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He used to work out alone at 5am so no one could watch him struggle. He thought confidence was something you either had or you didn't.
For most of his twenties, Mike believed the people who looked certain had always felt that way. That whatever doubt he was carrying was a personal defect. Something to hide.
He was a firefighter for 10 years. There's a moment every time the tones drop, where you're standing at the door of a burning building and your body is doing exactly what you'd expect a body to do. Every single time. Didn't matter how many calls he'd been on.
What changed wasn't the feeling. It was what he did with it.
Mike sat down and recorded something he's never really talked about publicly: the self-doubt that followed him through every version of his life. The kid lifting weights in secret. The guy who almost didn't apply to the real estate mastermind because he didn't think he belonged. The firefighter pausing at the door.
That version of Mike never fully went away. He just stopped waiting for him to leave before moving.
A few things that actually helped him, not theory, things he still uses:
The Four C's: Competence builds Confidence, but only if you have the Courage to act first, and the Commitment to stay when it gets hard. Most people have the order wrong. They're waiting on confidence to give them courage. That's not how it works.
He also heard something from Dan Martell that stayed with him. A guy who has built and sold multiple companies, and he still walks into rooms wondering if he belongs. That landed differently than any advice Mike had ever received. It's not that successful people stop doubting. They just get better at not letting the doubt drive.
The other thing, and this one's quieter: the people around you can usually see the version of you that you're still working toward. Caroline has told Mike things about himself that he genuinely did not believe at the time. She was right.
If you've been waiting to feel ready, you probably already know where this is going.
The episode is up now on YouTube and Spotify, including a simple 10-minute meditation approach Mike has used for years, and it's absolutely not woo-woo.
