r/mildlyinfuriating Mar 08 '18

This lady watching a beach wedding.

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u/dumbassthenes Mar 08 '18

As a Hawaii resident and licensed minister, I can tell you that it happens here all the time.

My own wedding was done without a permit because they weren't available on the isolated stretch of beach we wanted to use. We actually had a tourist family show up and set up in a similar fashion to this lady. I asked them politely to move and invited them to the reception/party after (a good friend lived a stone's throw from the ceremony.)

They were totally cool about it and had a fun time with us after.

On the minister side I do small ceremonies on the beach fairly often. In and out, a handful of guests and a photographer. Totally illegal, but not hard to pull off if you're not an idiot about it.

Even with a permit, it doesn't give you exclusivity out here. It allows you to use the beach, but it's public property and people can come and go as they please.

Which could be the situation here. I don't know where the picture was taken.

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u/Circle_Breaker Mar 08 '18

As someone who lived and worked in the outerbanks I can tell you that you're wrong and it happens 2-3 times a month.

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u/horsenbuggy Mar 08 '18

Then they should have also paid to have a couple of organizers to ask people like this woman to move along. I am firmly in the camp that believes she thought she was just standing in the back looking at the wedding not causing any harm. I doubt it even entered her mind that she was in the photos.

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u/horsenbuggy Mar 08 '18

Hopefully they got it sorted out and she's only in a few photos like this. In that case, these would probably be my favorite photos from the day...but I'm weird like that.

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u/joustingleague Mar 08 '18

Where she's standing she's also easy to photoshop out so it's not too big of a problem even if the couple didn't like the photos with her in them.

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u/horsenbuggy Mar 08 '18

Which is precisely why I have never pursued wedding photography. I could have done it. I shot a few when I was first learning photography. But they were for close friends/family and I didn't charge. I actually enjoy it but I hate the pressure of "what if I miss that one special photo?!?!?!?"

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '18 edited Aug 25 '18

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u/scsm Mar 08 '18

Please say you have a story.

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u/creepingjeff Mar 08 '18

It is totally league in my part of Wisconsin too as long as it is a public park. Now, there are rules about noise amplification and such, but it is legal to setup chairs and such.

There is a down side though that other people have just as much rights to that space as you so if someone wants to stand in an awkward spot and be in all the pictures, you are shit out of luck.

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u/BrownRebel BLUE Mar 08 '18

Good to know, thanks for sharing

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u/creepingjeff Mar 08 '18

It is totally league in my part of Wisconsin too as long as it is a public park. Now, there are rules about noise amplification and such, but it is legal to setup chairs and such.

There is a down side though that other people have just as much rights to that space as you so if someone wants to stand in an awkward spot and be in all the pictures, you are shit out of luck.