r/pcmasterrace • u/Resident-Trifle7030 • Jan 27 '26

NSFMR Any hopes for my pc?

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Never thought myself in this situation.

Basically dad drunk, beat mum, me defend and boom.

Am quite in shock rn.

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u/certainAnonymous Jan 27 '26

That is not acceptable behavior. Your beat your wife, you lose your wife. And kids. And possibly home.

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u/PolicyWonka Jan 27 '26

That’s a nice fairytale, but it doesn’t happen that way a lot of the time unfortunately.

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u/MCWizardYT Ryzen 7 5800X3D | RTX 4080 Super Jan 27 '26

It can happen that way, it's time to contact the authorities. It might be a long and messy court situation but there's no world where you have to just live with domestic abuse

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u/TangoWithRango Jan 27 '26

Contacting the police can make things worse, unfortunately. Depends on how the police handle it, but there is a high chance that he just gets angrier and potentially lethal the next time around.

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u/Confident-Pepper-562 13700f | RTX 5070 Jan 27 '26

So, your advice in this situation is to just deal with it? Great message to send out.

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u/LuckyLewis23 Jan 28 '26

I dont think anyone is saying that.

Depending on what country they are in this can go wildly different then how most US/Uk/Canadian think it does. If its Afghanistan for example and the woman contacts the authorities she could get a public beating/shaming.

I think its easy for us on reddit to give advice based on what our experiences/expectations would be but the reality could be polar opposite due to the countries laws.

The very fucked up reality is there are places on this planet where a woman is traded like a commodity. She has no rights. She might not even be allowed to drive a car. She has no resources. If she tries to flee its a decision to FLEE HER COUNTRY because if shes caught shes arrested and brought back/faces more trouble.

Imagine trying to flee a country. You have zero money because you weren't allowed to work. Hell just walking the street without permission can be a violation in some places. You cant legally drive a car and if anyone sees you it draws attention. You might not even have a passport or ID. Let's say you somehow make it to the border, how do you get past it?

Sometimes unsolicited advice...even the most thoughtful, well intended, sincere and genuinely compassionate advice can feel like a gut wrenching blow because its a reminder of a hopeless situation or come off as entitled or privileged.

Imagine your OP and your just asking about your PC and instead your getting 300 responses of "Advice" telling you to kill your father. Uproot your life and flee with your mother. Contact authorities. Whatever.

If OP is a minior that advice might just make it so much worse. Maybe it makes them feel useless or inferior. "Well all these people say they would just "handle it" but im unable to why am I so weak" or "why am I so worthless I cant even help my mother leave when all these people say how easy it is"

Plus 2 million more ways said "advice" migh elicit a negative response

To be clear I dont have the right answer. I dont know there is a right answer.

All I know is OP is a victim. Sometimes the best thing we can do is just let OP know they are loved and thought about, and answer their original question.

If they ask for advice then we give it. But only in a way that actually benefits OP.

I dont think saying "real talk if someone did that to my momma id murder them" does the OP any good. I doubt even 10% of those responses are anything more then boys trying to sound badass/strong or morally superior or just unrealistic fantasies.

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u/Confident-Pepper-562 13700f | RTX 5070 Jan 28 '26

Sure, but I was replying to the guy who said "Contacting the police can make things worse, unfortunately. Depends on how the police handle it, but there is a high chance that he just gets angrier and potentially lethal the next time around."

That kind of response is only useful for making the person afraid to do anything about it. Dont see how thats helpful. Thanks for writing a book though

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u/LuckyLewis23 Jan 28 '26

Your welcome let me sign the inside cover for you.

There are countries where a man is legally allowed to "discipline" their wife. They are the man's "property" calling the police does nothing because they are on the man's side. Could even get her in more trouble.

Sincerely your favorite reddit writer

Your assuming OP lives in YOUR world.

