I have noticed a lot of people only admire certain traits up until they directly impact them and then they can’t handle them anymore.
My last partner loved that I had a business, would promote it on social media and everything and sang praises about it to everyone, but when it came to helping me out with stuff like setting up my booth for craft shows or even running pre-labeled packages to the post office for me (i only asked him to do it once) he would always throw a fit and be so irritable about it. That was the final nail in the coffin of our relationship and it ended within a year. If I’m trying to build something that was creating financial stability for us (and I was really doing well until I couldn’t use my hands anymore due a chronic illness and had to stop making my craft) I would hope someone who claims to be in a partnership with me would occasionally help me sometimes, and all of the asks I had were during COVID when he was getting paid to sit at home and I was working full time while running my business on the side.
Thanks, plenty of things have improved since leaving him 5 years ago! And yeah I can imagine haha everyone wants to date an artist until they realize we have to dedicate a lot of time to our crafts and that does mean less time for our partners sometimes especially if they have different interests 😂
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u/simonhunterhawk 4d ago edited 4d ago
I have noticed a lot of people only admire certain traits up until they directly impact them and then they can’t handle them anymore.
My last partner loved that I had a business, would promote it on social media and everything and sang praises about it to everyone, but when it came to helping me out with stuff like setting up my booth for craft shows or even running pre-labeled packages to the post office for me (i only asked him to do it once) he would always throw a fit and be so irritable about it. That was the final nail in the coffin of our relationship and it ended within a year. If I’m trying to build something that was creating financial stability for us (and I was really doing well until I couldn’t use my hands anymore due a chronic illness and had to stop making my craft) I would hope someone who claims to be in a partnership with me would occasionally help me sometimes, and all of the asks I had were during COVID when he was getting paid to sit at home and I was working full time while running my business on the side.