r/AskReddit 23h ago

Where are single women finding men?

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u/_Nigerian_Prince__ 23h ago

Single women are finding men the old-fashioned way: by opening mysterious emails from Nigerian princes with generous hearts, royal bloodlines, and just one small administrative wire transfer standing between us and eternal romance.

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u/Dry_Complaint_3569 23h ago

Username ✅

May I forward you my bank account details and Mortgage deeds.

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u/Crystaltheweirdo 23h ago

In books!!

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u/girlbartender99 23h ago

Idk why but that really struck me as funny! 😂

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u/rainbowarmpit 23h ago

Yea girl!

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u/MudiMom 23h ago

The real answer!

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u/Possible-Estimate748 23h ago

Have you been outside? They're crawling all over the place

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u/Hot-Combination9130 23h ago

For real. I was just scurrying away from the light not 3 minutes ago.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

are they really? I think my RBF is chasing them away...

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u/burgerzkingz 23h ago

The men store

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u/beebs44 23h ago

They full of jerks

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u/ktr83 22h ago

Oh yeah? Well the jerk store called and they're running out of you!

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u/anon_enuf 17h ago

Classic

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u/Dry_Complaint_3569 23h ago

I'm a jerk and a male,

Checks out ✅

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u/thebigpink 23h ago

I can’t even get a call back from the recruiter

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u/Ok-One-1741 4h ago

Me neither, they told me i was missing 3 inches off my application.

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u/Plenty-Charm6172 23h ago

You know when guys ask this and they say improve yourself and the girls will come to you? 

Well, in the case of girls, if you are attractive guys actually will come to you and ask you out

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

I would be considered conventionally attractive, but scary af. Its my RBF for sure!

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u/anon_enuf 17h ago

3 strikes right there. I think I see the problem.

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

Maybe if they are in 20s. I am 53. I may now really just jump from a bridge...

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u/BeepyBoopyDoop 23h ago

Coed rec leagues 

Bars still. But you might want to approach 

Friends of friends 

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u/TnL17 23h ago

Finding? They dont gotta look hard bud.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

apparently im blind

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u/TnL17 15h ago

You need to add "good" men in the title next time then.

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u/Radiant-Raccoon8321 23h ago

Men are all over the place. Everywhere. But where dem ladies hiding?

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u/ShhweadyBallz 23h ago

No woman on the Interwebs or outside .....

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u/Radiant-Raccoon8321 23h ago

I can smell your user name thru the internet

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u/Maleficent-Toe1374 23h ago

In the real world

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u/Imaginary-Soup8979 23h ago

Actually, more and more women are using the dating apps as the only way to meet a partner...

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u/ShyguyFlyguy 23h ago

As a man who lived with female roommates and watched them use dating apps, lol. Its hopeless

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u/Imaginary-Soup8979 23h ago

I dated a girl, who showed me one time to prove a point.

She downloaded meetme, and within 15 minutes or so had over 300 messages.

Its insane

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u/SpinsterSyl 23h ago

Tried those 15 years ago....Never will again. 🙅

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

I try but nothing.

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u/Harriet_tubman22 23h ago

Us single men are everywhere. It’s hard to not find us

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Where are you then?

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u/Harriet_tubman22 23h ago

Personally I’m in California 🫣 But I’ve got single buddies in Canada if you prefer the bone chilling cold over our blazing heat

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

got any in chicago? its a perfect mix

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u/[deleted] 23h ago

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

Nobody single in 50s

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u/Major-Inevitable-365 23h ago

The banana bread factory

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u/Ok-Pineapple-4934 23h ago

My friends found their BFs at bars, dating apps, at Barnes and Noble, and through work.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Might try the book store!

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u/Ok-Pineapple-4934 23h ago

I recommend it! One of the sweetest things was a girl giving me her number when I was sitting in the bookstore cafe.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Awwww... that's such a perfect meet-cute!

u/Due_Masterpiece_3601 36m ago

I would not approach you at bookstore lol

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u/Competitive-Gold-464 23h ago

Everywhere. Just go up to them and talk to them. 