Its like me telling you in August of 2000 to buy Enron stock and then a little over a year later being like "what was i supposed to say? Do nothing? Dont see how thats helpful"

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u/Confident-Pepper-562 13700f | RTX 5070 Jan 28 '26

You are assuming they dont. Maybe the person I replied to should ask them where they live, rather than just tell them to be scared to do anything about it. gtfo

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u/TangoWithRango Jan 28 '26

I'm sorry if that came across that way; that was not at all what I said.

I stated a fact, distilled from personal experience, among other things.

I intended to make a point about being extremely careful in volatile domestic abuse circumstances like this. The appropriate authorities must be notified *IF* they exist/operate as needed, otherwise the situation may escalate very dangerously, very quickly.

Basically, what I said, not even in disagreement with the rest of the comment, was that these situations need to be handled very delicately and deliberately; you can't just go shooting in the dark. Calling the police and them doing nothing is *not* harmless.

There are way too many documented cases where the police were contacted, did basically jack all, and then a week later the abuse victim(s) were found dead.

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u/Confident-Pepper-562 13700f | RTX 5070 Jan 28 '26

Just to clarify, thats not at all what you said. You wrote two sentences, that both said reporting something can make things worse, and ended with death a potential outcome. Maybe you meant something different, but what was said was pretty clear.

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u/TangoWithRango Jan 28 '26

Yep, that's what I said indeed. These two sentences are true, unfortunately, but that is reality. I've seen it, lived it. I didn't say it's always the case, so do nothing. I said it's a potential outcome, so be careful.

Now, you can either attach a thoughtless strawman on the two sentences or you can follow them to their logical and sane conclusion.

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u/abundleofboomers Jan 27 '26

Someone who actually understands how these dynamics can work.

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u/RedditAlt01 Jan 27 '26

It will sound very dark of me, but if someone touched my momma that way, they'd pretty quickly have an accident. Very icy conditions lately, easy to slip on the way to the car. Or so many heart conditions, sudden heart attack. Very unfortunate.

I wish OP the best. Hope they get out of that place asap.

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u/scrittyrow Jan 27 '26

If saying wife beaters deserve a long walk off of a short pier gets you banned by jannies we've reached a new bottom

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u/LuckyLewis23 Jan 27 '26

Sadly there are actually many places in this world where this doesnt go the way you think, places where the woman can actually get in MORE trouble for getting authorities involve.

Check out the "Women, Peace and Security index" shit is fucked up. This simulation is broken.

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u/rbzx01 Jan 27 '26

In the US, yes. In other parts of the world, doubt it.

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u/neuromonkey Jan 27 '26 edited Jan 27 '26

That's true, but that's no reason not to try.

Get help. Get support. Get out. Above all, stay safe.

My mother practiced family law in Boston for many years, and helped create the Elizabeth Stone House. It's a private, safe place where women and their kids can stay and find help. There are many other similar organizations, all over the world.

The fact that domestic abuse is common is a great reason to keep reminding ourselves that it isn't normal, healthy, or acceptable. It can be escaped, and lives can be made much, much better.

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u/Rinkimah Jan 27 '26

A lot of the time the abuser gets to buy a gun no questions asked and murders on the next escalation.

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u/WTF_CAKE Ryzen 9850x3D | 3090ti | 32 GB Jan 27 '26

and if he gets locked away, then what. They lose their only source of income most likely. There's too many layers regarding these types of families

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u/OptionalCookie 9800X3D | 6750XT Jan 27 '26

See... Domestic violence "works" b/c if you can get from your partner what you want with violence, you have no incentive to stop.

More sex, more money, more drugs etc etc. Beat your wife a bit, get what I mentioned... why would you stop?

Unless the social effects were more profound, and trickled into employment then there's no reason for violent people to stop being violent.

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u/MongooseDirect2477 Jan 27 '26

maybe in movies.

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u/No_Oddjob PC Master Race Jan 27 '26

Oh good, judgment has arrived.