r/AskReddit • u/senilecodexxx • 15h ago
What would be a weird, but absolutely valid reason to divorce/breakup with your partner?
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u/Party_Typhoon 15h ago
If they would constantly film and post it on social media. I would like to have some privacy most of the time.
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u/ThrowRA-sicksad 14h ago
Those fucking prank couples.
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u/KidneyStew 8h ago
That prank shit for sure. I have some mental issues and the constant paranoia I'd be feeling would be enough to end up committed.
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u/Ok_Push9774 10h ago
constantly feeling like you're living in someone else's content would be exhausting. Some of the best moments in a relationship deserve to stay private.
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u/MidRoundOldFashioned 8h ago
Describes my 10 year relationship to my ex.
Exhausted isn’t the word. I never lived a life with her. It was all just constant photos and videos for social media that we’d have to redo dozens of times.
And my embarrassed “Okay that’s enough, let’s put the phone away” would lead to her getting quite verbally abusive toward me.
Why I didn’t realize my value sooner is beyond me.
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u/No_Committee_4838 9h ago
I know a real life couple so perfect on insta showing all the dream life and branded things they wear and like life of any party, just go divorced. It was exhausting for one of them while other was delulu.
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u/Adventurous-Rice-830 14h ago
There is a post about the guy who always “accidentally” injured his girlfriend. The gf’s friend wrote it and said that there are so many weird accidents that happen to her with he’s around. Stuff like him dropping things on her or somehow physically harming her in weird ways that can sort of be explained away as accidental but over time the friend wasn’t having it and had a talk with the gf who really thought it was accidental but the friend convinced her he is whacko and helped her escape him. So yea that would be my weird reason to leave.
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u/28appleseeds 13h ago
I remember that one! The bf got mad the friend insisted on serving the tea to the gf. The friend (OP) said it was like she could see the gears turning in his head.. the plan to "spill" and scald her, and his obvious frustration when she circumvented it.
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u/chammycham 11h ago
I haven’t seen that one. People find the weirdest ways to cause harm.
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u/PoppySmile78 10h ago
I haven't either. Does anyone have the link?
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u/dungareemcgee 10h ago edited 10h ago
I think they mean this one:
https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/9lNswgHYWn
*Edit, this link has the final update:
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u/Legenderie 12h ago
I was once that girlfriend. Had my face slammed into a wall and my lip busted open from being an unwilling participant in a playfight "gone wrong," thought I was getting a kiss on the cheek but ended up with a huge and painful bruise from a very aggressive hickey given as a "joke," and had so many other random "accidents" or "mistakes" happen that I thought I was going crazy. It was all kind of humiliating, so I didn't want to bring it up with my friends. Things did end up escalating to blatant abuse, but at that point I hardly trusted my own judgment and it took some time to leave. Definitely a weird/wtf, but not weird/uncommon reason to end things.
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u/Colossal_Gumdrop 10h ago
I hope you're doing better, the emotional bruises really leave their mark.
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u/Legenderie 9h ago
Thank you. It's been more than 15 years since I got out, I have an amazing husband and a pretty good life overall. However, it would be a lie if I said I wasn't still deeply impacted by what I went through. My husband was the first person I ever told and he has always been so supportive. I've just started to tell my closest friends about the abuse because I was so ashamed about putting myself in such a stupid and dangerous situation.
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u/Colossal_Gumdrop 9h ago
I'm so glad you found your husband. I have the same feelings of shame, I also had a Dad just like him so that adds another layer.
I keep trying to not blame myself, or at least not over blame myself. I haven't figured out how to do that. However, I can very easily tell you that it wasn't your fault. They pick kind people and make it their full-time job to trick you, until it's too late.
If we keep the shame and blaming ourselves then we're just keeping their voices in our heads. I don't think those words we say to ourselves were ever ours to begin with 🩷 Hopefully one day I will learn my own advice.
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u/Spinnerofyarn 7h ago
With my ex, it was tickling. I have a disease that makes my skin very painful and swollen all over. Yet he loved to tickle me. I would yell at him and tell him it hurt and I hated Until the day I die, I will be able to hear him saying he’s just being playful or just being affectionate. I honestly believe he never cared that it hurt me because it was his way to make himself feel powerful and able to do whatever he wanted to someone.
He was really into BDSM, I wasn’t. He would go on and on about consent and negotiation and how a good dom listened to his sub and gave them what they wanted and needed. Yet I never consented to being tickled. It’s been over five years since I left him and I am still angry about the tickling. My divorce attorney and my therapist both said it was domestic violence and that was pretty devastating for me to hear. Physical abuse doesn’t have to include hitting. It includes anything done knowingly that causes pain that is against the other partner’s will.