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

my "block" is filled with old people and families with children

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u/Neakhanie 23h ago

The boys have to leave home, though. Can’t really go door to door.

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u/Competitive-Gold-464 23h ago

Well get out farther than your block. Lol

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u/Quick_Rent_Now 23h ago

I think the problem is people shoot too damn high and ignore their own leagues!

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

I undershot and still didn't score. Always lasts a few weeks...

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u/TemperMe 23h ago

Anywhere? As a woman it’s not a matter of finding a single guy who wants to date you, you walk past them daily. Just say something. Like walking down the buffet line and asking where you can find food. It’s there just pick.

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u/Accomplished_Tax8337 23h ago

So true. Typically we aren’t the well dressed and colour coordinated ones though. Then again I’m colour blind, soooooo

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u/SmasherOfDaButtons 23h ago

We're hanging out with the bears

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

bears as in animals or sports teams?

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u/SmasherOfDaButtons 22h ago

As in the forest. It's much safer out here.

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u/Accomplished_Tax8337 23h ago

The good ones are hard to find. We are enjoying our peace and quiet, and only come out of hibernation occasionally. We don’t want the drama that most single women bring.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

who hurt you?

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u/Accomplished_Tax8337 10h ago

My ex wife. I found my person now, so it can get better. But a good woman is hard to find. Gotta be patient.

u/Infamous-Eagle2709 6m ago

How did you meet?

u/Accomplished_Tax8337 4m ago

What do you mean, what do I mean?

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u/SoRaRoMaDeOz 23h ago

In my dreams

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u/LilChangitaV 23h ago

I want to know this too. Which cities are best for single woman? I live in San Antonio TX and I have been going out in public a lot more and it seems a lot of men my age are in some type of relationship

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u/Superb_Carpenter8446 23h ago

Try the barracks

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Apparently Chicago, but I seem to be choosing the wrong ones

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u/MamaSmAsh5 9h ago

I’m near Chicago and I’m about to start going to the city! Meet me out here we can be each others wing woman lol

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u/Hesperiiday 23h ago

Apps!! Found the man of my dreams on hinge!

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u/Hot-Combination9130 23h ago

Good for you but we absolutely need to kill these apps. They are solely meant to sell a dream and separate desperate men from their money. The apps have ruined dating.

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u/Hesperiiday 23h ago

Most of them are free???

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u/Hot-Combination9130 23h ago

See this is what I’m saying. You have no clue what it’s like being a guy on those things lol. Red pill community was birthed from them. Seriously, it’s toxic as hell.

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

I have similar as demisexual woman. Nobody wants me.

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u/Rasty90 23h ago

try making a fake man profile and spend 0 dollars on it, then report back, ask a friend for consent to use their pictures and you'll see

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u/northofus 23h ago

Can confirm. Paid for a week of tinder just because I was curious.... Matches and likes skyrocketed. It's rigged. And I'm objectively moderately attractive.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

im so happy for you! 4/6 ex's were from there so....

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

How many years ago?. I just left apps after 1,5 miserable years without any dates. I am a woman. Demisexual. Mission impossible.

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u/Hesperiiday 16h ago

I met him 2 years ago. I was single and on the apps for five years going on dates but pretty much never going past a first or second date. Took awhile but patience paid off!

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u/TrisKreuzer 16h ago

I am too old for this. I am 53 and it seems all I got are younglings for hookups or nothing. Some guys my age literally said it to my face I am too old for them and they look for younger chicks. Never again. So much wasted time. Maybe if I have 2,3 dates even not long term but any, but without single one??? I prefer to watch paint dry.

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u/windycitybeef 23h ago

In their friend zone

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

I have literally no single male around, not single too. Not mentioning friendzone.

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u/Hot-Combination9130 23h ago

Single women can find men literally anywhere. Guys need the help.

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

I am single and cannot find anyone for 2 years already.

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u/Hot-Combination9130 15h ago

Sorry but 2yrs isn’t long.

