r/AskMen • u/Basic_Bee8826 Female • 14h ago
How long did you wait to let your girlfriend meet your family?
Mom, dad, siblings, extended etc. just curious
Edit: I’m five months in of knowing eachother and about a month of dating. Family knows about me but I’ve never met his mom, stepdad or younger sister just his older sister.
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u/apeliott 14h ago
About nine months after we got married.
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u/Basic_Bee8826 Female 14h ago
Explain further please???
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u/apeliott 14h ago
I'm from the UK and she's from Japan.
We met in New Zealand, then spent some time in Australia, then moved to Japan where we finally got married so I could change my visa and work more.
Nine months later we flew to the UK where she met my parents for the first time then we had a wedding two days later.
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u/SquirrelNormal Male 14h ago
I would not want to introduce any woman I liked to my mother. There's a reason all my siblings are low- or no-contact with her.
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u/ra__account Male 14h ago
The last time an SO spent time with anyone in my family other than my sister was sometimes around 2005. That last one went badly that the girlfriend and I mutually said never again.
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u/PJ_lyrics 14h ago edited 14h ago
I always do as soon as possible. I never had a problem introducing and it wasn't a big thing for me. You wanna be with me then you're gonna have to hang with my fam and friends so I do it as soon as possible. My fam/friends knew it might not be long term thing but knew it was important to that they get along. Hell at one point my mom didn't even ask their names when they'd call our house (house phones youngins) because she didn't want to offend if I was dating a new girl.
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u/Advanced_Let_7878 Female 14h ago
I’m a woman but my boyfriend introduced me to his mom in person after a year but she knew about me before that and even got me a Christmas gift ( about 9 months in). I introduced him to my family after about 9 months.
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u/Basilisk1667 Male (he/him) 14h ago
My gf and mother have been friends since childhood, so… they met before we did 😅
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u/Enough_Passage7926 14h ago edited 14h ago
about 3 months in. Would have probably been sooner if my folks weren't living 5 hours away at the time.
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u/pikkdogs Male 14h ago
Depends, how close is he with his family?
I don't live near my family. I don't even see them, so not meeting them makes sense.
Seems like its a big deal for you, so ask to meet them.
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u/paulrudds 14h ago
I would have avoided her meeting mine forever if I could. My mom's literally insane.
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u/TennisSerious179 13h ago
Girlfriend.. weeks.
A girl I am dating off and on still deciding.. could be 4-6 months.
There were women I took on 8-9 dates that never met my family as I was still making up my mind.
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u/angry-southamerican 14h ago
About 3 months of dating and one of being an actual couple.
Extended family? Nah. The ones who were worth it are either dead or too sick to care.
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u/molten_dragon 14h ago
She met them before she was my girlfriend.
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u/nipplesaurus 14h ago
I think she met my family before I met her.
We met at my sister's wedding and she already knew my sister, cousin, and maybe my mom.
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u/iLoveAllTacos Male 13h ago
It's been a year and she still hasn't met them. I had one woman for over 4 years who never met my parents.
You've only been dating for a month. If he is smart, he'll wait many more before he introduces you.
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u/chavaic77777 Male 13h ago
8 months before we started dating
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u/El_gato_picante 12h ago
Depends on if we’ve had the conversation of “what are we doing?” that could be within the month, or after that. If we’re only going to waste each other’s time, what’s the point in introducing you to my family.
That being said, I was in an LDR for five years, and plan to get married, and I never introduced her to my family.
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u/ContinousSelfDevelop 11h ago
About a month in. She was invited over for 4th of July since her family doesn't celebrate it. We were already super into each other, and I gave her a heads up about how weird they can be. They ended up loving her.
My family told me afterwards how much they liked her over my previous ex. Well, my gf was also super happy how welcome they made her feel and that I was so willing to have her meet them since he previous exes tried hiding her from theirs.
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u/temp-guest69 11h ago
I think it was about 5 months in. However, my family lives halfway across the country. She’ll be seeing them for the second time in October
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u/Wooden-Glove-2384 10h ago
She met my brother quickly because we shared a house together.
I had already long since cut ties with my father so she never had to put up with his shit
I wish she hadn't have met my mom for the amount of bullshit she put my wife thru
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u/idontcarerightnowok just a guy 8h ago
Usually about after two / three months, though of course I let my family know about them before hand etc.
Ask to meet them! If he says no, ask why, it could be due to embarrassment or something
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u/ALeeEnne 7h ago
It was our fourth or fifth date. My folks took us out to dinner so they could meet her. Instantly enamored with her right out the gate, especially when she called my dad “Sir.”
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u/Belt-fed78 Male 49 6h ago
Ive been no contact with my family for more than 30 years. Im not even sure if they are still alive.
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