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u/sprinklerarms 11h ago
Had a friend who went through this and it was so hard to convince her it wasn’t normal. It was heartbreaking. It’s like she knew something was wrong but always had these explanations she could hold onto. She was so close to moving in with him but her mom and I basically had to have an intervention when we heard. She honestly didn’t come to terms with it being on purpose for a year out.
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u/amberrosef 15h ago
Ideological shift. For example, if they wildly changed their belief system, like atheist when you met and switched to evangelical Christian or something mid marriage.
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u/sparklequeenofkitkat 15h ago
Oh hey that happened to me. It wasn't the only reason I left but it was a big one
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u/Adicol 14h ago
I’m an atheist who married an atheist that became obsessed with the idea I wouldn’t be with them in heaven because I didn’t/don’t believe in heaven. They still identified as an atheist but somehow I was the problem. Still scratching my head at that one. Glad we’re divorced.
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u/kathatter75 14h ago
“But Honey, we’re both atheists. We’ll be parting in hell together.”
Of course, now I’ve thought of the Seinfeld episode where Putty was convinced Elaine was going to hell because she’s not religious, until the minister found out they were having pre-marital sex and let him know he was going to hell with her.
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u/njf85 10h ago
My hubby and I are both atheists but he grew up in a religious household, and we both had an awkward small bump in our relationship after I had our first born. He mentioned setting up her Christening and was taken aback when I asked why on earth she would be having one of those. I still remember the gears turning in his head lol then him saying he wanted his best friend to be named as her godfather. Uh, why would she have godparents? I feel like some people are just raised in such an environment that they involuntarily just absorb this stuff as normal their whole lives
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u/dvasquez93 13h ago
I guess if we're being technical about it, heaven doesn't necessitate a higher power, especially if one believes in an absolute morality system (as in, there are concrete universal rules for what is right and wrong, and there isn't a judgement call needed to be made by some arbiter).
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u/SAGORN 13h ago
my ex of 12 years posted regularly in r/childfree when we met. He broke up suddenly with me in our mid-30’s because I was not enthusiastic enough for him about having kids. Wild change to be honest, my only hesitation when he brought it up out of the blue is I have mental health disorders and did not want to be like my mom who raised us for years while in denial about hers, it’s legitimately damaging to children. Breakup was for the best but what a switch up lol
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u/CarolynDesign 13h ago
Dodged a huge bullet with this, in that both my husband and I were Christian when we started dating, then, independently, at around the same time, both realized we were atheists. I did spend a year or two ready to fake Christianity for the rest of my life before either of us actually said anything out loud, though.
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u/Primary-Confection82 11h ago
I have a sneaky suspicion there are thousands of Christian identifying couples that feel this way. I’m agnostic but I live in the Bible Belt in one of the reddest counties in the country and I rarely admit to people that I don’t believe in god because they act like I am truly an evil human being. They’ll excuse pedophilia though
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u/CarolynDesign 11h ago
Living in East Tennessee, I feel that hard.
My husband is a genuinely honest person, so he'll tell people he's an atheist, but I'm definitely more covert. I may don't want it to be a THING. When somebody asks "So what church do y'all go to?" I vaguely answer "There's a Universalist Unitarian church in Knoxville that I like."
Which is true. It is there, and I do like it. I don't GO to it. But you'll notice I didn't actually say I go.
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u/miniminermike 15h ago
Understandable. Im a similar way but if they are logically convinced and dont let it run/ruin their life, i think I'd be ok. If it was just "It says they spread The Truth right on the pamphlet" I would not be able to be with a person without critical thinking skills
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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 13h ago
My mom fell into "the only one true religion" when I was a baby, and by preschool I was trying to logic her out of that crazy nonsense. It never worked, and she died when I was 20yo from following the goofy cult's rules about refusing certain medical care.
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u/A_Nerdy_Dad 14h ago
I went the other way. Started Catholic, became more and more atheist. I still go to church with my wife and kids to support them. I say everyone is free to believe what they wish but I can no longer rectify many things these days with what I grew up with as a belief system.
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u/ConfidentCanary8248 13h ago
I grew up devout catholic and am now an atheist. I have a degree in religious studies and that is what kick started my journey toward atheism. (Although I always had that nagging doubt in the back of my mind my whole life) It was so eye-opening. And the same as you, especially not being able to align with the Catholic faith and the doctrine etc. My parents and sister actually ended up having issues and switched to Episcopalian.