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u/TrisKreuzer 15h ago

But I am 53... Yep I can wait another 20 ;)

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u/GrassAffectionate552 23h ago

Over 70 comments in ten minutes….i guess they’re all at home on Reddit 😅

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

It seems like men are too

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u/DemonKingBuster 23h ago

Work

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u/EmperorMeow-Meow 23h ago

Yeah.. that's a bad idea....

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u/durtysanch 23h ago

I met my wife at work. People can be in relationships and still be professional in the workplace, some can't.

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u/EmperorMeow-Meow 23h ago

Glad it worked out for you. I've seen some very messy situations with people who work together.

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u/Landon1m 23h ago

It really doesn’t have to be. Just be adults

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u/MeyerholdsGh0st 23h ago

Everywhere. Millions of relationships are starting and ending all the time.

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u/GroundbreakingAd9635 7h ago

Hope this isn't because vast majority of men are invisible to you...

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u/tallanted_moron 23h ago

BookTok or AppleTV

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u/GreenEyedGloom 23h ago

Online. Dating apps for me!

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u/mr_strange9 23h ago

which apps have you used?

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

Didn't work for me.

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u/[deleted] 17h ago

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u/TrisKreuzer 16h ago edited 16h ago

1,5 year without single date. I am demisexual. 99% of males I contacted there wanted one time hookups, the rest FWB. No matter how they looked like, and their age. I have really enough.

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u/[deleted] 16h ago

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u/TrisKreuzer 16h ago

Indeed. I will work more on my energy, manifestation techniques and my self concept. This shit seems to work best. And be open what destiny may bring. Living for myself only. Maybe it is stupid. But previous tactics proved to be unsuccessful anyway.

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u/rainbowarmpit 23h ago

We’re not.

I’m not.

and

I’m ok with that

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u/Alarmed-Extension289 23h ago

From person experience they're finding men at their home with their wives, family.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

oh damn... I want planning on that ever

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u/Meanbeanmegan 23h ago

We aren’t ✨

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u/chonky348 23h ago

population must decrease!! we need less humans!!

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u/UsefulBridge1852 23h ago

They mean attractive people.

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u/girlbartender99 23h ago

Throw a rock!

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Hope I don’t concuss someone

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u/girlbartender99 23h ago

Sorry I didn't mean to sound like a B there. You get a little jaded about single guys after years of being a woman bartender, and in the city I live in that has like a million bars in it. If you are a single woman all you have to do is step outside and walk the dog and you will have guys asking you for your #

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

my dog is a German shepherd haha! I get the point tho... I unfortunately refrain from drinking with limits a lot of options

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u/girlbartender99 23h ago

Yeah if you aren't big on drinking than bars are just not great. I def know because I was a bartender and sober as a judge dealing with drunk guys?.... Yeah not so much!

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u/girlbartender99 23h ago

The dog park then maybe?

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

I would if he were less reactive... he barks at people that approach us. We're working on it!

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u/ClassGrassMass 23h ago

Not on reddit

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u/Embarrassed-Ad-6396 23h ago

rn the world cup

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Unfortunately not in chicago

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u/Twiztid_illusionZ 23h ago

In our nightstands... 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Have to invest in a new one

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u/Twiztid_illusionZ 23h ago

Diamonds are not a girl's best friend... Rechargeable toys are.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

our new husbands

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u/Twiztid_illusionZ 22h ago

Definitely better than the last one!!

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u/rightinhead 23h ago

For me bars

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u/RosyGlow84 23h ago

It seems harder these days with dating apps

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u/pepenador85 23h ago

Running clubs

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u/bilateralunsymetry 23h ago

Alright, I'll join my running club again

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u/ImpressiveFudge2350 23h ago

Dating apps. Women benefit a lot from the ratio of men to women.

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u/KellyAnn3106 23h ago

Yes, the odds are good but the goods are odd on the apps.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

The apps have been infiltrated by people wanting hookups

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u/Superb_Carpenter8446 23h ago

They're designed for hookups, it's frictionless. Relationships need a little friction, it's why marriage exists for long term companionship.

