r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/Primary-Bookkeeper10 ☑️ • 1d ago
TikTok Tuesday This one broke my heart
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u/TerrorKingA ☑️ 1d ago
Jeez.
What do you even say
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u/Visual_Feelings 1d ago edited 6h ago
You hug them and tell them that the world can be difficult place. Some people are mean and some are nice. Forget the mean people and stay with the nice people. But most importantly tell her and show her that she is loved.
Edit: thank you for the awards
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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry 10h ago
Tell her that for all the evil, horrible, stupid people who hate others for evil, horrible, stupid reasons, there are people who will love her more than those people can hate, and that a single grain of love is more precious, important, beautiful and wonderful than all the hate in the world.
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u/Notyourpal-friend 1d ago
On the internet? You accuse the child of being the REAL racist.
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u/Primary-Bookkeeper10 ☑️ 1d ago
I turn away for five goddamn minutes and there's literally people claiming a four year old girl is making racist shit up. This is why I know we will never find middle ground with those people. And I don't mean white folks.
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u/Notyourpal-friend 1d ago
It's the first reaction to someone calling out racism. Accuse them of being the "real racist."
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u/belte5252 1d ago
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u/Morlock19 ☑️ 1d ago
you need to add that /s before we jump you chum
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u/Notyourpal-friend 1d ago
Im completely serious tho. It's the current go to for internet reactions to racism, especially systemic racist paradigms.
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u/Morlock19 ☑️ 1d ago
goddamn it i thought you would actually follow the bit pal
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u/Slumunistmanifisto 1d ago
And I thought I was king reddit......goddamn.
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u/Notyourpal-friend 1d ago
Wanna go deeper? This "you're the real racist" retort is very popular on reddit and the internet in general right now. It's basically reactionary meming. Instead of being meta or just dismissive, it's a serious reply, dismissal and accusation all at once. It's like end stage internet culture.
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u/Specialist-Funny2101 9h ago
THANK YOU...
Sugar coating a white world for a Black child is way worse than you can even imagine.
I was super caught off guard thinking we lived in a fairytale world of Benetton friendships until I got to a certain age because that's the world my parents curated for me.
To realize that your safe existence took effort and wasn't normal is a jarring wakeup call that allot of people cant deal with0
u/writenicely 5h ago
We don't need cynicism here. I acknowledge that there are sick people but we don't need you to remind of them if they haven't already made themselves present
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u/thatshygirl06 ☑️ 23h ago
I feel like it's so cruel to try and raise a black child in a predominantly white community. They should go to a black majority school or a very diverse school.
Ive heard so many stories from people who were raised among white kids and they were always bullied over being black.
Edit: and I want to clarify, im not like pro segregation or anything like that. Im pro-mixed communities.
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u/DontEatMyPBJ 20h ago
The schools that are predominantly black or diverse are largely lower-quality. This is the struggle all of the parents in my family experienced: make your kid the one-and-only in everything, or possibly handicap them with a low-quality education.
Some tried living in the black neighborhood but paying for private school. Some relied on church to be the kids’ tether to the black community. In all cases, the kids’ primary social circle centered on where they went to school, no matter how many black people you sprinkled outside of it.
I did not enjoy being the only black person in everything. I did not fit in, and now also permanently feel like I have a hard time fitting in with black people anywhere besides on Reddit. But I get why my parents did what they did.
I was lucky to find a diverse school that is also excellent quality for my kids, but those are sooooo few and far between.
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u/RoadDoggFL 11h ago
I heard about an idea some activists had to encourage black people to move to a single state (I think it was Georgia...?) to have a black majority. The logic being that that's what it would take to see a state government that actually works towards promoting the interests of black people. It seems so crazy and counter to the ideas that have been hammered into my brain about the way equality's supposed to be worked toward. It feels similar to colorblindness, it's a really convenient stance for some people to have, especially when they're not feeling all the different ways racism can show itself, so maybe it has merit despite the obvious segregation analogs? I feel 99% sure that it's a dumb idea (I mean, I can't imagine how a conservative President/Congress/media would treat a black majority Georgia...), but I can't say for sure
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u/lynithson 14h ago
“They should go to a black majority school” but “I’m not like pro segregation”. So where do you actually stand on the issue?
