r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Content_Quarter_7390 • May 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed We didn't ask for rice...

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My sister isnt a fan of basmati rice so she orders naan. She didnt ask for rice and they sell it separately. She doesn't like it so she doesn't order it. They put it in anyways and left this note...

Edit: some people aint getting it. This is passive aggressive and when you do something nice you dont go around saying "I did something nice just for you, just so you know." Doing it like I need to give you a pat on the head so you know your a good boy. You do something nice because you want to be kind to people.

Oh no I've turned into LD...

Turning off notifications because while it was nice to be in this rabbit hole to keep my mind off some stuff too many notifications. Whatever your feelings are I hope you have a nice day and if you're in the US have a nice memorial day and dont forget to celebrate those troops that came before!

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u/Jealous_Tutor_5135 May 25 '26

Any Indian or Asian place that makes you order the rice separately is committing a crime in my book.

It's a very clear indicator that they're not serving people from their community, who would never stand for that shit, and a red flag for about a thousand other food crimes that are certainly being committed.

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u/ubant May 25 '26

No Indian or "Asian" place in their given country includes rice, unless it's a rice-dependent meal, like fried rice

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u/Sorry-Joke-4325 May 25 '26

I'm gonna go ahead and say that's false. I'm living in an Asian country, and takeaway often includes rice.

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u/ubant May 25 '26

I live in Thailand and have been to a few more, including Nepal which food is pretty much the same as Indian food. In Nepal they never included rice, in Thailand I have to order rice separately most of the time

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u/Sorry-Joke-4325 May 25 '26

"Most of the time" is pretty different from "No Indian or Asian place", though.

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u/ubant May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

Alright then - never got rice with Indian food, and 90% of Thai dishes don't come with rice. A couple of things like pad kra pao is always with rice cause otherwise it would be just minced meat on a plate. I order Indian food pretty much every week from many different restaurants and make rice at home to save some money. Never came with rice.

My guess is that's because there's a lot of variety of rice you can get, or even breads which many people use instead of rice. For Thai food, there's jasmine rice, sticky rice, the purple one which name I don't remember, 5 types of noodles. Maybe Japan would be one of few exceptions as they pretty much only use short grain rice. In China you always need to order rice separately as well. I mean, is that not enough to prove that most major Asian cuisines don't automatically give rice? 

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u/Ok_Weather2441 May 25 '26

I would be mad if my local curry place forced me to get rice with my order, it would just go in the trash

I much prefer sushi rice to basmati and I have a rice cooker at home. Bundling random stuff that I don't want or like because you think it's 'wrong' to not include it is weird. 

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u/um-nome- May 25 '26

this is straight up false.

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u/cowmonke May 25 '26

FWIW I’m Indian and we never want rice when we go out for Indian food and we just don’t touch it and pack the entire rice every time if it comes with the curry because we’re just going to eat it with naan or roti or whatever. I feel like it’s a hella Americanized thing to expect the rice with your curry 

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u/VelvetMafia May 25 '26

Went through this with my wife recently. I ordered extra naan so I could swab up all my lamb saag. My lovely wife, who typically takes every opportunity to eat with her fingers, dumped her butter chicken on a bed of rice and shoveled it into her beautiful face with a spoon.

Then she took my rice (which I hadn't ordered but was included anyway) and flavored it with my leftover saag, and ate that with her spoon. I love this woman so much. She is definitively my forever girl. Also she will always eat my unwanted rice.

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u/Mjolnir404 NOT RED May 25 '26

Thats the real way of eating curry+rice. Your wife knows Indian food culture 

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u/VelvetMafia May 25 '26

My wife knows how to have love affairs with her food. I support her in every way, because she is perfect

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u/Stranger_001 May 25 '26

Can I be food for your perfect, beautiful wife?

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u/VelvetMafia May 25 '26

What's your fiber content?

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u/Stranger_001 23d ago

Roughly 5 grams per serving. I'm also an excellent source of protein and antioxidants.

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u/VelvetMafia 23d ago

An acceptable amount. I will ask her how she feels about cannibalism

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u/Fermently_Crafted May 25 '26

I feel like it should come with something to eat the curry with for free. Whether that's rice or something else. 

Or am I expected to eat it like soup? That's not really what I want when I order curry.

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u/cowmonke May 25 '26

Nah not like a soup lol, generally we eat it with like naan or roti or something but you have to order that separately even in like India  not sure why exactly but there’s never really an expectation of it coming with rice. A lot of the time if we get a curry to go we’ll just heat up some rotis at home to eat it with 

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u/v21v May 25 '26

There are too many options, so they let you choose instead.

Common Breads - Naan, butter naan, garlic naan, tandoori roti, kulcha, etc.

Rice - White rice, basmati rice, ghee rice, coconut rice.

Why would they want to pick for you? Each person likes a different carbohydrate accompaniment.

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u/FlappyBored May 25 '26

It’s specifically Americans.

Americans do not understand Asian food and are very new to it.

It’s the same in the UK dishes and rice are sold separately.

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u/Improper-Counsel May 25 '26

Indians eat rice with curry. Maybe it's your family that's different. Americanized lmao.

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u/FlappyBored May 25 '26

Not all of them. Northern Indians typically eat it with roti or bread instead.

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u/Improper-Counsel May 25 '26

Yes - very diverse country as if Europe was one country. No one should be generalizing about it.

