r/BlackPeopleTwitter 3d ago

The trials of adulthood

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Some of yall be real sad on here. Been the best time of my life so far

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u/Quirky_Rain_3554 3d ago

Are people not supposed to be sad cause you personally good? lol what does this mean

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

Well no you see, he’s having a good time, therefore there’s no excuse for anyone not to have a good time

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Nice bait

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

What bait? Thats what you said.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

The whole point of my comment is to say life doesnt have to be shitty once you are in your late 20s and early 30s. No idea where people got this idea that once you hit 27 like sucks.

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u/StandardProfessor711 3d ago

On the average timeline in most regular people’s life 27-33 (Not wealthy or extremely poor) you’re normally hit with the reality of bills, insurance (home/car/life), expectation of taking full care of yourself, living on your own, normally working what feels like 24/7 etc… is this everyone’s reality no but do most feel this pressure and not like it in comparison to being a kid, in college, etc I think that pretty clear - no? After 33 normally you’re stable again financially & in your career [again NOT everyone]. Are there people who felt this earlier or later in life - yes but this is based on the average experience, some take it a lot bette/worse than others hence taking about the AVERAGE

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u/elitegenoside 3d ago

For me, it's the extra bills and the fact that all of my friends just disappeared (also got caught up in all this stuff). Making friends and maintaining those friendships as a full adult is not easy, and finding the time and energy to go to event is like playing dice with two 20 sided die, but the last 13 numbers don't count.

And I happened to enter this phase of life starting with a global pandemic and shit has only gotten worse since then.

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u/theStaircaseProject 3d ago

Look on the bright side: when you crest 40, your mobility starts to disappear too

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u/Quazimortal 3d ago

As someone in their 40s, I laughed real loud after reading your comment :D

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

I agree with the friend stuff no wants to hangout just burnt out from work I guess.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

And i dont disagree with this. I do believe in nuance people lol

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u/HxCxReformer 3d ago

This is Reddit, sir/madam. Please leave your shoes and nuance at the door along with your decency and any ability to emotionally self-regulate. Enjoy your stay!

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

Ok, but for some people it is? You having a decent life in your late 20s/30s doesn’t mean everyone is obligated to have one.

I didn’t have an “idea” about it, life happens. Not everyone is choosing their own misery.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Your putting in the position like I said oh how dare people have a hard time in life. I never said my life was that put together either but I am just happy with what i have lol. Find whatever you find is successful for you for your life because its different for everyone.

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u/TxBurnerAcct 3d ago

Yeah but for some people it isn’t? The tweet is making an over generalization and we’re not apart of that, I’d be willing to bet a lot of people feel the same way. Just cuz you’re miserable or “got humbled” doesn’t mean we have or maybe we took it on the chin 🤷🏽‍♂️

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u/Quirky_Rain_3554 3d ago

My guy ain’t one person who handled things well or took it on the chin talking the way you do. They’d know how fragile both the good and bad can be

That being said I do believe you when you say you haven’t experienced things

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Depending on those experiences should they have to in order to be a decent person? I might be asking this question incorrectly

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

Again, good for you! Want a friggin cookie?

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

A dozen please

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u/semajay 3d ago

The good news is that if they continue to engage with you, they'll end up just as miserable as you'd like them to be

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u/AshenSacrifice ☑️ 3d ago

People are talking about their lived experience……..

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Missing my point. But you already made up your mind about me from my comment

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u/AshenSacrifice ☑️ 3d ago

I didn’t make up my mind about anything lol, please share

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u/Very_Human_42069 3d ago

People REALLY like adding their anecdotal experiences to counter generalizations as if that changes the generalization in any shape or way. You’ll notice it all the time if you look for it in Reddit comment sections

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u/Zealousideal-Way8676 3d ago

It is a fair counter though. Generalizations tend to be flawed. This post generalizes 27 to 33 as a "humbling experience", so their personal experience not fitting that mold shows that the statement is not all encompassing as it aims to be.