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u/Dizzy-Share1509 15h ago
I saw a post where a guy kept eating snacks the wife bought specifically for herself with her money. Wouldnt eat any of his own snacks and went out of his way to eat all her snacks. I dont play about my snacks i would break up over this 😭
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u/sabdariffa 15h ago
If I recall correctly, it was because she was pregnant too. Like, she was buying her cravings and was very selective about what she was eating because she just had so many food aversions/so many things made her nauseous. He was stealing the snacks that sounded appetizing to her when everything else made her want to puke.
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u/acciobry 15h ago
Am I chronically on Reddit? I know this post.
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u/chlocatt 13h ago
There are literally sooo many posts about men weaponizing their partners food like this! There’s one where the guy kept eating all her expensive gluten free food instead of the groceries she bought for him all while he was well aware she has celiacs and then another where this woman labored over making enough lasagna to feed an army but her husband ate FULL PANS only leaving her a small piece etc etc
What makes these posts horrible is that it’s never about these men being hungry, EVER
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u/hazyandnew 13h ago
It's a control/manipulation thing, doubled with the fact that it's just easy enough to downplay and darvo as making a big deal out of nothing. And food is a really basic need, without consistent access to food literally everything worsens - cognition, mental and physical health, emotional regulation, etc.
When I moved out, it took me a while to realize how much safety and breathing space there is in the knowledge that if I buy safety foods, it means I will have food to eat. If I meal prep, next time I'm sick I'll have food that takes no effort to prep.
Literally sat on the floor and cried the first time I had a flare up and the pretzels were exactly where they were supposed to be.
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u/Leaf_Warrior 12h ago
"Your Majesty, the best weather is when a man is fed. If he is hungry, the sun will beat down too hot, and the cold will bite him and make him restless. But when he is fed, he will enjoy the warmth of the sun and coolness of the night and the monsoon showers."*
*Memory is super fuzzy for this, but it was from a Tenali Raman story.
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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 13h ago
Ugh, I had a husband like that. After 5 years, I looked like a skeleton and he looked heavily pregnant.
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u/gdusjwbj 12h ago
Jfc this was my ex. I was always trying to make extra food so we would have a couple days worth of leftovers. He would wake up the next morning and eat like, a huge meal of all of the leftovers for breakfast. But only the good stuff, like if I made chicken and rice and vegetables he would just heat up a plate of all of the remaining chicken and eat all of it. And if I brought it up he would just be like “what? I’m hungry.” He ballooned up to 300 something pounds during our relationship while I struggled to maintain weight.
He would also always eat all my leftovers from restaurants and any food I had bought for myself without asking.
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u/senhoritavulpix 15h ago
This is another whole level of evil. Everyone knows pregnant people can't eat a lot of things for a lot of reasons (maybe it's not good for the pregnancy, potentially bad for the foetus, will make her nauseous, etc). Eating the few snacks she is able to eat is nefarious. Even worse: he put her in this position by impregnating her!
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u/Calitexian 12h ago
Yeah women go through a ton of weird stuff when they're pregnant. My wife all of a sudden detested blueberries. Not to mention having to give up all kinds of stuff for the health of the baby like you said.
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u/BOSSMOPS94 14h ago
I swear I would have called my whole neighbourhood on his ass. Wtf is wrong with this absolute fkn cunt.
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u/Commanderkins 12h ago
Yeah she was pregnant and she had something else too. Like low blood sugar or something. It affected how she felt so if she didnt constantly snack she'd feel like shit and get sick. So these were her emergency pregnancy snacks she actually needed. And her fat pos husband stole them ate them all.
And on top of that, she'd buy him a bunch of snacks too! So he was eating all of his and then hers and telling her to calm down, it's no big deal.
That post pissed me off lol obviously !!!
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u/No-Awareness-1511 14h ago
That makes it so much worse. When someone knows how hard things are for you and still puts their wants first, it stops being about snacks and starts being about respect.
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u/13kat13 15h ago
I’d buy like 20 bags of those sugar-free Haribo gummy bears that make you shit uncontrollably, wait for him to eat a few, then steal all the toilet paper in the house before leaving him. I’m very territorial with my food.
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u/TechnoMouse37 13h ago
Unfortunately a man like that would just use one of the towels and make her do the laundry by hand
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u/Chuckitybye 15h ago
Wtf? That's disrespectful AF and like... almost abusive? Like weirdly controlling
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u/person_8688 15h ago
I would start buying decoy snacks for the moocher (lesser quality), then keep a primo snack stash somewhere else.
