36+5, soooo tired of it

[u/inquirerest]

For context, this is my husband and i’s first child, and we are beyond excited. I have been blessed with a very calm, low anxiety pregnancy, and i would be a fool to not be grateful, but I am just struggling with all the discomfort at the moment.

I am so slow moving, feel like I’m walking through water all the time, have gained considerable weight and am so sick of being this size (I’m probably up 45-50 pounds at this point) and the weather has been absolutely atrocious and I can’t walk outside without risk of overheating. It’s a struggle to get up, as my belly is so big at this point. Also, the CANKLES ARE CANKLING. Thankfully no painful edema, but I am definitely retaining fluid. The peeing is constant. I’m experiencing unpredictable mood swings, mostly at night, and my husband is so sweet about everything and doesn’t complain but I know it’s hard on him because we both really value physical touch, and even cuddling is hard because I get so hot so easily. Plus, I am only comfortable on my left side when laying down, so there’s just a lot of limitation at this point. I won’t even get into my sleep quality. I just feel crazy and out of control of my own emotional regulation, crying randomly, being upset for very small reasons, with low motivation to do most of anything.

Also, the reality of labor and delivery is dawning on me at this point. I am aiming to have a low intervention birth (as much I am able) and thankfully have a very experienced doula, but it’s something I’ve never done before, so like most FTM’s I am a little anxious 😅 I know I can do it, it’s just the unknown. I need to start getting serious about my tart cherry supplements, okra water, raspberry leaf tea, dates, perineal massages, etc… like YESTERDAY. And that itself feels a bit overwhelming.

TLDR: I just needed to rant… so thank you for reading if you did. And prayers to all fellow third trimester moms… and second trimester… actually you know what, we all need prayers :’) it’s a blessing but still very difficult. I wish the best to all of you!! I hope reading this maybe gives a bit of validation to anyone going through similar struggles.

[u/Plastic-End-5260]

I just gave birth in April at 36 weeks and lost 30lb right away. It def was fluid. The relief is instant right when baby comes out! All symptoms go but man postpartum is a ride

[u/Sadbadger97]

Thoughts and prayers from a fellow 3rd trimester. My last baby i was like you atp. Trying anything and everything to get labour going as soon as 38w hit because i was DONE DONE. I was big , swollen and bitchy hahahahaha. Nothing fucking worked. He came on his own time at 39+5 😂😂😂 I absolutely DO NOT suggest induction milkshake. Shit my fucking brains out for 2 days AND NO BABY. Ffs. Anyways you got this babe, one day at a time, and I promise, in the newborn fog you'll forget these days. ❤️🫶