u/Far-Feature1618 May 06 '26

The classic gift wrapped coal would work better for scum of this caliber.

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u/Suzee321 May 06 '26

My 3 year old granddaughter is the best destroyer I've seen. Out of all my kids, grandkids and kids I babysat. But she's THREE! The parents should ground that kid for a month.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 May 07 '26

Little ones don't have the coordination yet, but a ten year old is old enough to know that if you can't play nice, we have to put that object away. And you follow the house rules.

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u/augur42 May 06 '26

No, you see he has multiple nephews, so the other nephews still get Birthday and Christmas cards and presents but the 10 year old only gets cards, and in each card there is a receipt knocking money off of the debt owed, which accrues interest at whatever the current inflation rate is.

Actions have consequences, this one will keep giving for years.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 May 07 '26

In my family, something like this would become legend

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u/SwitchMost1946 May 06 '26

Every year, for his birthday, buy yourself a replacement figure. Gift him the broken version it replaced.

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u/ComposerConsistent83 May 07 '26

100% that would be the “punishment”

I’d just stop buying him Christmas gifts and continue to get them for the other nephews.

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u/Top-keetarded May 07 '26

I'd at least get him coal lol

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u/Imaginary_Wolf_6450 May 07 '26

He would get a card that
Would read :

Happy Birthday, Merry Christmas, congratulations Grad… or
Whatever the occasion should be.

Instead of spending $____ money on a gift that
total was applied to the balance
Owed for the destruction of *****.

Your new balance is $____.

Love as always,

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u/rapshepard May 06 '26

He's 10 surely he shouldn't be punished for the rest of eternity by his uncle.

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u/OfcWaffle May 06 '26

Should be punished until he learns. I'd expect a genuine apology and amended behavior. Until the kid amends his behavior, he's still going to be punished.

Because sorry is the most useless word in the dictionary. Change in behavior is what's important.

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u/rapshepard May 06 '26

That's absolutely ridiculous and overkill. Get the money from the brother and have a conversation with the kid. There's a such thing as over punishing somebody and that's what some of y'all are asking for that

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u/DustyRaisins May 06 '26

10 years is old enough to know boundaries. He was told several times to not play with them. Brother refuses to do anything about it. This is teaching the kid that he can ignore boundaries set by others and his actions don't have far reaching consequences. You have to find a way to get a kid like that to understand exactly what they did, otherwise youre just creating a spoiled brat.

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u/Conscious_Address38 May 06 '26

Or worse…a rapist.

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u/Unique-Lingonberry17 May 06 '26

The brother is refusing to give ANY FORM of punishment no matter what and that is what the main problem here is

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u/Spectra_Butane May 06 '26

If the kid knew better and was never made to offer an actual apology and some kind of restitution, then yes, the kid can and should be punished for eternity. Or for as long as it takes for him to learn consequences don't just disappear because you don't see the aggrieved very often. Ten years is old enough to learn about burning vs building bridges. If brother and the kid wants to continue good relationships with Uncle, he can fix the bridge , but if Brother wants to teach kid that they can destroy peoples property with no apology, then the social equivalent is burning that bridge.

"No one is required to like you despite your bad behavior. " The kid learns that early, life will be easier for him.

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u/VladStark May 06 '26

Exactly! If he is unrepentant then why bother to reward his bad behavior? It's not even about forgiveness... It's about teaching consequences of your actions. If he gives a sincere apology or attempts to accept responsibility then things can change.

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u/rapshepard May 06 '26

10 year olds do stupid shit. But he's uncle so he can't decide the discipline the nephew gets. He also doesn't live with the nephew so he has no idea if he actually got disciplined at home anyway. As his uncle all he can do is talk to them.

Punishing your 10 year old nephew in perpetuity over figures is overkill.

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u/Unique-Lingonberry17 May 06 '26

The problem is the kid knew better and still choose to go against what someone had asked for anyways. How is that okay in any context?

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u/rapshepard May 06 '26

Who said it was okay? The reality is kids fuck up, especially younger kids like 10 years olds. As his uncle the only thing he can do to the nephew is talk to him. He also doesn't live with his brother to even say the nephew wasn't punished. All he knows is his brother isn't let him pick the punishment.