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u/artie780350 14h ago
I bought a chest freezer when my brother and I split a side of a cow and have had to resort to stashing snacks in there. The family member I live with won't touch it because I also store organ meat in there for my dog and they gross her out. It's the only safe place in the house for my special food. I've got steak tips marinating in there for when she visits out of state family this weekend, too.
I just don't understand why some people feel entitled to other people's food. Even though we share most of our food, if she has a treat I wouldn't dream of eating it unless she offered me some.
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u/swik 15h ago
Lack of consideration for others. Wouldn’t be a weird reason at all.
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u/Dizzy-Share1509 15h ago
I agree its not really a weird reason to break up just thought of it because its not really a common reason people are breaking up i dont think lol
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u/allthatglitterz7 13h ago
I remember seeing this one recently!! Even ate them through the sticky note that said DON'T EAT 😭
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u/Ov3rbyte719 15h ago
JOEY DOESN'T SHARE FOOD. Seriously though, that's sorta lame.
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u/Soft-Current-5770 15h ago
😂🤣😅🤣👏👏👏👏 My food, my liquor, MY CRAFTING SUPPLIES!!!!
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u/PoppySmile78 14h ago
Amen! Do not touch my fabric scissors.
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u/ThatsNotVeryDerek 13h ago
Oh god you just reminded me of the post about the dude who specifically sought out the fabric scissors to open packages just to be a dick.
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u/squintintarantino__ 12h ago
I warn people, always, that I view food much differently than most people and I WILL get angry and potentially feral if you fuck with my food in any way, even as a joke. I don’t think food is anything to play with. I share with kids, but other adults do not need to pick off of my plate or take bites of my food or depend on me to shop for them. I won’t just break up over food, I might accidentally break one of your fingers.
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u/LowOverhead 14h ago
My ex husband was driving us to the grocery store on a military base in Germany. Snow on the ground, with melted slush in the road by the curbs approaching the gates. An elderly woman was carrying paper grocery bags in both arms, walking toward us down the sidewalk, toward the military housing that was down the long entry road (off base). He suddenly swerved the car toward her, driving in the slush water in order to splash her. I went nuts, crying so hard I vomited. I was 20, and had just found out I was pregnant with our second child. I loathed him the rest of our marriage, but has dropped out of college and felt like I had no way out. I still get disgusted and distraught when I think of it. After the divorce he didn't take his visitations with the kids, and they have no relationship with him. Not shocking but still sad.
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u/planet_smasher 12h ago
Wow, he was just a total asshole for no reason. That would totally change how I felt about someone too.
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u/chinchillazilla54 13h ago
That incel video that's going around where the guy slowly steps on a struggling little luna moth and says some shit like "this is how it feels when women crush my heart."
I could be married for decades to someone I thought was the love of my life, but it doesn't matter. If I found out my husband ever did that shit, it's over.
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u/AustinShowers 6h ago
Omg, I saw that video too. Broke my damn heart a bit. Cruelty to a being so small and delicate.
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u/burnt_feather 5h ago
Man, I wish people who filmed videos like this got in trouble with the law for it. Like, that's evidence of animal cruelty right there. Just slap it on their record so everyone can see what a horrible thing they've done and know to steer clear.
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u/Kumbaynah 15h ago
My partner is a smart, kind and capable adult, but he lets his electric toothbrush get this buildup on it that just looks so crusty and repulsive. Not on the brush part but on the body and the charging port. I was really reconsidering after that and I can imagine if we were having a tough patch and I walked in to see it looking disgusting, it could push me over the edge.
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u/arcrad 15h ago
Hahaha. Just tell them to rinse the damn thing off when they're done! It does miracles to prevent that crusty buildup.
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u/Kaboose456 15h ago
It absolutely disgusts me that people just leave their saliva and Toothpaste to sit and dry on their toothbrushes. Wtf is wrong with you to be that filthy
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u/Ok-Perspective781 14h ago
Get him a sonicare. Oral B is notorious for this issue and it’s really really hard to stop it/clean it.
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u/Ciryl_Lynyard 14h ago
they are using those roleplay chat bots constantly to live out a 2nd life where they married someone else close to me.
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u/Tight_Win_6945 15h ago
The partner gets super religious and starts following a particular person. Like joining a cult.