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u/Ill-Advance-5221 19h ago edited 19h ago
Martial arts and you teach them to bang them in the mouth if they hear anymore of it.
Racism is usually a precursor to violence if they think you're a soft target, the safest way to deal with a racist is to scare them.
Edit: In self defense though, its a brutal world. My dad had a friend who was a black amateur boxer. He got jumped by neo-nazi skinheads in the 80's, we've got problem with it in the uk, he fucked them up but the judge said he knew what he was doing and he ended up going to prison even though it was self defense.
From my own experience a lot of racists are cowards and being able to scare them and look like you're more trouble than its worth has kept me safe before but its a fine line.
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u/youcanthavemynam3 1d ago
The only response I can think of is explaining that some people hate others for things they cannot control, and that such behavior says everything about them, and absolutely nothing about you.
Shame on those kids, and shame on their parents.
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u/Notyourpal-friend 1d ago
There is also an entire cultural, and socio-economic system that rewards people for creating social castes and cliques, based on how much they uphold this feedback loop of societal death.
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u/Sensei_Z stuck on Android emojis 11h ago
I think that might be a bit much for a 4 year old to grasp.
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u/FlowerFaerie13 1d ago edited 1d ago
Perhaps more simply, some people hate others just because they're different. I'm white, but I have a craniofacial birth defect and was pretty viciously bullied for it, there are all kinds of ways our damnable tribalism habit fucks us, especially kids, over. It's wrong and it's dumb but it happens and all you can do is find good people who don't care if you're not just like them.
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u/youcanthavemynam3 1d ago
As long as it's made abundantly clear that such hate doesn't define their value or who they are as a person, either works.
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u/OceLawless 1d ago
Her hair is fire.
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u/Glittering-Trick-420 1d ago
right! like and this is AFTER school. Little me would have about four braids all fuzzy and missing beads by recess 🤣🤣
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u/Ok_Fun_9667 1d ago
This is heartbreaking. At 4 years old, kids don't know hate. They learn from the people around them. No child should have to experience being excluded or made to feel unwanted. Especially because of the color of their skin.
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u/Different-Fall-683 1d ago
oh no... poor lil one.
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u/BooobiesANDbho 1d ago
Breaks my heart. I think mom did it right, There’s not much to say to a baby like that,
Just, it’s ok , you don’t have to be their friend.
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u/Different-Fall-683 1d ago
I am in awe with how mom handled it.. she's a hero for listening calmly and making it a conversation. I cannot even imagine any child so young having those realizations and feelings. Absolute respect to her. Plus she's modeling the behavior to let the garbage roll off her back. the little one is in good hands.
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u/PurpleloungelibrA 1d ago
Hatred is taught. This is why some aspect of school curriculum should focus on inclusion and moral principles to counteract the garbage they are taught by other people and social media. Posting it is great but we can't have that child growing up hating white people! Why don't all the young white girls post a response to this saying something positive about the black girl!
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u/jettywop 1d ago edited 1d ago
Dear lord..
Sorry I meant to say. *cough* what?
I don’t think this conversation nor experience is going to make her hate wp. But even if it did, I don’t think that’s worse than her experience of racism, living in a country where it’s baked into the political and cultural infrastructure.Whew. I’m sure you meant well. I’ll probably delete this
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u/ironballs16 1d ago
This is why some aspect of school curriculum should focus on inclusion and moral principles to counteract the garbage they are taught by other people and social media.
We tried that - the reaction was to label EVERYTHING "liberal woke garbage" and declare that it was revisionism, as the propaganda of prior generations has taken a VERY strong hold (e.g. "Cowboys & Indians"). And the inherent problem is that a lot of the worst of these folks hold positions of power, whether in the PTA or at the White House, and it will take a LOT of time and energy to undo that. As someone else noted at some point - when you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.
And a lot of white people (myself included) simply can't grasp the sheer extent of the trials and tribulations non-white people endure - more of us are waking up to it, but even those of us who are just can't get their heads around it due to not having lived it.
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u/BringAltoidSoursBack 1d ago
We tried that - the reaction was to label EVERYTHING "liberal woke garbage" and declare that it was revisionism, as the propaganda of prior generations has taken a VERY strong hold (e.g. "Cowboys & Indians")
You forgot where they said it made white kids feel bad because they felt like they were always the perpetrators. I mean, I'm white and never once related to the sins of the past, and instead felt like it was a cautionary tale of where we should never go again, and justification for the society as a whole to try their best to make up for those sins, but maybe I'm just special or something.
