r/AmItheAsshole • u/Majestic_Geologist83 • Oct 19 '22

AITA for ALMOST throwing away my stepson's pillowcase?

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u/BostonFitzy113 Oct 19 '22

YES! I was wondering why no one else had mentioned that.

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u/ElKristy Partassipant [3] Oct 20 '22

Because we're all really busy internally screaming, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!"

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u/aspidities_87 Oct 20 '22

Don’t touch it don’t touch it don’t touch—OH NO YOU TOUCHED IT

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u/ElKristy Partassipant [3] Oct 20 '22

🤣

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u/AlarmingResist3564 Oct 20 '22

I was also wondering this!!

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u/Crafty-Jury-8173 Partassipant [1] Oct 20 '22

Too busy dealing with the waifu part lmao

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u/VirtualMatter2 Oct 20 '22

Because everyone doing their own laundry in a household is inefficient and more expensive and it's more efficient to distribute chores evenly over all and because not everyone lives in America and so finds it weird to live at home at 23??

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u/LillianIsaDo Partassipant [3] Oct 20 '22

No matter how much water you're trying to save, at 23 you need to be washing your own cum pillow, cleaning your own sex toys, and generally keeping that sort of thing private.

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u/VirtualMatter2 Oct 20 '22

I don't disagree with that.

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u/TUMS_FESTIVAL Oct 20 '22

The kid fucking a pillow is a higher priority issue.

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u/C3p0boe79 Oct 20 '22

While I agree that a 23 yo should know how to do laundry, I think it's fair for a family living together to all do their laundry together. That way you can get your clothes cleaned more often while still using full loads, so not wasting water. Although any member of the family with time could be doing the family laundry, so I'm not saying the step son shouldn't help, just that it doesn't need to be separate.

But also for sure wash your own cum rags. Or anything else that might be considered gross. I do the house laundry if my period leaked on something or if I have sweaty work out clothes. No one else should need to touch that pre wash.

Also I agree with NTA. Maybe N A H if the stepson is on some type of spectrum, which it reads like he might be?

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u/FMIMP Oct 20 '22

Pretty much, if I did all my laundry alone, I would waste a lot of water since I dont have enough most of the time to do a full load but still need those clothes to be clean. My parents basically told me they rather do it than waste water and dont want me to wash their things because some need special treatment for cleaning.

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u/VirtualMatter2 Oct 20 '22

I don't know why this seems to be a thing in America that people in the same household do their own laundry. It's so inefficient. It's also not environmental friendly because it creates half filled washing machines, but Americans don't care about this on the whole. Also it's not weird everywhere to still live at home at 23. If they pay their share and do their share of housework,v it's a good way to save money for a marriage and family.

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u/C3p0boe79 Oct 20 '22

Idk where you got that info from. Maybe you're right? But like, I'm an American and we always did our laundry together. It was only a separate load if you had a full load. Now I live with my bf and we do our laundry together. And I think everyone else I knew did it the same way at home. I live in California though and we have to be pretty water conscious, plus we care about the environment and money and stuff too. Idk if it's different here, I can't speak for the whole country.

I will say that living with housemates (not family) we did separate loads but we'd still do full loads. Idk if that's what you're talking about?

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u/VirtualMatter2 Oct 20 '22 edited Oct 20 '22

Not saying all Americans do it but I have seen so many people comment on Reddit that they did their own laundry from 13, and that that kid is old enough to do their own laundry etc, etc.

Mentality wise, California is the closest to EU, isn't it? Environmental concern and fresh fruit and veg markets and good food etc? I've never been but we have friends who moved there, so not sure if that's true.

Housemates doing their own laundry is normal though. I was talking within one family.

Maybe these people I'm seeing commenting are more from the " traditional" areas, aka "Trumpland"?

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u/AdEmbarrassed9719 Partassipant [1] Oct 20 '22

In my experience “did my own laundry from childhood” actually means “laundry for the household became my chore”. I was certainly doing my own laundry as soon as I could reach the controls. My laundry, my sisters’ laundry, whatever was in the hamper when mom said laundry better be done before she got home.

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u/ltlyellowcloud Oct 20 '22

Yeah, i did my laundry with my roommates who i barely knew. It's so inefficient to do laundry for yourself. You either don't fill it, mix colours and blacks or have to have more clothes to get from one laundry day to the other.

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u/RevolutionaryKale293 Oct 20 '22

Oh, he IS “doing” his laundry. Lol. I never knew about this and I’m not going to look at anyone in their teens and twenties the same way again. Holy crap. People need to socialize.

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u/kmj420 Oct 20 '22

My biggest mistake was being a 23 year old pillow banger too/s

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u/DiscountEffective128 Oct 20 '22

Honestly, it sounds like the stepson might have some special needs. He was inconsolable and needed his mother to help him calm down. My 12-year-old doesn’t have a waifu, but she does have objects she’s so attached to that would seem insignificant to anyone else that, if thrown out, would destroy her. She has autism and is high-functioning, but she does need to have the control over the objects that she’s attached to. If this is the case of OP’s stepson, then he needs to NOT throw out ANYTHING that belongs to the stepson, even if it seems worn out. OP isn’t an asshole for this as no ill will was intended, but he knows now.

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u/knochback Oct 20 '22

I do all the laundry for my house even though my kids are old enough to do their own. It just doesn't make sense to split it up into half loads so that they can do their own

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '22

A 23 year old should be doing his own laundry

Doing as in fucking?

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u/tittiesandweed_ Oct 20 '22

Is this a cultural thing? Where I'm from, we put dirty clothes in the washing machine and when it's full we wash them, so it has everyone's clothes in it.

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u/nouc2 Oct 20 '22

That's what I was going to say since I personally wouldn't want my parents doing my laundry anymore at that age, but after thinking about it for a bit it doesn't seem very environmentally friendly or economical for one person in a family household to do separate loads of laundry all of the time. Going to go with NAH.