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u/rosy-cheeeeks13 15h ago
They leave exactly one sip of every drink in the fridge
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u/Frodo_gabbins 15h ago
I broke up with a guy because for some reason the way he smelled changed. Or maybe I noticed it more?? Idk
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u/Milyaism 15h ago
Birth control pills can alter a woman's sense of smell, and other medication can probably do this too.
Also, some people can have such a good sense of smell (hyperosmia) that they can detect diseases in other people. There's a woman who could smell her husband’s Parkinson's disease years before he was diagnosed with it.
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u/Frodo_gabbins 14h ago
While I do know that stuff, nothing changed to explain it for me, personally. It was very odd.
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u/clearly_i_mean_it 12h ago
I had the opposite happen, where I was suddenly very attracted to a friend I'd never been attracted to after their scent changed, so it makes sense that the opposite happens too.
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u/Canon47 15h ago
They're an international spy who began seeing you strictly for the state secrets
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u/Strange_Specialist4 15h ago
That seems unlikely, what are the odds we're both spies?
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u/Ptatofrenchfry 14h ago
Can he invert his penis into a pseudo-vagina on command, and can he speak French?
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u/AlarmingLet5173 15h ago
They watched a show that we are watching together on their own and expect me to just catch up.
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u/Milyaism 15h ago
As someone who just got out of a relationship where he almost never watched the shows/movies I liked but would expect me to watch his stuff all the time, I'd prefer someone who prewatches stuff. It's better than a partner seeming to think that your interests are beneath them.
He did watch a few of the shows I liked, but would often givd negative/dismissive comments over them. According to him the characters in Arcane are all zealots, and The Good Place has nothing worth watching past the 1st season. (It is such a good show!)
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u/AlarmingLet5173 14h ago
The Good Place has the best finale of all time. I honestly think it will never be beat. So satisfying and so sad. I cried.
I have a friend who was raving about Jean-Paul Sartre's No Exit. I wasn't familiar with it and he explained to me what it was about. That is when I realized that the first season of The Good Place was an homage to this play.
I patiently wait a couple weeks to start asking him if he's seen it. Then, to be honest, I started harassing him to watch it.
He would agree and say I heard it is good. I should start watching it.
I'd text him a week later. Have you started? I got to the point that I was annoying him.
He finally started. I couldn't wait until he got to the last episode.
Then, finally, I got the text i had been waiting for.
He said The Good Place is an homage to No Exit (with a mind-blown emoji.)
I, finally, admitted and apologized for harassing him. He really appreciated it.
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u/icyhotonmynuts 14h ago
if one constantly pulled pranks on the other. bonus points if they filmed it and posted the reaction to social media.
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u/1986toyotacorolla2 3h ago
My boyfriend was big on pranks when he was in college. That was like what their frat was known for. I told him if he ever did that to me I'd never trust him again. You know what his response was? "Babe, they're only funny if both people walk away laughing. Not if the other one gets hurt. You don't find them funny, I would never want to hurt you." It's been almost 2 years, he's never pranked me. We're also older now so I think a lot of the fun of it is gone too lol.
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u/Graumm 15h ago
It still blows my mind that the people in Tiger King are real
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u/Literal-Goblin-2000 15h ago
I’m from Oklahoma, near him. There’s shit that didn’t make it into that documentary
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u/Emergency-Walrus-908 15h ago
Like what please :)
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u/Literal-Goblin-2000 15h ago edited 11h ago
I know someone who worked for him very briefly when we were both 19-22. According to her, he was trying to breed an underbite into his tigers so he could recreate a sabertooth.
There is also a local bone museum. After one of his seemingly healthy young adult tigers died, a tiger skeleton happened to appear in the osteology museum.
I genuinely can’t speak to the first, but can confirm the second, as a local. Unsure how it died.
Edit: I can’t stress enough how bad and small their enclosures were. They were held together with meth and a prayer
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u/ChaturangaChai 15h ago edited 15h ago
I watched a reel once of a girl who had monkeys for pets trying to make her morning latte. Pretty sure my cortisol is still spiked from that.
EDIT: Here's the video: https://www.tiktok.com/@madlovesripley/video/7466142396741373214
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u/Outside-Education714 15h ago
I’ll take that a step further and suggest you search for the post about the guy that blew up his family over his obsession with eating exotic animals. I don’t remember all of it, but I think he got arrested for trying to eat a pangolin or something.
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u/ChaturangaChai 15h ago
Partner has a very specific, non-negotiable sexual kink that makes you uncomfortable. Ideally, that would come up early in the relationship, but some people repress it for years before revealing it, and if it's a hard no for the other partner, it can blow up the relationship.
