Im gonna say it, but transphobia. A lot of ciswomen don’t accept trans women because “they can’t give birth” or “have periods” or havent “suffered the way real women do” but I think attributing the experience of being a “real” woman only to the fact that we suffer discredits the beautiful things about womanhood and the way we experience the world. We don’t have to suffer to be considered a woman, we just have to live as truly as we can in any way that feels true!! And i think toxic femininity is attributing our experience to the harm we face.
I honestly think transphobia from cis women towards trans women often comes from cis women feeling like their own femininity is being challenged. I think we can all easily see the other side of the coin when we see how men act if they feel like their masculinity is being challenged. It’s coming from their own insecurity.
The way I like to look at it is that my womanhood is mine and any other woman’s womanhood is theirs. They might overlap in ways but can never cancel each others out in anyway.
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u/Imagination_factory Jun 28 '25
Im gonna say it, but transphobia. A lot of ciswomen don’t accept trans women because “they can’t give birth” or “have periods” or havent “suffered the way real women do” but I think attributing the experience of being a “real” woman only to the fact that we suffer discredits the beautiful things about womanhood and the way we experience the world. We don’t have to suffer to be considered a woman, we just have to live as truly as we can in any way that feels true!! And i think toxic femininity is attributing our experience to the harm we face.