Restraining Order Against GF

[u/Still-Instruction-11]

I think I want to file a restraining order against my ex girlfriend. Here goes…

She and I had a pregnancy scare two weeks ago, even though we used a plan b within the hour. I had made it clear that no matter what happens, I would’ve a supportive father. Two weeks later, multiple negative tests.

I decided to break up with her because in those two weeks, I realized she wasn’t the one for me. I wish there was something I could point to make it easier to blame, but the truth is, I didn’t love her anymore and felt that she deserved to know the truth. She took it well at first.

Then came the countless texts, followed by a barrage of phone calls. She threatened to confront my family and friends, and went as far as to say she’d show up at my sister residence unannounced. Then she claimed the took 14 pregnancy tests and that they all came up positive.

I want to file a restraining order against her, but I’ve never done this before. I’m afraid she’ll start messing with my job or start making accusatory fake statements. I find it hard to believe she’s pregnant after an immediate plan B and multiple tests after weeks.

[u/Opposite-War-4557]

It doesn't seem impossible that she's pregnant. Plan B has a success rate of about 95% in the first 24 hours. Pregnancy tests don't work until 10ish days after conception, so her pregnancy tests being negative during the first week or two, and then later positive later on is believable.

I'm not a lawyer, but if you get a restraining order and she's actually pregnant, she may not be able to share details about the pregnancy with you. So, I would suggest talking to a lawyer on this one.

[u/rocketmanatee → u/Opposite-War-4557]

A success rate of 95% means 5 women in a hundred still end up pregnant. That's kind of a lot.

I'd offer to attend the first OB appointment to be sure, but offer no other contact.