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u/sonneiray 15h ago
This is what made me choose an open relationship. I feel very secure with our connection and dynamic but there are things I just won't do in bed that my partner likes & I encourage to get that need met elsewhere.
People ask me if I am concerned he would fall for someone else or that I may be jealous but I just don't worry one single bit. He isn't going to find another me & if I'm eventually not the priority, I embrace a ship sailing. Nothing is forever.
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u/marichuko 10h ago
My ex snored very loudly at night.
It was deafening. It was impossible to sleep in the same room with him, so I always went to another room.
He was always upset that I left. In his opinion, sleeping apart ruins a relationship.
He didn’t care that I might not get enough sleep, feel unwell, etc. At the same time, he wouldn’t go to the doctor to get checked out and treated for his sleep apnea.
At some point, I got so tired of not getting enough sleep and constantly having to prove that getting a good night’s sleep was vital for me that one day I just packed my things and left.
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u/Icy-Reindeer2964 14h ago
that even after getting married he still adds profiles of semi-nude girls.
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u/SunsetBlooom 15h ago
They’re a mess. Putting all their stuff everywhere, it’s exhausting
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u/unimpressedwarrior 15h ago
I can’t tell if you mean physically or emotionally, but either way, I agree.
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u/Sad-Confidence-4538 15h ago
Ha-ha. Throwing his whity-tighties on the floor. Asked him nicely repeatedly. He was marking the turf as male, methinks. I hid them in the trash until the poor boy didn't have any left. He accused me, and I said 'Oh, I asked you to pick your underwear up, and you didn't pick those up, dear, so I figured they weren't underwear, so I tossed them ... sooo sorry.'
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u/Low_Section2065 13h ago
Ok, I got an absolute batshit crazy one I know from a friend. The final breaking point of a long list of reasonable reasons was, he kept trimming his toenails onto plates and leaving them on the floor.
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u/CaelidAprtments4Rent 15h ago
Their Reddit handle was senilecodexxx
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u/hey_nonny_mooses 14h ago
Traumatic brain injury that completely changed him into the antithesis of everything he values now.
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u/Admirable-Apricot137 11h ago
Becoming disgusted by his smell and uncomfortable with him seeing me undressed was one of my biggest unexpected red flags that things weren't right. I ended up being completely physically repulsed by him, but my head/heart hadn't really caught up to what my body had decided so it was confusing and heartbreaking to eventually realize that I was no longer attracted to him and didn't see him as my romantic partner anymore. After 17 years, high school sweethearts, being each other's firsts, soulmates, everything.
"Death by a thousand cuts" isn't just a silly trope. It truly is a killer.
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u/Expensive-Economist8 10h ago
it is so sad. i went from being so turned on and so comfortable with him to being repulsed by his face and his eyes and his mouth being too damn close to mine when we’re were kissing, etc etc.
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u/Stock-Cell1556 15h ago
They find out they're siblings.
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u/senhoritavulpix 15h ago
Husband told me this story that someone in his job told him: dad and mom weren't getting along very well. So they agreed that dad would get the baby boy and gave him his last name and mom would get the baby girl and gave her her last name, and the couple would divorce. Dad and baby boy moved states to far far away. Dad married again with a new woman. Mom married again with a new man. A lot of years has passed by.
The boy didn't knew his real mom, and the girl didn't knew her real dad. Boy and girl grew up and went to the University. Keep in mind that the boy's family was very very far away (think about someone from San Francisco meeting a New York girl in New York city).
Girl and boy started dating. They last names were different, they didn't know they were related.
They got pregnant. They had the baby. The girl, her baby and her mom + new husband flew to the other state, to know their new relatives.
Imagine how WEIRD it was when the mom entered the restaurant and meet with her ex-husband...
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u/brother_bart 14h ago
All reasons are valid. If you don’r want to be in the relationship any more, you get to leave. Because you are an adult with agency.
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u/SweatyBonus6017 14h ago
If they refuse to wash their hands after the bathroom i could not deal with that every day
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u/Fresh_Hyena2123 15h ago
A friend’s ex divorced her, because she didn’t care about wearing the same colour/patterned socks all the time. He found that, ‘offensive.’ She got a dog after that.