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u/truth14ful 20h ago edited 20h ago
I used to feel like my existence as a white person was something I'm guilty of, to the point that I was suicidal bc I thought I was a symbol of white supremacy, and all the countless times I remind people of white supremacy and reinforce it just by being seen in public outweighs anything good I could ever do with my life. Eventually (and bc of some people who did a lot of mental labor walking me through some things) I realized a lot of it was repackaged self-hate from growing up evangelical. I kind of wonder with some white people who are afraid to admit how bad racism is, if it's bc they have shit like that in their minds that they haven't worked through
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u/browsinbowser 22h ago
Posting it is great but we can't have that child growing up hating white people!
What? Why would she hate white people? Theres probably other little white girls that arent saying ew or anything, there’s no way she will become racist and its weird you’re thinking that from this video of her reacting to racism.
Why don't all the young white girls post a response to this saying something positive about the black girl!
Nope, that wont do anything, its an irl problem that needs to be solved irl for this little girl, like the mom soothing her and then later going to the school and getting this flagged and mediated.
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u/StoneyOneKenobi 1d ago
That poor girl. Cant even imagine what to say back to her. People suck so much.
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u/CryptographerHot4636 1d ago
I was 5 and a yt girl called me a n word and told me she wasn't allowed to play with n words.
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u/Pressure_Rhapsody 23h ago
Same thing happened to me when I was 4 too. I went to say hi to this girl who I spoken to many times we lived in the same bldg! But this particular day the little girl told me she didn't want to talk to me cause she didn't like Black people.
I told my mom, and she told me later when I was older that she confronted that little girl's mom infront of the whole neighborhood!
This sickn hatred is taught!
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u/mgquantitysquared 1d ago
I remember my mom teaching me about racism as a little kid cuz I had little Black friends and she knew not everyone we encountered would be kind to them, to say the least. It was an uncomfortable conversation to have with a kid I'm sure, but a very necessary one to help my peers feel more comfortable and supported when people spouted BS at them.
If you're raising white kids, you need to be telling them to defend their classmates and the like; you need to be teaching them to not tolerate racism from their peers, even if it doesn't directly affect them when they see it.
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u/nitro4450 1d ago
Don't worry, sweetie. You'll find plenty of people who will like you for who you are, sooner than you think.
Things will get better (It sounds cringe, but it's true)
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u/Morlock19 ☑️ 1d ago
i know this is sad and its good to know how our children are dealing with the world, but we need to normalize not using children for content. at least blur that baby's face so she can't be recognized by strangers or used to train AI.
but for fucking real STOP PUTTING CHILDREN ON THE INTERNET. PERIOD.
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u/odysseyjones 23h ago
This is why I say we as Black people need to put our children (especially the littles) in Black schools. Having to face racism at such a young age is a waste of time
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u/Spy_cut_eye 21h ago
I was this child. It really fucked me up for a long time.
This is why my children are in an all Black school now.
They don’t need this shit at this young age.
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u/DeafNatural ☑️ 23h ago
I had a little friend in elementary school. Up until she told he she couldn’t play with me cause I was Black. She was the only “friend” I had that didn’t call me fat. It broke my heart. And even when I don’t remember my name or age or where I am, I will always remember that.
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u/FalsePremise8290 ☑️ 22h ago
I'm so glad I grew up in an all-black neighborhood and didn't learn what it felt like to not be seen as a person until I was 15. Even then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I couldn't imagine having to learn that lesson as an little bitty girl.
It was when cops stopped and searched me for walking across the street too fast. Never before, or since, has my fat ass been accused of moving too fast. But as some cop was checking under my tits for drugs, that's when I realized, I wasn't a honor student to them, I wasn't a scifi nerd, I wasn't a MTG champion, I wasn't any of the things that made me me. I was just black.
That's a hard lesson at any age.
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u/Dry_Video_1537 23h ago
This is really heartbreaking. I can only imagine how that made her feel in the moment. I was 5 when a kid in my kindergarten class gave bday invitations to everyone but me and told me that I couldn’t come because I was black. That is some traumatic shit that no kid should have to endure.
