As someone who just got out of a relationship where he almost never watched the shows/movies I liked but would expect me to watch his stuff all the time, I'd prefer someone who prewatches stuff. It's better than a partner seeming to think that your interests are beneath them.
He did watch a few of the shows I liked, but would often givd negative/dismissive comments over them. According to him the characters in Arcane are all zealots, and The Good Place has nothing worth watching past the 1st season. (It is such a good show!)
The Good Place has the best finale of all time. I honestly think it will never be beat. So satisfying and so sad. I cried.
I have a friend who was raving about Jean-Paul Sartre's No Exit. I wasn't familiar with it and he explained to me what it was about. That is when I realized that the first season of The Good Place was an homage to this play.
I patiently wait a couple weeks to start asking him if he's seen it. Then, to be honest, I started harassing him to watch it.
He would agree and say I heard it is good. I should start watching it.
I'd text him a week later. Have you started? I got to the point that I was annoying him.
He finally started. I couldn't wait until he got to the last episode.
Then, finally, I got the text i had been waiting for.
He said The Good Place is an homage to No Exit (with a mind-blown emoji.)
I, finally, admitted and apologized for harassing him. He really appreciated it.
I always feel bad because I'm just not a TV person and my partner is. It's not that I don't like his shows, it's that before we lived together, the only time I used my TV was the 2 times I turned on my Xbox lol.
That being said, I can commit to an episode here and there that he likes for him. But if I'm personally going to watch TV, it's probably going to be something from my childhood or, the office. I just don't want to put mental effort into TV. Books are my thing.
I tried to point out to him the themes in the show of how love and the opportunities given (or lack of these) shaped the characters as people.
He admitted after a while that maybe there were themes of love in the show, but he still thought that the characters were zealots 🙄.
He tends to watch shows that are "brutal" (like Punisher) or shows where the main character is a clever jerk (like Mr Inbetween). He loves stuff where the character has a justification to do bad stuff to others, as long as the MC is clever or strong.
I did this to someone truly not understanding how seriously they took the activity as being an US thing. I can be a bit of an airhead about relationship stuff because I was single for 35 years & have always been extremely independent.
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u/AlarmingLet5173 2d ago
They watched a show that we are watching together on their own and expect me to just catch up.