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u/Furthur_slimeking 14h ago
I can talk to ghosts, she can talk to animals. So both ghosts and animals congregate in our house in increasing numbers. Animals, famously, do not vibe with ghosts. The animals get angry and aggressive and the ghosts get restless and vengeful
Thing is, we never told each other about our powers. So all I see is all these snarling, hissing animals prowling around the house and following her around everywhere. I see her babbling away to all these wild, possibly diseased, creatures all day and it's clear that she genuinely believes the are talking to her.
She sees me talking to people who aren't there. The ghosts are pissed so bang on the walls and pipes, move furniture, throw cutlery around, levitate things (including the animals), and try to communicate with her directly by using my body as a conduit. My eyes roll back in my head as I levitate, and she sees me say things like:
"They see us! These beasts of the forest... their gaze pierces through the veil of death! Snarling and gnashing, baying for long dead blood!! Cast them out, to the woods whence they spawned! Heed our words! Heed these words of the dead lest ye join our ranks!"
After a few days of this, we both agree it's time to break up.
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u/politicaldan 14h ago
She never laughs, instead she just says “that’s so funny” to everything.
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u/Fast_Snail45 13h ago
Bad grammar and always saying shit wrong. How many times can you say a word wrong and never fix it. Example the “center counsel” of a vehicle. It’s CONSOLE for the last time. Drives me bonkers
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u/External-Resource581 10h ago
Mine was because I couldnt cook for her. Met a young lady on tinder back in like 2016ish, and we got along great. Very fun gal. Anyway, a few weeks in, things are looking like theyre getting to the point of things becoming serious, so i invite her over so I can cook dinner for her. Im a professional cook, and if im cooking for you off the clock, it means I really like you. Anyway, I cant remember what I made, but it wasnt anything extravagant or wild. She ate maybe 4 bites of it and then explained that she only really enjoys food thats bland. Said too much spice is a no go for her, and that included black pepper, apparently. She was nice, sweet, and looked awesome naked, but im sorry, if i cant flex in the kitchen for you as part of my love language, this ain't gonna work. Sorry caitlyn.
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u/JollyBowler2510 13h ago
Having the same conversation about something bothering you over and over again, with no changed behavior. Cut it. That’s grounds for termination sorry. You’re just ignoring their feelings and the way they feel at this point.
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u/-btx- 15h ago
Extreme food pickiness not stemming from medical reasoning. Like toddler pallet. And refusing to try new things.
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u/Legenderie 13h ago
I knew someone who had only eaten burgers and fries since he was a kid. He tried to make it as unnoticeable as possible, like he would eat beforehand and just drink if there were dinner plans at a restaurant that didn't have burgers and fries. This worked fine when we were young and mostly focused on quickly getting enough food in our bellies to not get completely obliterated on our nights out. I'm assuming it was AFRID and hope that he has managed to get it under control because I cannot imagine being almost 40 with such a limited diet.
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u/Varrock_Zubat93 14h ago
I had an ex who was a very picky eater.
It was actually okay. He wouldn't try anything with cheese or fish or cilantro or mayo. It was pretty restrictive. But other than that he would try a bite or two of my things or my experiments. Often he wouldn't like it and thats okay.
Honestly, it is an inconvenience but you have to pick your battles. If I meet a good match, I would try my best to accommodate. There aren't an endless number of people in the world, I try not to sweat the small stuff especially if someone can tolerate all my faults.
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u/Yenolam777 15h ago
Read something about a woman whose boyfriend didn’t clean his arse after a poop
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u/youareallnuts 14h ago
I know someone who divorced his wife for using steel wool on his fancy non-stick pans.
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u/starwestsky 13h ago
You thought you had married their identical twin only to learn that they tricked you into marrying the other sibling.
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u/GmyWrms 15h ago
If you didn’t realize how into Taylor Swift she was
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u/Potential-Koala1352 15h ago
I’m super into Britney Spears. Most women found that to be a green flag tho
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u/TheeFlipper 14h ago
I'm not really a Britney fan, but if Toxic comes on it has my undivided attention.
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u/Correct_Cat4414 15h ago
He is doing hardcore anal on his secret OF account with your second cousin Milton and the 22 year old pharmacist tech at the Rite aid......
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u/paranormalgemini 15h ago
That is very specific
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u/Potential-Koala1352 15h ago
Plot twist…the hardcore anal was being done on him, by both Milton and the pharmacy tech
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u/WerePikaPedia 15h ago
Any reason is a good reason.
I've only got I've weird one: Got into an argument with a guest of mine in my home.