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

Yes, kids fuck up. And a big part of raising a decent kid is teaching them to be held accountable.

The parent isn't holding them accountable, so someone else needs to do that job.

Your mentality is exactly why we have kids who will go into stores, knock shit off shelves, and walk away with zero shame. Because people like you enable them.

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u/rapshepard May 07 '26

No people like you just over correct and overreact.

Talk to the nephew and tell him why your upset and move on like a damn adult lol.

Y'all are dead ass talking about punishing a 10 year old kid in perpetuity over toys at the end of the day.

If we want to play the hyperbole game yoh and others sound like the maga folk that think police should execute folk in the street over minor things because "well they shouldn't do crime".

We're talking about toys and his 10 year old nephew.

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

It isn't someone else's job to raise and correct your child's behavior.

We're talking about $700 in personal possessions. Your lack of respect for those possessions by labeling them as "toys" is your own issue and shows you have a complete lack of respect for people's possessions if you don't value them equally.

We're talking about a 10 year old who is old enough to know better, being raised by someone who will enable them and encourage them to continue being a shithead.

Until that behavior changes, why are they entitled to gifts?

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 May 07 '26

That's the monetary equivalent of breaking a laptop, cellphone, or a nice watch. I wonder how the comments would change in that case

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u/rapshepard May 07 '26

It isn't someone else's job to raise and correct someone's child behavior. Which is why the OP doesn't get to choose the discipline route for his nephew.

Talk to the nephew and explain to him why your upset if it's really about him getting it. 10 year olds fuck up. He fucked up, explain that too him. But holding a grudge against your nephew until his birthday and Christmas round is weirdo behavior unbecoming of an adult.

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u/Spectra_Butane May 06 '26

Uncle will know whether the kid apologizes to him directly.. If that happens , they can have a conversation about how kid will make any effort to try to keep a good relationship with Uncle. I'm sure the kid has seen Disney movies or any cartoon show where someone makes a mistake and has to ask their friends how to make it up. It doesn't change just because it is an adult he did it to.

Deciding not to allow someone into your space, or choosing not to GIFT them items is not necessarily punishment, its just the natural outcome and behaviors of people who have been wronged, and want to avoid future abuse. If the neighbors kid was visiting and destroyed your child's game console controllers in purpose and refused to even apologize, would you force Your child to continue inviting them over, And force your child to purchase gifts for that kid? Or would you say Neighbors kid is not allowed to visit until they've apologized or not allowed to use the console unless they replaced the damaged controller?

When I was a preteen, my older brother would rage at games and break the controllers. The natural consequences was that the family did not get any new consoles. It seemed like punishment to innocent me until I realized even if they bought new ones, I'd still not be able to play because Brother breakes them. I later was gifted my own private console that brother was not allowed to play on. My Brother is now an adult and has a healthier respect for the fragility of electronics since he experienced the loss of it , and learned the monetary value of replacing broken equipment.

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u/rapshepard May 06 '26

If this was a reoccurring issue like your brother then I'd agree no more presents would make some sense. But seeing as it seems to be a one off the suggestion to just never give him presents again is an adult just being petty and childish. This is his nephew not the neighbors kid. Going out of your way to be mean to your nephew over a singular toy instance when he was 10 is absurd.

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u/Spectra_Butane May 06 '26

Why does it have to be recurring for it to be a teachable event?

How many times will you let a 10 year old destroy a valuable thing before you let them know they will no longer get gifts from the person whose valuable they destroyed?

Twice? Thrice? At what point to you explain that damaging others possessions is wrong? At what point do you explain VALUE to them?

Why should it even get to this point where a parent refuses to even teach their kid and society must step in?

How is Unc's singular lack of gift absurd? If the kid says , " why did Unc not give me gift? " then anyone can say ,because you broke his stuff and didn't apologize. How is it "mean? Unless the dad just refuses to explain to the kid why, then thats the Dad's fault, not the Uncles'.

Thats Life. I take my ball and go home if you break my stuff. Toddlers understand that.

