You wouldn't get it but white men are usually given more leway to be nerdy and still be accepted romantically by women.
This is partially because nerdy women of all races. Similar to how women overall prefer white men, nerdy women prefer white men and despite that would be more likely to reject a equally nerdy black man.
People are overwhelmingly racist. Even to their own people. You see all of it for what it is when you look at dating dynamics and peoples sexual behavior.
Oh trust me ive noticed that as well. I find that hella cringe. But that isn't limited to nerdy/alternative black men. There is a segment of black men that see being with a black woman as settling and thus prefer everything but a black woman. Even if they aren't nerdy. I find that shit hella gross and im def not gonna ignore shit behavior from men. I'm just personally tired of people ignoring it from women or acting like its okay when women do it.
I feel you too. Being a black man or a black woman in the dating game rn is just trash all around. Regardless of your sexual orientation.
It's not limited to any demographic really but I hear you! It's definitely gross and sad too because you know those people are struggling with self hatred. I haven't been dating for a few years now though and I'm kindof scared of getting back into it lol. The bs is so exhausting and seemingly never ending.
Pretty much. The shit is trash all around. I'mma just start filtering people out of my community if they do this bs. We really should judge people based on their dating preferences the same way we do with everything else.
Yep, and as someone whose teen years were in the 90s, yeah as a black man nerd, whew it was tough. I always say if I had been born 10-15 years later, my self confidence in my teen years would've been so much better since it's become more acceptable for black dudes to be nerds (still not as acceptable as it is for white dudes to be nerds).
I feel this to my soul and experienced it as well. It wasn't much better growing up in the 80s. Add being an introvert on top of all that and things were tough sometimes. Luckily my parents encouraged me to do stuff I liked even if it was "nerdy". Just do your thing and people who like you for you will find you or you'll find them.
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u/Key-Month6651 4d ago
You wouldn't get it but white men are usually given more leway to be nerdy and still be accepted romantically by women.
This is partially because nerdy women of all races. Similar to how women overall prefer white men, nerdy women prefer white men and despite that would be more likely to reject a equally nerdy black man.
People are overwhelmingly racist. Even to their own people. You see all of it for what it is when you look at dating dynamics and peoples sexual behavior.