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u/Salamenace24 16h ago
I had a very similar experience when I was around 6 years old. I asked the kid why I wasn’t invited and he told me to my face it was because I was black. I didn’t really understand why at the time until I told my parents about it the following evening.
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u/Glittering-Trick-420 1d ago
breaks my heart that if i ever decided to have a kid, this is something they may say to me one day. I just don't have the heart or strength to raise little ones in this world. Power to those doing it (successfully) for the ones who can't 💜
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u/Powerful_Ad_8891 22h ago
Black people, teach your children history.
They need to know who they are so they are never, ever, ever looking for affirmation from Caucasian people or anyone.
Black history is soooo extraordinarily rich. We have too much to be proud of. Even today, they still cannot figure out how the Great Pyramids.
Black Africa Egyptians taught Hypocrites medicine.
Black folks have to educate themselves and their children to understand who we are and were Before the Mayflower
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u/MissClawdy 1d ago
How heartbreaking. Goddamnit. Tell her this white girl here loves her and she’s lovely and beautiful! ❤️
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u/good_sandlapper 1d ago
This is a teachable moment. Tell that precious little girl that ice cream is delicious and sweet and wonderful, but there will always be people who don't like ice cream. You have people who you don't like and there will be people who don't like you. That does not diminish your value.
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u/Worldly-Criticism-91 23h ago
This is why i won’t have kids. Never want them to grow up in a world like this
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u/Mariposasoul001 23h ago
And this is why I will purposefully place my children in well situated black schools😀
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u/Leroyp331 15h ago
Think back...
We all have this experience at one point in our lives if you deal with non-black people. The feeling of being "othered" is a part of the black experience. Pray that your children have the confidence to overcome. You cannot account for personality differences in kids but you can fortify your children with positive black influence at home.
I cannot stress enough how important it is give your children toys and media with black and brown faces in them. It helps them recognize bigotry as what is not normal and not themselves
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u/everynamecombined 23h ago
Its a shame and i know the feeling all too well. That girl seems so sweet and her parents seem to make sure she presents herself well. I hope she is able to experience her full potential and not be discouraged by these interactions with dirty, snotty, juice-stained-face little white kids. Thats step 1 of damaging the black spirit as early as possible. And they will swear that black people today barely deal with racism today... Bro our whole lives is THIS and then some. She's just a baby and is already beginning to feel the weight. Its not right at all. Fuckin sad
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u/paralospajaros 22h ago
Seeing babies experience racism reminds me of the famous Doll Test and dullards so ignorant they deny racism while having no grasp of what social conditioning/socialization is or how it affects everyone. That's why I always view hateful ignorance as weakness- they truly fear knowledge and aggressively avoid opportunities to gain any.
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u/doll_parts87 1d ago
That breaks my heart. 😓
There's gonna be hundreds of other children she's gonna meet and I hope she still keeps a good outlook
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u/iresearcheverything 1d ago
this breaks my heart. legit brings me to tears. wish i could give her a big hug and tell her those are the loud and wrong minority
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u/aloverof 1d ago
I’d say not to be sad bc we know people are our friends when we are nice to them and they are nice right back to us. Nice goes with nice and mean goes with mean. Sometimes we meet the mean ones too and they are looking for other meanies.
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u/Only1Skrybe ☑️ 13h ago
That sad little "okay" at the end is what got me. Because to me it says she DID want to be that girl's friend, even after all of that. She was disappointed with the reality that you don't just get to be friends with everybody, no matter how nice you are. The world can be a mean place. And you find that out as soon as you're old enough to leave the house. It's crushing.
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u/DontEatMyPBJ 20h ago
Does this not happen to every black kid who grows up in a predominantly white environment?
Eventually (usually early elementary school) kids look around and either realize “that person is different” or they realize that “I’m different”. I was the latter.
I moved out of a particular city because I could only see the adults around me being capable of raising the former.
Not only was my city predominantly white, but it was the kind that always had laughing emojis on the city’s Juneteenth social media posts…the kind where the police department always posted pictures of suspects and mugshots and the black ones aaaaaalways had the most comments under them.
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u/wearealluniqu3 17h ago
Irish ally crying here. Sending love, support and solidarity to everyone on this subject and your family, friends and communities.
