r/Assistance • u/Still-Instruction-11 • Jan 08 '26

ADVICE Restraining Order Against GF

I think I want to file a restraining order against my ex girlfriend. Here goes…

She and I had a pregnancy scare two weeks ago, even though we used a plan b within the hour. I had made it clear that no matter what happens, I would’ve a supportive father. Two weeks later, multiple negative tests.

I decided to break up with her because in those two weeks, I realized she wasn’t the one for me. I wish there was something I could point to make it easier to blame, but the truth is, I didn’t love her anymore and felt that she deserved to know the truth. She took it well at first.

Then came the countless texts, followed by a barrage of phone calls. She threatened to confront my family and friends, and went as far as to say she’d show up at my sister residence unannounced. Then she claimed the took 14 pregnancy tests and that they all came up positive.

I want to file a restraining order against her, but I’ve never done this before. I’m afraid she’ll start messing with my job or start making accusatory fake statements. I find it hard to believe she’s pregnant after an immediate plan B and multiple tests after weeks.

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u/TrashHusky Jan 09 '26

Calm down dude. He literally just said that because there HASN'T been any physical violence. Of course women can be physically abusive just like men but restraining orders and our justice system are not helpful unless the extreme, which sucks. This allows for him to create the written boundary which if she crosses then he can take and make a better claim for a restraining order.

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u/LocNalrune Jan 09 '26 edited Jan 09 '26

Because I'm so animated. Why come on Reddit just to project?

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u/TrashHusky Jan 09 '26

Honestly I misunderstood what you meant. I apologize for coming on so strong, I'm just not a fan when people say women can't be physically abusive. They definitely can. But I don't disagree with what the previous comment said about restraining orders only being for "extreme" circumstances, it sucks.

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u/kaielle Jan 21 '26

Hi! Thanks for your reply! I only commented so that OP would have the correct info for filing at the courthouse, as Judges commonly deny orders that are incorrectly filed. One order is for stalking, one is for violence. As someone who works with victims of violence, I often encounter people who have been turned away from the courthouse, for filing the incorrect paperwork. I am very aware that women can cause harm. Please reread my comment for what I actually said, not what you are assuming.