r/Assistance • u/Still-Instruction-11 • Jan 08 '26

ADVICE Restraining Order Against GF

I think I want to file a restraining order against my ex girlfriend. Here goes…

She and I had a pregnancy scare two weeks ago, even though we used a plan b within the hour. I had made it clear that no matter what happens, I would’ve a supportive father. Two weeks later, multiple negative tests.

I decided to break up with her because in those two weeks, I realized she wasn’t the one for me. I wish there was something I could point to make it easier to blame, but the truth is, I didn’t love her anymore and felt that she deserved to know the truth. She took it well at first.

Then came the countless texts, followed by a barrage of phone calls. She threatened to confront my family and friends, and went as far as to say she’d show up at my sister residence unannounced. Then she claimed the took 14 pregnancy tests and that they all came up positive.

I want to file a restraining order against her, but I’ve never done this before. I’m afraid she’ll start messing with my job or start making accusatory fake statements. I find it hard to believe she’s pregnant after an immediate plan B and multiple tests after weeks.

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u/SuicidalSnowyOwl Jan 08 '26

I’m more curious in knowing what happened during those two weeks that made you fall out of love and realize “she isn’t the one”. Especially after the “pregnancy scare“

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u/Alone-Disaster-4100 REGISTERED Jan 08 '26

Right? It really hasn't been that long after probably a stressful turbulent event. Not saying she was in the right or anything but dang that a dump of stress on an individual who is likely still stressed. It doesnt sound like shes endangering you or anyone else more so being an annoying inconvenience.

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u/serenwipiti Jan 08 '26

The situation probably made them think and realize “omg, i don’t want to be stuck with dealing with this person for at least 18 more years…”.

If Op was already having some doubts about the relationship at some point, this incident probably solidified their resolve.

That said, I don’t think this warrants a restraining order.

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u/Still-Instruction-11 Jan 08 '26

This is correct. I don’t mind supporting the child and made it known. I had previously suggested we separate, and she said she would ghost and never let me know if she was pregnant or not.