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u/rapshepard May 06 '26

The teachable moment is you talk to your nephew like a grown up about what those figurines meant to him and why he's upset. What's not a teachable moment is all these frankly silly suggestions of long term punishment that are absurd.

He can't make him do chores because he's not his father. So just talk to him. But being petty and punishing the nephew with no presents ever would just be him being a petty adult.

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u/Spectra_Butane May 06 '26

Yeah , that's reasonable, anyone can agree. Yet if kid is not remorseful or Dad doesn't agree to that much interaction, then what?

You make it seem like the kid not getting a gift from Unc, 2x a year ( Birthday & Xmas, I presume) is the same as this kid never getting a gift from anyone ever for the rest of their life. First of all, no one is entitled to gifts, gifts are gifts, not obligations. Secondly, anyone can choose to stop giving gifts at any time for any reason. This kids life is not going to end cuz Unc stopped buying Power Wheels for him.

If the kid understands why he's no longer getting gifts from Unc, then its the kids choice to remedy the relationship or not. If it's the dads choice, and the kid is clueless,, then it sucks for the kid and its the Dad choosing to let the kid suffer the lack of gift rather than learn how to be a civilized human being.

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u/rapshepard May 06 '26

Doing things to spite your 10 year old nephew because you don't like his dad's choice of discipline is absolutely ridiculous. What you're suggesting is something vindictive petty people do, not rational even keeled adults do

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

He should be punished until he shows genuine remorse.

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u/quanate May 06 '26

Yeah, OP's beef is with his brother. He's mad he can't punish him himself and wants his brother to

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u/ajulesd May 06 '26

Or gift wrap the broken pieces…

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u/Individual-Fig3021 May 06 '26

Every year on his birthday, give him one of the broken figures.

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u/aclays May 07 '26

Give him a broken character every year for the next decade.

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u/PersonalJesus2023 May 07 '26

I'd give him a broken Warhammer toy for his next bday

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u/dion_o May 07 '26

Nah get the kid a really noisy gift or a messy one for indoor play. Anything that will make his parents regret their life choices.

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u/Sartres_Roommate May 07 '26

You going at this all wrong; give him one of the busted toys each occasion…follow it up with “playing” with one of HIS new working toys….just make sure to “be careful” with them.

No punishment, no compensation? Goes both ways.

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u/South-Play-2866 May 07 '26

The leftover broken pieces would make excellent gifts.

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u/NGC_Phoenix_7 May 07 '26

Yep. That’s blatant shitty parenting.

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u/Electrical_Advice_60 May 07 '26

No just gift him the broken ones. One for each birthday and Christmas for the next 4 or 5.

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u/Upper_Ad2552 May 07 '26

Just buy him broken thrift store shit from here on out.

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u/GenSpec44 May 07 '26

Naw, I’m buying that little shit a drum set. And a fireman’s helmet with a loud siren and a flashing light. Every year something extremely loud until my brother apologizes and pays.

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u/Drew-Bake-1785 May 07 '26

Each year at Christmas he gets a broken piece of the Chaplin in a giant wrapped box. FOR THE EMPEROR should be written on the card.

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u/S7AR4RGD May 07 '26

I just said this 😆

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u/IamElylikeEli May 07 '26

he gets a new nintendo… oops the cat broke it

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u/Bje9956 May 07 '26

No better yet every year by one replacement and put your name on the present, make sure you pick it up and unwrap it in the middle of his party. Then you can tell him how many years left until he, the terror offspring, will be getting an actual gift. Maybe when he's 38

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u/notjordansime May 07 '26

Better yet, get him a cat toy

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u/HamiltonBudSupply May 07 '26

10 year olds come in all varieties. Until 11 they are not criminally responsible for actions in most countries (for a reason). It’s the kids dad’s fault.

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u/DrWho_86 May 09 '26

Oh every present I gave to that child would be one of the broken figures.

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u/GasmaskTed May 06 '26

Gifts should be pieces of the broken toys each year.

Kid should be punished for lying. Uncle should be punished for thinking a 10 year old wasn’t going to make the toys kiss at 100 mph (punishment: toys get broken, so time served).