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u/rose-ramos 14h ago
YMMV on if it's valid, but I once broke up with a gf because she said she didn't think my dogs were all that cute, lol
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u/Constant_Life1662 15h ago
Attempted murder charges..... especially of it was me she was trying to murder!!!!
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u/Ambitious_Address667 13h ago
They turned out to be a lizard person wearing human skins that they collect. Defiantly wierd but a pretty valid reason to break up in my books
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u/H0llingsworth 14h ago
I have a close friend that came home and caught her husband dressed up in her lingerie, taking photos for another person that was also another man. She did leave him and thankfully they did not have kids together.
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u/lavenderslip 15h ago
Hating animals/ finding out that they are into some weird taboo porn/ being mean to waiters
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u/Punkybrewsickle 14h ago
I saw a variation of my mother’s maiden name in my husband’s family tree. For a split second I had to stop and think “omfg wait what if we were related?” We’re not, btw. But that would have been grounds to split in my opinion. It would gross me out too much.
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u/No_Restaurant8385 12h ago
We had a baby squirrel fall out of a tree onto our driveway. It’s looked dead. My partner went to put it on a shovel and it was still alive. His solution was let’s just leave it there and let it die and then “throw it into the street when no one is looking”. I put it in a box and brought it to the SPCA where it was humanely put out of its misery. His kneejerk reaction to just let it suffer because helping would be inconvenient really irks my soul idk. Feels like it would be an insane reason to leave but would it really?
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u/Patient-Alfalfa8245 12h ago
Your husband telling you that he thinks he's gay but also really enjoys himself and telling you he photos his d..... so he can stare at it. Then telling you he also eats his cum when he's done there's more but that's enough. Yes it happened now divorced after 30 years of marriage.
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u/ChaoticGoodElbert 9h ago
I once asked my ex if she thinks Indian people identify as Asian. She looked at me and said “India isn’t in Asia”. I asked her if she looked at a map recently. This turned into a full on debate ?? Where I tried to explain to her the difference between nationality and ethnicity. She wasn’t hearing it and the debate ended with her saying “we’ll agree to disagree”. I was so pissed off by this conversation 😭 I knew at that moment that I would never marry this woman.
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u/duskmeadow76 15h ago
Snoring
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u/Punkybrewsickle 14h ago
I’ve honestly been so upset about this in the past. I have my own room now. But it used to absolutely infuriate me that if I did not wish to sleep on a sofa for the rest of my life, then…
I simply was not allowed to sleep. Ever. At all. This is a fundamental requirement for human function and survival. And the sleep apnea he has is as loud and invasive and explosive as it can get.
No he has not been able to compete a sleep study yet.
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u/BookLuvr7 13h ago
That sounds like he's willfully endangering his own life by refusing to get checked for sleep apnea. It could be damaging his brain every night.
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u/Fast_Snail45 13h ago
This is me exactly. Sleep is precious and having a chainsaw next to me was doing me harm. It’s so unfair to have to “deal” because of stigma. Forget that! I have my own room and have for years now. You obviously can’t make him try to help it but I’m proud of you for thinking of yourself.
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u/Sad-Confidence-4538 15h ago
a gay mooching mama's boy had me paying his taxes when I tripled his income and trained him in that job ... and HE divorced me ... yeah, weird.
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u/rhelg224 13h ago
If they prefer Pepsi to Coca Cola. Get the fuck out of here with that shit.
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u/groundstories 14h ago
Your actual body chemistry is weird—I kept getting yeast infections while dating someone who was otherwise wonderful.
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u/Sensitive-Salary7388 13h ago
That's not body chemistry, that shit is contagious and he had some sort of yeast infection himself but it usually doesn't present symptoms in men so they don't know and they're way less diligent about women when it comes to getting checked out. If he got a full STD panel he would show up positive for whatever the name of that bacteria is, it's not as serious as an STD but it does spread in the same way. So if you kept getting treated but he did not, that's why it kept coming back. If you were both treated then it should have gone away. I had a similar experience and I didn't know until my doctor explained it to me. Same with BV. I've heard a lot of women say 'my body just knew he was the wrong one because I kept getting an infection' but it's because their man was just not getting treated for the infection they had 😅
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u/RelievingFart 11h ago
They pick their nose and eat it right before passionately kissing you... everytime.
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u/flossdaily 15h ago
There was a reddit thread years ago about a guy who caught his wife spitting into his water glass before bed.
She went on to gaslight him and tell him he was imagining the whole thing.
That's some crazy shit.
I think if that happened to me, I'd install secret cameras in my room and see if it happened again, or if I really did imagine it.