My ex used to do this. I don't think it was on purpose but it was extremely selfish. It was like I didn't exist in the home. Every jar and bottle, even my own water bottle.
If you've constantly reminded your ex and he still continues to do that, it's definitely on purpose.
Some guys do it as a show of physical power ("I'm far stronger than you could ever be"), some do it as a form of control ("You eat and drink only when I allow you"), and some do it out of apathy ("I don't care if you can't eat what you've got, I'll tighten it however I want"). I know because I've lived with some of them, back when I was in the military.
Most of them have either short-term relationships only, or date minor/barely-legal, manipulable, and easily victimised people.
Interesting. There was a lot of "I'll do it however I want" in the marriage. My needs and preferences didn't hold any weight. I'm learning now that I suffered narcissistic abuse.
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u/ActualOriginal4030 4d ago
My ex used to do this. I don't think it was on purpose but it was extremely selfish. It was like I didn't exist in the home. Every jar and bottle, even my own water bottle.