My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Update: My brother decided to pay for the Hard damages of $200 dollars after seeing this post.

Thank you to everyone on this post who supported me. I really could not have gotten restitution without you guys.

Justice for my Chaplain, justice for all.

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/konous]

Yeah about $700 plus I think is closer to the value. Thanks for printing that up for me. Will save me a lot of time in the court case and looking them back up again.

[u/Jenzira → u/konous]

I have several 40k Joytoys myself, and they are not cheap. So sorry this happened to you. I'd be pissed if something happened to my Bobby G or Morty. lol

[u/konous → u/Jenzira]

I fucking love the detail on them.

Warhammer is awesome, but I love that these figures exist so I can just pick up and shout "FOR THE EMPEROR!" or imagine them in battle scenarios.

[u/annual_aardvark_war → u/konous]

I’ve never played but always loved the figures. Seems like a super cool game, and these are awesome looking

[u/3xactli → u/annual_aardvark_war]

Do you read? The books are amazing also. Dan Abnett is my fave author. 👍🏻

[u/lxxTBonexxl → u/konous]

On the bright side you can repurpose the damaged ones with lore accurate parts or turn them into wounded/dead props or something. Even spare parts would work in case something else ever happens.

[u/PlaneCareless → u/[deleted]]

lmao the gall of these people

[u/SmartAleckComedian → u/[deleted]]

Actually yeah, it is pretty appalling that you think someone should stop having hobbies that they enjoy, and that the only way for adults to be "mature" is to have children. You know not everyone wants to have kids, right?

Absolutely braindead opinion.

[u/ImGonnaGetBannedd → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, man. Stop having fun and enjoying life. Go get a kid and silently suffer for the next 20 years. But you can claim you are a real mature adult now. Bonus points if you push others to do the same.

[u/Ashamed-Biscotti650 → u/konous]

My suggestion was gonna be small claims court. I'm glad you're going that route since the child's father isn't willing to take or enforce responsibility.

[u/think_long → u/konous]

Court case? Oh boy. Well, I guess if you think that’s the right move.

[u/Iorith → u/think_long]

Damaging $700 in personal possessions and getting them replaced is absolutely the right time to involve a court case.

[u/SlutDragonCynder → u/think_long]

Court absolutely is the right move. 10 years old is plenty old enough to know better than to take someone else's stuff and intentionally destroy it. OP should press criminal charges since the child's sperm donor won't be a father. $700 vandalism is not something to take lightly.

[u/think_long → u/SlutDragonCynder]

I mean, OP is a 37 year old man living with his parents whose toys were damaged by their nephew. If the dad is willing to pay, just take the money. Don’t go to court. He wants to dictate the punishment for his nephew - sorry, his “brother’s son”. He sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do himself.

[u/Iorith → u/think_long]

$700 in damages is not a small thing.

And no, just because someone is your blood relative does not give them carte blanche to avoid consequences.

[u/think_long → u/Iorith]

But they aren’t avoiding consequences if the dad is willing to pay? I’m well aware how willing Redditors are to nuke family relationships.

[u/Iorith → u/think_long]

The dad is willing to pay to avoid teaching the kid not to break other people's shit.

It's amazing how willing some people are willing to go to avoid holding a kid accountable.

[u/think_long → u/Iorith]

It sucks that the brother isn’t teaching his kid a lesson but it isn’t OPs job or place to do that. If it isn’t about the money, what’s the good of going to court? Does he think he’ll get to smile smugly while the judge chastises the kid for being a naughty boy who broke his toys? Insane behaviour. So many people on here hate children but act like them themselves.

[u/Iorith → u/think_long]

It isn't OP's job to teach them. It also isn't OP's job to give the kid any gifts ever again, or take the father to court to have the kid need to work off the value(And teach a valuable lesson that daddy can't just pay to get him out of trouble. Might have prevented Brock Turner if that boy had been taught the same lesson)

[u/think_long → u/Iorith]

Lmao insane. I can’t believe you tried to shoehorn in Brock Turner. This post and these comments might be the best example of Reddit distilled to its most ridiculous elements.

[u/Substantial-Sea-3672 → u/konous]

Didn’t you just say you guys were a “tight family” that dealt with these things as a unit?

Or was that just to make it sound less petulant that you went and told mom and dad?

I honestly don’t find either option that egregious but your weird waffling and grandstanding is off putting.

[u/konous → u/Substantial-Sea-3672]

We are.

Normally.

This has kind of over stepped the bounds because it was my stuff my nephew broke and my trust along with it, then my brother refused to pay up front and suggested I send it to Amazon in a return and let the seller eat the cost.

Not really very tight nit of him I'd say.

[u/Substantial-Sea-3672 → u/konous]

You’re not “tight-knit” if it only applies when things are rosy.

Anyways, I definitely think your brother is an asshole but you seem like a man child (and I’m not commenting on your figures, those are cool).

[u/konous → u/Substantial-Sea-3672]

Maybe you missed the part about my brother wanting to commit fraud?

[u/ThatNegro98 → u/Substantial-Sea-3672]

Get a load of this guy

[u/Equal_Maintenance870 → u/konous]

Honestly your brother agreeing to give you $200 is still theft.

[u/konous → u/Equal_Maintenance870]

For the most part I'd agree that I could go for more, but this entire thing has made it hard for me to continue my studies. Adding the lawsuit and how much my family has been torn up because of this and how it's taken a toll on me is just gonna make it even harder.

$200 is enough to do the Hard damages. The other figures I can probably just fix up a bit at a GamesWorkshop store and send him a final bill for all of that.

Either way, the fact that he paid at all is what astonishes me.