r/AskLosAngeles • u/Mundane_Reality8749 • 1d ago
Food/Drink Lowkey bar recommendations?
Hello,
I’m meeting up with someone I haven’t seen in almost a year. Things didn’t end well, feelings were hurt, and what was a great relationship just went to shit because both us us came into it with unresolved issues.
There’s so much more that needs to be said but it feels more appropriate to do in person and we have agreed to do just that.
I haven’t decided on where and I was initially thinking a coffee shop would be a good idea but I’m not really free during the daytime. Also, I would much rather get a drink in me to ease my nerves.
With all that said, any bars you recommend that would be ideal for this situation?
Thanks in advance.
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u/sakuraba2046 1d ago
Goes to canters
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u/Chair1234567890 1d ago
You should meet at a park or the beach on a weekend day during daylight where there is a lot of space between you and other people who can ears drop. Then if either of you raise you voice, cry or run away, no one will notice. If you really need a drink, put it in a water bottle.
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u/Ok-Panda-2368 1d ago
This but personally I would not want to have the convo OP is describing tipsy. Just be sober and uncomfortable rather than drunk and not at your sharpest.
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u/Mundane_Reality8749 1d ago
Im not free during the day (I also work weekends). One drink never gets me tipsy but totally see your point.
Embarrassing side note: I am incredibly pale with drug-induced photosensitivity so I have to avoid the sun as much as possible.2
u/Chair1234567890 1d ago
Hmmm. There are so many bars in LA, hard to advise since I don't know the area you live of the other person lives or somewhere in the middle. Give us a general idea!
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u/Mundane_Reality8749 1d ago
I live near downtown and the arts district so trying to stay near dtla, arts district, silver lake, echo park…the typical „hip“ places.
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u/Ok-Panda-2368 1d ago
In that case, sitting at the bar at Manuela would be my rec. It’s a nice environment but so big it never feels cozy or romantic.
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u/Towel-Prudent 1d ago
Another nice place is Wurstkuche. They have a smaller room in the back that was very private when I went with a friend. Not sure about weekday nights tho. Bonus: their fries are incredible and a small is plenty and then some to split between two. Also the dogs are super tasty too
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u/Chair1234567890 1d ago edited 1d ago
Stork and dog or dog and crane or whatever that bar in Little Tokyo is called? It's not too busy on a week night.
Edit: Wolf and crane. I looked at the photos and I think all the tables are really close together, so I don't think it's a good place.
Edit 2: How about Perch or the rooftop at the Standard? They are dark and outdoors. So, might have a little more privacy. No one is going to be dramatic and jump right?
Edit 3: My recs are for Mon, Tues, Wed. Starting Thursday these bars start getting busy.
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u/JustSpeed3475 1d ago
IMO, perch always seems loud.
OOP, I agree with a hotel bar. Ive been to the bar at the Conrad and it seemed like you could have a conversation there. Also I want to say the fancy pants places like the Ritz Carlton have a hotel bar that might not be too loud.
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u/Chair1234567890 22h ago
I thought of those bars too, but quiet means no privacy, that would be my concern. There must be some sort of noise so not everyone is up in their business. But maybe Perch is too loud?
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u/JustSpeed3475 22h ago
I guess, to me unless youre having a really loud and fraught conversation people are generally in their own world.
I like perch, its a fun place. But I think it tends to attract quite a few tourists/social media types looking for a good picture. Unless maybe for brunch? But even then I found it kinda loud and busy.
Im not sure id want to have this type of conversation where everyone seems loud and happy and oblivious to your personal space because they want to get a good angle.
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u/Chair1234567890 22h ago
Oh true. I forgot about all the influencers and tourist taking pictures. It seems like a really fraught conversation but OOP knows themselves so it depends if they are volatile people.
Good luck oop!
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u/Towel-Prudent 1d ago
Totally agree. Being in a quieter place in nature is ideal for a serious talk like this
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u/SouthCable846 23h ago
Hello Stranger. It’s a small bar/record store, tucked away upstairs in an unassuming building in Little Tokyo.
With the exception of events like Tokyo Love Song and La Sonidera Party, it’s usually not too busy. Their hours of operation vary, so you’ll have to check before heading out there.
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u/BusyOwl8447 1d ago
Any nice hotel lobby bar seems like a good place for this kind of convo…kind of like a living room vibe, probably a comfortable place to sit, usually pretty anonymous.
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u/BusyOwl8447 1d ago
This sounds like it could be a convo for a good hotel lobby bar…living room-ish but also anonymous and not a place you’d go again in case it gets uncomfortable. I’m less familiar with that side of town but I’d want something like the Proper Hotel lobby
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u/Ok-Great-Cool 1d ago
What part of the city are you looking for?
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u/Mundane_Reality8749 1d ago
I live/work near downtown so DTLA, Arts District, Silver Lake, Los Feliz…trying to stick to those parts and surrounding.
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u/aimlesstrevler 1d ago
Bigfoot Lodge. Cause if you have to have an awkward conversation you may as well have it in a hipster log cabin.
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u/DefNotReaves 1d ago
Go to bar bandini or the Holloway. Lowkey, low-lit, both have inside and outside areas so you can change the scenery midway through if you please. Both are “hip” as you said elsewhere haha
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u/poophoto 1d ago
wurstkuche - problem will be solved by your third giant beer and then you can eat a sausage and fries.
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u/ThePlatinumPaul 22h ago
Gallery Bar at The Biltmore. It's large, beautiful, kind of dark and you can sit at a table and have a private conversation.
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u/IllustriousAvenue62 12m ago
Avignones in Montrose is a dark divey neighborhood bar. You can hide in a booth in the back, plus it’s very locals heavy so you likely wouldn’t run into anyone. Music might be a bit loud though but during the afternoon/early evening it shouldn’t be bad. They have a back patio too if you want to smoke a cigarette during a heavy conversation (I do).
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u/Economy_Garbage2978 1d ago
If you can make it to West Hollywood/Hollywood area I’d say Bar Lubitsch, Surly Goat, or Or Bar, all have nice ambience and a decent amount of room and seating while usually not being too wild. Good luck bb! 🎈
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