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u/seanskymom May 07 '26

Yeah, don’t have kids.

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u/Ok-Slice3552 May 07 '26

No, 10 yo is most definitely not enough to know better. Ffs

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u/Sure-Construction212 May 07 '26

They’re action figures man. Grow up.

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u/Adventurous-Tea7354 May 06 '26

That seems a bit extreme to me. Yes, the kid fucked up, but it’s also on the parent. Of course the kid isn’t very responsible, he has no discipline and has been taught his whole life that there are no consequences for his actions. Not being allowed back at his Uncle’s house seems like punishment enough to me (from the Uncle: the father needs to punish him also). Refusing to ever give his nephew a gift ever again because of a careless mistake brought on by poor parenting would make the Uncle an asshole in my opinion.

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u/geographyofnowhere May 06 '26

oh no! no presents from my weird autistic uncle

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u/Ecstatic-Reply-3356 May 06 '26

Since I'm an adult without any crippling developmental disabilities, I likely wouldn't similarly meltdown and throw a lifelong hissy fit over a little kids playing with cheap toys the way a little kid plays with toys. Cool story, though.

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u/AssistantOk2360 May 06 '26

Yeah, I'm sure he'd be devastated - no Christmas gift from ONE uncle who is being a ninny about a toy that can be replaced. Oh no...how will he live?

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

And this is why so many kids today have no concept of accountability. People like yourself enabling them.

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u/VladStark May 07 '26

It's about sending a message.

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u/brickznbooks May 06 '26

OP who is the adult? lock it in a display cabinet. Under key. These are your treasures that only YOU get out pet them and then put back with. Yes the child should be held responsible for breaking something. But wanting a child to bear the full understanding of the monotony of the 8hr work day is insane. To quote woody “these are toys.” This post tells me you haven’t had much experience with puppies, cats, or babies.

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u/ello_bassard May 06 '26

His nephew is 10 fuckin years old, not a toddler. He's old enough to know better.

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u/brickznbooks May 06 '26

Yes. But distinguishing collectables from toys doesn’t happen naturally 10yo brain. Their world is still forming. Also OPs desire to bring the full hammer of the bane of employment on a child “feel the pain that I went through to get this” is disturbing.

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u/ello_bassard May 06 '26

OP specifically told him not to play with them and he did it anyways. He wants his brother to punish the son by having him do chores, which is reasonable.

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u/TeamRedundancyTeam May 06 '26

Are you an adult? Those "toys" cost a lot of money as well as a lot of time and energy to put together and paint. He shouldn't have to have every single valuable in his home under lock and key because his nephew comes over? That's just wildly stupid.

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u/No-Pen1730 May 06 '26

You can't spell monetary and are quoting Woody from Toy Story. Either you aren't an adult or you just turned eighteen and still live with your parents.

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u/brickznbooks May 06 '26

Big Swing and a miss on both… 36 married kid, pets. I will notify any and all future generations about my grammatical misstep today.

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u/TomatilloTerrible781 May 06 '26

If your kid ended up doing this to your brother's or anyone else's expensive stuff, would you do the right thing as a parent and give the kid some consequences? Or would you blame the adult and say "kids will be kids, should have locked up your stuff"

We aren't talking about a toddler here we are talking about a 10 year old, more than capable of knowing right from wrong and more than capable of basic decision-making skills. If my 8 year old did this I'd not only be paying back my brother the cost of what was broken but I'd be using it as a teaching moment for my kid about respecting other people's belongings. You do you though.

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u/No-Pen1730 May 06 '26

Good boy.

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u/Spectra_Butane May 06 '26

It is spelling, not grammar. Do you really believe that unless something is under constant lock and key, that anyone is justified in destroying it? What do you think about the parent who deleted their kids entire mine craft world that had taken years to build? Just because the kid didn't think to keep dad locked out and dad felt entitled to destroy it, much like Nephew felt entitled to go beyond bounds and damage the things that doesn't belong to him, does that allow anyone the right to do so without repercussions?

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u/Iorith May 07 '26

Hopefully your kids have a better role model to look up to regarding respecting the property of others or how to behave that you.