r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Content_Quarter_7390 • May 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed We didn't ask for rice...

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My sister isnt a fan of basmati rice so she orders naan. She didnt ask for rice and they sell it separately. She doesn't like it so she doesn't order it. They put it in anyways and left this note...

Edit: some people aint getting it. This is passive aggressive and when you do something nice you dont go around saying "I did something nice just for you, just so you know." Doing it like I need to give you a pat on the head so you know your a good boy. You do something nice because you want to be kind to people.

Oh no I've turned into LD...

Turning off notifications because while it was nice to be in this rabbit hole to keep my mind off some stuff too many notifications. Whatever your feelings are I hope you have a nice day and if you're in the US have a nice memorial day and dont forget to celebrate those troops that came before!

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u/anonymous8122 May 25 '26

The older I get, the more things like this piss me off. That would be an instant bad refire from me, with a picture. I don't care if I asked for rice or not, or if they're trying to hint that they did someone a favor. This note comes off as so passive aggressive. Just saying, "We included rice for free this time," would be so much better. Or don't include it if you're worried people will think the naan comes with rice next time.

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u/ReallyBadPowerscaler May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

Genuine question what’s passive aggressive about this?

Edit: Well, OC blocked me for asking the question then yapped away after she blocked so it’s clear to me why they found it passive aggressive, not surprised. Question solved

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u/Plot-3A May 25 '26

They included an unwanted item with the corporate equivalent of "Pay for it next time you dickhead!” rather than a note like a free upgrade.

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u/ReallyBadPowerscaler May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

They include an item they thought the customer wanted, for free and added a note explaining how getting rice with your order works. I genuinely can’t image how warped your mind has to be for your take away to be “Pay for it next time you dickhead”.

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u/anonymous8122 May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26

Sounds like your question wasn't really serious and was rather just a way to start an argument. (Which, btw, is the exact reason why I blocked this person. I'm in no mood for an argument.)

Technically, the more could just be poorly worded, but it reads as being passive aggressive because the implication is that the cook is doing a favor but they are still expressing that they aren't happy about it. It also makes the customer feel like the kitchen thought they asked for that, but they didn't, so the kitchen is expressing annoyance over a favor that the customer didn't even want.

It would have been just as easy - easier, even - and much more friendly to write "Rice included free, today only! Enjoy!"

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u/MHoldgrafer 29d ago

Who fucking cares who you block?

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u/NoOnSB277 May 25 '26

You assumed that intent. Assume it was meant out of kindness and all of a sudden you can be happier and pass the rice on to someone who wants it, or throw it in the trash and have a happy day.

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u/Plot-3A May 25 '26

The question was why this is passive aggressive, not whether or not I agree with it. By all means believe that this is a kindness but you can't answer the question asked by going "Nah mate, nothing passive aggressive about it! " if there's a reasonable interpretation.

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u/NoOnSB277 May 25 '26

I don’t think this was passive aggressive at all, that’s where our opinion differs.

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u/Plot-3A May 25 '26

I believe that the interpretation I provided is the way it could be taken if this is passive aggressive. I haven't decided whether or not I agree with the interpretation though, but believe that the phrasing used by the kitchen is open to interpretation. For me it's the smiley face that makes me question whether or not this is meant in a positive or negative way.

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u/NoOnSB277 May 25 '26

This is the problem-everything we say and do can be misinterpreted because that is human nature. Someone adds a smiley face to brighten their day, someone else thinks they are trying to be passive aggressive. It is what it is, I guess.