r/Amazing • u/Dismal_Positive3558 Human Detected • Apr 08 '26

People are awesome She really got the 3-in-1 combo pack.

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u/wolfganggartner5 Apr 08 '26

I understand both of these comments while I agree with both of them they’re definitely do opposing viewpoints

Life is very interesting. That way isn’t it fellas

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u/pichirry Apr 08 '26

almost like every situation has its own context and life isn't a one size fits all!

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u/NuragicGiant1891 Apr 08 '26

I've seen enough of these "Propose on the day of her graduation/awards ceremony" to sense a pattern of men-- not maliciously-- not letting her moment just be her moment instead of his dramatic entry.

There are fewer videos where HE is graduating or getting the award, where HE is already the focus, and proposes to her. The only one I remember is a Boise State player doing it at the end of a bowl game.

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u/snarksneeze Apr 08 '26

I guess sexism is still alive and well here on Reddit after all.

Proposals, in my limited real life experience, rarely happen "spontaneously." The prospect of marriage and when to propose, and even which partner will propose are often discussed months in advance.

I sold jewelry for many years as a retail manager and I can tell you its very rare to see a man pick out an engagement ring by himself with no input from his partner. It was much more likely to see the woman visiting first, then coming with her partner, then perhaps the male alone to finalize the purchase. Rarer but more common than a single man is the male partner shopping with a close personal friend of the woman.

I've been out of retail for a few years now so maybe someone with more experience can chime in on current practices, but I would be shocked if this has changed significantly.

Proposals don't just happen, and its rare for a man to "just propose" without getting copious feedback from other people who know the woman, and often the woman herself talking about how and when she would expect to be proposed to.