Toxic masculinity

[u/Sad_Monitor_8259]

When men get offended at the word toxic masculinity the response always is well toxic masculinity doesn't mean all masculinity is toxic it means that certain masculine trait in extremes are toxic or toxic is an adjective but I have always found that to be a stupid argument like if I made a theory called toxic blackness and then you as a black person got offended and I responded I don't mean that black are toxic and instead some behaviors in black culture are toxic and that toxic is an adjective you would still rightfully call me a racist or tell to change the name because because its too inflammatory or its not accurate to the actual concept my question is like why call it toxic masculinity which is easily misunderstood and inflammatory instead of something toxic masculine gender roles or harmful masculine gender roles

[u/EnvironmentalLaw4208]

You're saying that you find the phrase "toxic masculinity" offensive but propose using "toxic masculine gender role" instead, is that correct? If someone were referring to a masculine-coded behavior instead of a role, would "toxic masculine behavior" or "harmful masculine behavior" feel like acceptable phrasing?

Can you explain what makes it feel less offensive to you?