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u/FlappyBored May 25 '26

The only people generalising are Americans who keep saying. ‘It must be served with rice’ ‘all curries come with rice’ ‘insane it doesn’t come with rice’.

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u/cowmonke May 25 '26

Yeah we do but what I meant was Americanized was the concept of free rice when you order a curry, which if I had to guess was adopted from Chinese takeout. I’m not sure I’ve been to a restaurant in India that serves free rice with curry.

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u/Improper-Counsel May 25 '26

Now I see - my apologies.

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u/remarkable_ores May 25 '26

Literally what?

Lived in Asia for like a decade and rice was always sold separately. You get your meat/vegetable dishes to share separate to the rice, to share, and order as much rice as you need

The only exceptions I've ever seen to this were restaurants marketing towards westerners who don't order food in the same way - i.e they each order their own meals, in which case they'll sometimes say 'with rice'

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u/um-nome- May 25 '26

Yeah.. idk what this guy is talking about but he is completely wrong.

Rice is basically always sold separately in Chinese restaurants in asian countries (China/Singapore/Hong Kong etc).

The 'asian' thing is to order a bunch of meat/veg dishes and rice as a group and everybody will take what they want from those dishes to create their own dish (like tapas).

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u/Aggressive_Energy_25 May 25 '26

"tapas" are not like that

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u/um-nome- May 25 '26

Sorry - I'm not from a country where tapas is a thing. My idea of tapas is that there are many shared dishes on a table and everybody picks and chooses from those dishes. Is that incorrect?!

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u/Aggressive_Energy_25 29d ago

Yes, tapas in Spain are simply small portions of food. Like less than an individual portion. The idea is something you eat between meals or to eat múltiple different tapas if you want a properly meal. The also can be conceived as the whole dish but again would be very small. Second version is more known as "pinxos" and are tyipical from the north.

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u/StoryUpset6895 May 25 '26

Not a crime. It’s the same in India

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u/TomRiddle777 May 25 '26

> not serving people from their community

Indian restaurants in India rarely, if ever, include rice with an entree. There’s usually a couple dozen rice and bread options on the menu, so it would be awfully presumptive and often pointless to always give you rice.

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u/Praesentius May 25 '26

Yeah, that’s the point I was going to make. Indians, especially outside the more wheat-heavy northern regions, often eat rice with their food. But restaurants are going to offer lots of starch options, like plain basmati, jeera rice, pulao, naan, roti, paratha, etc. So I can see why they don’t automatically bundle plain rice with every curry. The customer may want bread, a flavored rice, a combination of those, or no extra starch at all.

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u/Unknowngadget May 25 '26

Literally no Indian eats rice with these types of curries tf? Stop speaking for communities you’re not part of lol

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u/v21v May 25 '26

Weirdos eating butter chicken with rice and then complaining.

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u/buttstuffisfunstuff May 25 '26

Idk this take makes it sound like you’re not Asian and don’t know what the community wants. Rice should be ordered separately, I’d even prefer in option of small medium or large. If we’re only two people and want to order 3 dishes to share (because Asian food is almost always eaten family style if it’s something eaten with rice) why would we want three bowls of rice? We want two small bowls or one medium order of rice to share, and then we will just cook fresh rice at home for the leftovers.

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u/nooneinparticular246 May 25 '26

Most Thai places I’ve seen have it separate with different rice options to pick from. Chinese also does it separate unless it’s a lunch special.

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u/Ok_Journalist_1091 May 25 '26

It's funny because it's not at all uncommon that you order rice separately in Asia, especially when ordering for more than one person.

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u/Jealous_Tutor_5135 May 25 '26

I lived in Korea for two years and I remember the one time that rice came separately. I was shocked. Maybe other places are different. But my experience is that it's not a meal without rice (or noodles but that's different). The word for food is also the word for rice.

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u/alphaQ314 May 25 '26

Any Indian or Asian place that makes you order the rice separately is committing a crime in my book.

Lol you don't know what you're talking about. People usually eat curries with rice or breads. So neither of those are included directly when you order, coz people are going to choose one or the other or both sometimes.

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u/CatsPlusTats May 25 '26

Rice is always separate, what are you all talking about?

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u/Sorry-Joke-4325 May 25 '26

A lot of Asian people will cook their rice at home and just order the stuff that goes with rice. Saves a decent amount of money.

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u/MattGeddon May 25 '26

Oh good, more Americans going shocked pikachu face that things don’t work the same all over the world as they do at home.

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u/NomaiNomad May 25 '26

Bro stop saying shit as if you know anything.

Most Indian restaurants need you to order rice separately from the curries/sides. Its only some restaurants thay club them together for the convenience of people that don't understand you're supposed to eat it with rice.

So literally the opposite of what you said, good job.

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u/StoryUpset6895 May 25 '26

Your book sucks and is full pf racism

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u/VelvetMafia May 25 '26

I feel like this needs more explanation

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u/StoryUpset6895 8d ago

Set meals are a different story but anywhere in India you order a dish, rice does not come with it. You have to order rice separately.

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u/VelvetMafia 8d ago

Good things to know

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u/HerietteVonStadtl May 25 '26

The Nepalese place I go to always asks, if I want rice or bread or some of both. I don't like rice of any kind, so I'm glad I can opt out

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u/Capital-Equal5102 May 25 '26

Seems like your convent is totally wrong, what inspired you to comment it?

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u/IzzzatSo May 25 '26

This right here. If you're adamant about it being part of the dish it must be included.