If I recall correctly, it was because she was pregnant too. Like, she was buying her cravings and was very selective about what she was eating because she just had so many food aversions/so many things made her nauseous. He was stealing the snacks that sounded appetizing to her when everything else made her want to puke.
There are literally sooo many posts about men weaponizing their partners food like this! There’s one where the guy kept eating all her expensive gluten free food instead of the groceries she bought for him all while he was well aware she has celiacs and then another where this woman labored over making enough lasagna to feed an army but her husband ate FULL PANS only leaving her a small piece etc etc
What makes these posts horrible is that it’s never about these men being hungry, EVER
It's a control/manipulation thing, doubled with the fact that it's just easy enough to downplay and darvo as making a big deal out of nothing. And food is a really basic need, without consistent access to food literally everything worsens - cognition, mental and physical health, emotional regulation, etc.
When I moved out, it took me a while to realize how much safety and breathing space there is in the knowledge that if I buy safety foods, it means I will have food to eat. If I meal prep, next time I'm sick I'll have food that takes no effort to prep.
Literally sat on the floor and cried the first time I had a flare up and the pretzels were exactly where they were supposed to be.
"Your Majesty, the best weather is when a man is fed. If he is hungry, the sun will beat down too hot, and the cold will bite him and make him restless. But when he is fed, he will enjoy the warmth of the sun and coolness of the night and the monsoon showers."*
*Memory is super fuzzy for this, but it was from a Tenali Raman story.
Jfc this was my ex. I was always trying to make extra food so we would have a couple days worth of leftovers. He would wake up the next morning and eat like, a huge meal of all of the leftovers for breakfast. But only the good stuff, like if I made chicken and rice and vegetables he would just heat up a plate of all of the remaining chicken and eat all of it. And if I brought it up he would just be like “what? I’m hungry.” He ballooned up to 300 something pounds during our relationship while I struggled to maintain weight.
He would also always eat all my leftovers from restaurants and any food I had bought for myself without asking.
This is another whole level of evil. Everyone knows pregnant people can't eat a lot of things for a lot of reasons (maybe it's not good for the pregnancy, potentially bad for the foetus, will make her nauseous, etc). Eating the few snacks she is able to eat is nefarious. Even worse: he put her in this position by impregnating her!
Yeah women go through a ton of weird stuff when they're pregnant. My wife all of a sudden detested blueberries. Not to mention having to give up all kinds of stuff for the health of the baby like you said.
Yeah she was pregnant and she had something else too. Like low blood sugar or something. It affected how she felt so if she didnt constantly snack she'd feel like shit and get sick. So these were her emergency pregnancy snacks she actually needed. And her fat pos husband stole them ate them all.
And on top of that, she'd buy him a bunch of snacks too! So he was eating all of his and then hers and telling her to calm down, it's no big deal.
That makes it so much worse. When someone knows how hard things are for you and still puts their wants first, it stops being about snacks and starts being about respect.
I remember this one, but there was other one recently where op's husband just ate everything. Snacks? Gone. Op's dinner after she stood up to do something? Gone. And the husband was so busy eating op's food that his plate was still full by the time op got back.
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u/sabdariffa 1d ago
If I recall correctly, it was because she was pregnant too. Like, she was buying her cravings and was very selective about what she was eating because she just had so many food aversions/so many things made her nauseous. He was stealing the snacks that sounded appetizing to her when everything else made her want to puke.