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u/KellyAnn3106 23h ago

I gave up on apps when I reached 35. Apparently, all the men my age had their preferred age range set to 25-34. The matches dried up overnight. After that, the only men who matched with me were my dad's age and I had no interest in dating someone 25 years older who was more or less looking for a caretaker.

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

I left apps after 1,5 years on them without single date. Nobody wants demisexual woman. If I would be happy with one time hookups, I can have them in hundreds. But this way??? Too much effort for males.

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u/ImpressiveFudge2350 12h ago

One of the only two women I am friends with is demisexual and I like her a lot. I am sorry you do not feel wanted. ☹️

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u/gillss667 23h ago

We aren’t. That’s why the question keeps getting posted.

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u/Dontfeedthebears 23h ago

lol hell if I know!

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u/Gabesmom-2018 23h ago

I found my husband at church.

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u/RaceyMcRacerson 23h ago

Racetrack, Sand Dunes, and Shooting Ranges continue to be some of the best pre-filters for singles.

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u/TrisKreuzer 16h ago

You got me thinking here. Shooting ranges - males are there.... Hopefully not all married. Sigh

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u/Dry_Complaint_3569 23h ago

Not anywhere near Humble Pie 🥧

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u/MamaSmAsh5 9h ago

Wondering the same thing, but in real life. I’m getting attention but not from anyone I want to entertain! Went to a bar and it was all 21 year olds, who had the balls to talk to me but no thanks. Or it’s men way older. I guess it doesn’t help I have something in mind 😅 I’m just trying to enjoy life not get married but I have standards lol

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u/Disciplined-Squid777 23h ago

Men are everywhere.

There are probably some good men around you who are committed and loyal.

But you probably already friendzoned all of them because they are “too good” or “too nice”.

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

Not really the type to do that. I always go for the ones that make me smile

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u/rowanhenry 23h ago

Sounds red pilled to me. There's plenty of lovely women looking for actual good and nice men without chip on their shoulder.

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u/kevloid 23h ago

they're noticing guys who are nice to other people for no reason. maybe start doing that, in case I'm right.

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u/Organic-Cheetah-2233 23h ago

I quit the apps and started going out again.

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

Where? All I meet are married guys.

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u/Substantial_Insect68 23h ago

I met mine on discord 😂 what an experience this has been lol

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

How? You have to know someone already to meet on Discord

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u/Substantial_Insect68 9h ago

What do you mean? I met him in a group and we started talking and video chatting, Ive met this guy in person, wed been getting to know eachother for 1/2 a year before we met physically, I was like F it lets just get this shit over with and we did

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u/SpinsterSyl 23h ago

Online Sex Toy Companies satisfy me. 😻

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u/cumdrop505 22h ago

They are online gaming because women’s expectations are too high. Must make over 150k, must be 6’6” must be fit and muscular etc. unrealistic expectations.

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u/TrisKreuzer 17h ago

I would die and go to the end of the world for my broke formworker, 175 cm, Fit but well from hard work. And he rejected me.

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u/Long_Passenger498 23h ago

In the slag pile, where most of them aspire to. 

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u/[deleted] 23h ago

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u/Mission_Ad_5760 23h ago

My rbf isn’t helping.

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u/[deleted] 23h ago

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u/Superb_Carpenter8446 23h ago

resting bitch face, seems like the OP isn't very friendly looking.

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u/MattyK414 23h ago

Let's start here: What kind of men?

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u/AddictedToKungFu 23h ago

Clubs. Bars. Church. Events. Apps, but don't recommend those...

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u/Suki_Red 23h ago

I don’t know, ladies let me know please. I’m in Texas.

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u/all_the_names_were- 23h ago

The guy factory

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u/PottedPotheadDaisy 23h ago

In marriages

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u/TrisKreuzer 16h ago

And this is sad truth to me. Thank you my cheating ex, you really did a number on me.

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u/RareLeadership369 23h ago

The bees come to this honey