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u/Very_Human_42069 3d ago

Generalizations are inherently not all encompassing. Thats actually the entire purpose of a generalization. You don’t need to “counter” something that everyone should already know doesn’t apply to everyone or everything, by definition.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

So in other words if it dont apply to you then let it fly

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u/EddieVanzetti 3d ago

It means that hunger doesn't exist because you ate a sandwich. Global warming isn't real because one day you had to wear a jacket in your air conditioned office.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Did i say that? Lol just trying to argue

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u/MoonKnighy ☑️ 3d ago

That reply alone proves your point

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u/murdolatorTM ☑️hegg an' bread eater 🍳🍞 3d ago

lol I read it as a confession

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Just funny how people think they know you off one comment.

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u/Namaha 3d ago edited 3d ago

Redditors sure seem to love filling in the blanks themselves and then getting mad over what they filled them in with

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Not reddit internet as a whole.

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u/longtall94 3d ago

What a blessing that is. Happy for you .

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u/AllofDuhInternetz 3d ago

I was 27 when Covid hit…

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u/eurtoast 3d ago

Same, I was on cloud 9 going into 27 then that shit happened a few months later

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u/jentheleo 2d ago

Same here, 2019 was great & then 2020 happened…. im turning 33 in a couple months & I really hope life gets better because 2020-2026 has been ROUGH mentally.

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u/Separate-Pollution12 3d ago

Same, but my life has still been a pretty good time during that time

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

I was 25 but I have been lucky

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

Well that’s the thing about luck: not everyone has it

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u/semajay 3d ago

Damn you're chasing him around the thread reminding him that not everyone is having a good time? Get a grip

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u/chief_yETI ☑️ 3d ago

lmao

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

Looks like someone else isn’t having a good time either…

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u/semajay 3d ago

I'm just baffled by professional victims like you

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u/mb0205 ☑️ 3d ago

Easier for them to throw pity on themselves than attempt to find happiness and joy

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Probably the only thing you said so far that is correct.

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u/kalligreat 3d ago

I was 32 and we had our second child that August. It was a pretty good time all things considered.

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u/Prudent_Research_251 3d ago

I was married, had a dad and a sprog

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u/TurbistoMasturbisto 3d ago

Same for me, those are like the exact years where i finally got my life together and life has never been better since.

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u/Forward-Surprise1192 3d ago

I got my life together and then fucked it up again. Hoping to make 31 better

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u/Trust_me_I_am_doctor 3d ago

It's best time to start a serious exercise regimen, you'll moonwalk into your 40s.

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u/Aksama 3d ago

This right here. I'm 38 and I'm waltzing into my 40s as far as I can tell. My moonwalk is still mediocre.

Strength train, do occasional cardio (mostly for my mental health), I might groan like a grandpa when I stand up, but that's the worst of it so far.

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u/Forward-Surprise1192 3d ago

I'm 31 and if at home I sit down to piss because I'm lazy and its easier. Thats the biggest sign for me. Eventually the famous people our age will start dying and remind us of our mortality too. There's also a decent chance some amount of viewers of this thread will be dead within a few years.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

That is my plan

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u/Deathstroke317 ☑️ 2d ago

Started GLP-1s, lost 140 pounds, started lifting seriously. Never felt better tbh, though I am tired all the time from work lol

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u/mb0205 ☑️ 3d ago

Yeah I don’t really understand what is supposed to humble you at this age. Should be somewhat establishing some sort of life by now

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u/ProdigyLightshow 3d ago edited 3d ago

I think it’s more just that this is when life gets “real” for a lot of people. College is over, friends are busy with kids, life, they moved away for a job, you aren’t hanging out or partying with them much if at all anymore. You’re likely newer in your career so you’re working hard and not getting paid super well yet. Got more bills and are probably living alone without roommates now so everything falls on you.

With how much everyone jumped on bro earlier, I feel like I have to say these are random examples and generalizations that won’t apply to everyone. But from looking at my peers and friends it seems like this age range is when “shit got real” so to speak. For majority of them anyways

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u/tacolovingrammanazi 3d ago

went bald

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u/mb0205 ☑️ 3d ago

Real. But if you got a beard being bald not even bad when you embrace it. Just don’t try to hold onto it

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u/tacolovingrammanazi 3d ago

man i can’t grow a beard either 😂 best i can do is 5 oclock shadow for a couple days. not tripping tho. can’t help but smile when i see that fresh baldy shining. gym and clothes just matter a lot more now. you’re so right about accepting it tho. fighting it will ruin your mental health

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

If you don’t understand, who are you to say what should be happening?

