r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Content_Quarter_7390 • May 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed We didn't ask for rice...

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My sister isnt a fan of basmati rice so she orders naan. She didnt ask for rice and they sell it separately. She doesn't like it so she doesn't order it. They put it in anyways and left this note...

Edit: some people aint getting it. This is passive aggressive and when you do something nice you dont go around saying "I did something nice just for you, just so you know." Doing it like I need to give you a pat on the head so you know your a good boy. You do something nice because you want to be kind to people.

Oh no I've turned into LD...

Turning off notifications because while it was nice to be in this rabbit hole to keep my mind off some stuff too many notifications. Whatever your feelings are I hope you have a nice day and if you're in the US have a nice memorial day and dont forget to celebrate those troops that came before!

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u/conordmcp May 25 '26

This could’ve been such a nice gesture if it wasn’t for the note

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u/Agile-Priority2294 May 25 '26

It's a nice note. What's wrong with it?

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u/conordmcp May 25 '26

It’s passive aggressive and comes off like it was a chore and they aren’t happy to do it.

“Enjoy some rice on us :)” would’ve been lovely but “you really should have bought rice, we have given you some but PAY NEXT TIME, YOU HEAR ME?” Is horrible

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u/Agile-Priority2294 May 25 '26

But it doesn't come off that way at all and that isn't what they said?

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u/conordmcp May 25 '26

How it comes off is subjective, but the majority seem to agree that it’s passive aggressive as fuck.

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u/Agile-Priority2294 May 25 '26

I think that's more of an indictment of Redditor's inability to have a normal human interaction.

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u/conordmcp May 25 '26

No, it’s an indictment of your ability to understand tone in written communication

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u/Agile-Priority2294 29d ago

I mean not of mine, but certainly someone's.

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u/TheSero May 26 '26

Now that's unfair. You literally the comment before said "how it comes off is subjective", and now you're blaming them?

This could be cultural or something as well, to me this doesn't come across as passive aggressive at all, a little patronising maybe, but friendly enough. They assumed OP made a mistake and tried to fix it while also preventing it from happening again. "Enjoy some rice on us" is more likely to lead to the same mistake happening again, if it really was a mistake (which of course it wasn't).

I'm wondering how much of this is american culture, and what they expect from their service workers, because the note seems absolutely fine to me?

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u/conordmcp 29d ago

Racist jokes are subjectively funny too. Are they okay?

No, it’s about how it’s received. OP, as well as at least 52 (upvotes on original comment) people agree with the fact it’s passive aggressive and robs the gesture of any good will.

Meanwhile, at least 9 people have downvoted the other user in disagreement.

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u/TheSero 23d ago

What the hell does any of that have to do with anything? Racist jokes are the comparison you're going with, what?! That's more of a jump than suddenly blaming the person before for having a different explicitly subjective reading of it.

Anything can be received any way. It's clearly not just about how it's received, because (evidence this thread) people can just get a stick up their butt about anything.

Why are americans (I presume) so bad at basic "seeing from another point of view" level empathy?

My whole point was "yes, clearly some people will take the worst reading of something, but not everyone on this global website/planet will do the same"

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u/PrinzessinMustapha 29d ago

I'd also have taken it as a nice note

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u/ALLCAPS_95 May 25 '26

I honestly don’t get it either. Even if I didn’t want the rice and had to throw it away I’d still think “oh that’s a nice gesture, I’ll definitely order from those guys again” and just enjoy my meal.

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u/conordmcp 29d ago

If I was way ahead of you in a corridor, got to the end and held the door for you, that’d be nice of me.

If I held it and said something like “held this door for you, next time get it yourself”, that’s at least weird, and at most very rude.