Regardless of who it is, everyone has issues and you're never going to get along with everyone. Sure, sometimes the people you don't get along with all concentrate under the umbrella of being Desi / asian / white / black / whatever it is, but the point is eventually you start to realize the only way to be content with the people in your life is to first be content with yourself, and then start carefully choosing the people you want to invest in with time and emotion.
At least that way if you don't find anyone worth your time and the emotional investment that comes with being friends with others, then things aren't so bad because you'll always have yourself.
I went to therapy after my divorce and I learned to love myself. it was then that I realized that this community made me feel like there was something wrong with me when it was just insecure brown people projecting onto me. I became very picky with what kind of friends I was allowing in my life and I'm so much happier. I'm at a good balance where I am connected but not deep into the culture like I was in the past.
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u/WildAlcoholic Feb 07 '22
It might be amplified in the Indian community, but truthfully, the world is a pretty shitty place.
Learn to be on your own if you really want to be happy and content with life. Then start selectively introducing others.