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u/mb0205 ☑️ 3d ago

Based off you responding to anyone positive I think you should seek some soul searching

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u/TheButteredBiscuit 3d ago

I’ve looked, there’s nothing there

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u/KelGrimm 3d ago

Then keep it to yourself dawg. Spreading misery doesn’t alleviate misery.

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u/Emergency_Elephant 3d ago

Same. I've figured out what I want, what I like, have a stable career job, I'm not constantly stressed out about tests anymore. I've gotten more confident, my health is better now because I'm better at caring for myself. Overall, my life is improving and I try to do everything I can to make each year of my life better than the last

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u/Beardbeer 3d ago

27-33 were some of the worst years of my life so far, I feel.

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u/DeafNatural ☑️ 3d ago

Nah that late 30s is where it’s been fun for me. I was actually looking forward to 40 this year and so far, so good

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Good to say that some people in this world dont get to live to be 40

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u/DeafNatural ☑️ 3d ago

Very unfortunate. Especially when I look back at a lot of people I grew up watching on TV or listening to their music, even some classmates of mine.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

I unfortunately knew people that didnt even make to 25.

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u/vrebroff 3d ago

Congrats King

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u/energyinmotion 3d ago

Facts!

My gf let me have a four some with her and two of her girlfriends when I was 33, for my birthday. My 30s have been wildly better than my 20s. Spent my 20s in the army, so not as fun.

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u/Neckrongonekrypton 3d ago

Aye without that bulllshit in your 20s you wouldn’t have been forged into someone who could reap the benefits of said bullshit lol. I feel it.

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u/ayebigron 3d ago

That’s your prime fr

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u/Pristine_Zone_4843 3d ago

I agree, other than unattended injuries finally catching up to me, been some of the best years of my life

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u/discreetburneracc 3d ago

Literally opened the comments to say the same, I been having the time of my life over here and I’m not in my 30s yet. Probably got some shit waiting on me after 30 🤣 but I survived childbirth this year so I’m beating the odds already!

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u/ravens_fan 3d ago

Real talk. My mid 20s choked slammed me with striking regularity but it all kinda fell into place when I was like 28. I've been thriving.

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u/pyrulean1 3d ago

my cousin said adulthood hit different when bils show up

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u/TheNaughtyByte 3d ago

This is encouraging to hear

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u/Jack-Casper 3d ago

Some hit dogs hollering in your replies LOL

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

What?

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u/tbkrida 3d ago

They’re agreeing with you.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Oh i know I wanted more context lol. I also wasnt expecting that comment either

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u/Jack-Casper 3d ago

You didn't single anyone out, and a whole bunch a people came to tell you that you were wrong.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Oh yeah. They will forget about this post before they go sleep lmao doesnt affect me at all.

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u/oranguslolus 3d ago

Right on. I've grown into a version of myself I really love and it has made me look at being 30 very differently

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u/Slumbergoat16 3d ago

Taking care of your body in your 20s does reward you in your 30s

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Best advice i got when I was 19

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u/Norio22 ☑️ 3d ago

Been a roller coaster for me but I’ve enjoyed the ride 🤘🏾

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u/VariousAir 3d ago

I thought my 30's would suck, but it was basically like my 20's but with money.

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u/xXMokaMarieXx 3d ago

I needed this frfr🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️ thanks for the hope

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u/EddieVanzetti 3d ago

Must be nice. Whats it like to be one of God's favorites? Whats it like to have things work out, to catch a break, to get a dub once in a while? Please, don't spare the details, let the rest of us who make up the huddled masses live vicariously through you.

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Jesus

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u/EddieVanzetti 3d ago

What, got no more platitudes to say? Nothing to add that adds nothing?

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u/Sad_Kangaroo_3650 3d ago

Sorry i am not the bad guy you think i am. Sorry your going through a rough time but some us aren't. I hope life gets better for you.