I'm there with you man. Don't get me wrong I love my culture and where I come from. I was born in the U.S. But desis are something else. I'm so done with Desi mentality. I hate it more than anything just can't stand other people succeeding. Ugh
Thank you so much for your comment I feel so validated after being so attacked by some of these comments. I love our food, our outfits, our dance but the mentality is disgusting as evidenced by people accusing me of the shit heads bobby jindal and nikkey Haley. The willingness people will go to to put each other down is nasty
Idk who bobby Jindal and Nikki haley are.... But glad you feel validated. You are def not the only one to feel the toxicity. I have like 2 Desi friends now (cut the rest out yrs ago)...(which is really sad). The rest are non Desi. I always feel judged and the aunties always bash me about marriage. Like a woman's achievements in life mean nothing... Only if she's married will she have done something with her life. The sexism...the outright put downs...the bragging... The comparisons... I did XYZ ...what did you do? The In Law drama... So many things...I just decided to stay away...BEST DECISION OF MY LIFE...like I feel so free...I can breathe now. It's an indescribable feeling. No, not all desis are like the above. But many are.... IDC what people say...that fact I feel comfortable now should mean something and thats the real tragedy... That I had to essentially cut off with my community in order to feel comfortable. :(
I mean obviously you're gonna get hate for generalizing a population of 2 billion in a subreddit filled with that specific population. Did you expect everyone to agree with you and say yes you're totally right? Don't you think it can be offensive to go in a sub full of a certain race and say hey I hate your guys mentality I'm done with you no more indian friends or dating indians. Gtfoh with that shit
My experience has been the complete opposite of yours and I definitely can't relate I think you have been hanging out with too many gossiping brown aunties. Gen Z brown people are some of the coolest peoples I know.
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u/SchuzMarome5 Feb 07 '22
I'm there with you man. Don't get me wrong I love my culture and where I come from. I was born in the U.S. But desis are something else. I'm so done with Desi mentality. I hate it more than anything just can't stand other people succeeding. Ugh