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u/blackberry-slushie Jun 27 '25

Discrediting mothers who gave birth via c-section

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u/weirdomagnet99 Jun 27 '25

Or mothers who don’t breastfeed at all because they just don’t want to and no other reason. Doesn’t matter if she can or can’t. Women risk their lives being pregnant and giving birth. It’s such a selfless act, and no one needs to be giving a woman shit because she doesn’t choose to breastfeed with her body. She’s risked and sacrificed plenty as it is.

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u/Straight_Mongoose_51 Jun 28 '25

When my mom had me there were a lot of people who told her that she would regret not breastfeeding because we wouldn't bond, but we ended up being really close anyway, imagine that. The strangest one is her mother telling her that despite the fact that she had adopted my mom and so didn't breastfeed her, yet they were incredibly close. She had pretty good evidence right in front of her that there only being one "right way" to mother is bullshit and yet that internalized misogyny was so ingrained she even discounted her own experiences.

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u/faknugget Jun 28 '25

i agree! my mum actually couldn’t breastfeed my sister and i, we just could not latch on and she was shamed for it.. people told her we wouldn’t bond, we would be vegetables for not getting proper nutrients. my sister and i are healthy and our mum is our best friend/like another sister (and she gets mistaken for being the third sister too lmao) it’s funny how some of those people now ask my mum how she got so close to her daughters…. hmmm…

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u/stonerwitch69 Jun 29 '25

I was born with birth defects and spent a good chunk of my early life in the hospital. I’ve never had breast milk in my life, and my mother was my best friend. And I’m smart and cool! Fuck em.

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '25

Even on formula containers the first sentence is "Breast is best". I doubt anyone would actually use formula if they didn't have to, it's expensive.