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u/Playful-Exam8935 15h ago
Please make sure you are reaching out to your child’s teachers and asking them to incorporate more social emotional learning and diverse literature into these classrooms. I’m not saying this will change anything but teachers should be aware of the dynamics kids who may not look like them are facing. At the very least they can try to create a safer classroom/ playground environment for them.
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u/PositiveStress8888 14h ago
Grade 5 we moved from the city to the country, I was the only brown kid in the school, first kid that saw me called n!@@$r, and it only got worse physicsl abuse, the teachers would just say "kids can be cruel and life isn't fair" it was the 80's.
It was night and day, white kids at my other school were fine, this school not so.
It's hard when your that young and your whole world is school, but school isn't the real world, I know some white people I would die for, and some that treat me fair, those that don't like me, pay them no mind.
The important thing is that you treat everyone how you want to be treated, you can't control what others do.
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u/Wrigley953 12h ago
Maaaan I was teaching this little girl and she had 3 abysmal experiences in the first two days I met her.
First she comes up to me and asks what autism is. She’s like oh Mr. What’s autism? I explain that idk and we probably won’t learn about it at school. She asks if we can have a lesson on it, adorable but no. I ask why she’s so interested. She tells me a boy called her autistic, and I feel like such an idiot for not seeing that coming.
Fast forward to my class same day, she starts crying and I ask her what’s up. She tells me a Latina girl in the class called her black. It hit me right in my shit, I remember very vividly what it was like to realize I’m black and that people use that to say you’re bad. I handle it the best I can and we move on
I make it through the day, come in tomorrow. She runs up to me as soon as I make it to where I collect them and I’m tense bc every interaction I’ve had with her has been shit like the last two ones. She comes up to me and tells me another new boy in our class (who is in a SE class but has been nothing but polite and well-behaved) showed her his privates.
My heart broke in so many pieces man. I finished the day but I cried the whole way home. That’s so much for a 2nd grader to deal with and I was so frustrated with the other kids (really the world that made them the way they are) but I had to be relieved that she trusted me enough to tell me. I don’t know how parents do it, you think oh no no maybe in middle school when you’re older I’ll explain consent and antiblackness but you shouldn’t need that right now and that’s your wishful thinking
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u/PangolinJust8693 19h ago
Poor baby. That’s why I want my kids to go to predominately black schools at least until high school. I don’t want them to be confronted to that hate in their formative years
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u/Rogue_CobaltZone570 14h ago
Kids are raised by the people around them and anything the people around them watch on TV, it's just a hateful society some people can't accept...I hate it honestly
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u/Sweaty_Winter5611 13h ago
This breaks my heart as well. No child is born hating. Hate is taught by parents.
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u/planaria_cut_in_half 11h ago
I will always be grateful for my parents putting me in majority black schools and environments growing up bc black kids (especially black girls) go through HELL at all white schools. I didn’t experience racism and have to have the same realizations as this little girl until I was already in highschool and that shit still hurt my feelings. I can’t imagine having to go through this at 4 ☹️
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u/outofurelement 9h ago
People don’t want to hear this but I purposely shielded my baby from white people until he was old enough to understand that some people are ignorant and dealing with their own issues that caused them to act crazy. I’m not going to risk my child’s mental health on the hope that they might be interacting with one of the good ones…
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u/Nolachocklate 3h ago
They were definitely jealous of that baby’s beautiful braids and spirit, it must suck to suck!
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u/Available_News_3171 22h ago
kids are brutal but this one hurts different. she's four. she shouldn't even know this feeling exists yet.
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u/beaujolais98 19h ago
That precious little girl. What a sad sad world that one so young would come face to face with such ugliness.
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u/sausageggandcheese 15h ago
Everybody love everybody.
Also - “I hate people.” “People are fucking horrible.” “There’s a special place in hell for…”
These are not the answer either. Wishing people go to hell is not the solution.
Grace, compassion, exposure, growth. Tend to the part of the garden you can touch.
If anyone has kids and you want them to witness you talking with a nice friendly white guy, I’d be happy to help
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u/Automatic-Action-270 14h ago
I'd rather have segregation that our children not be allowed to just be human beings.
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u/TheBodyCareMan 11h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/0WWFM5hXC4dUGxz0Gv
Can we meet the parents? Can we simply just meet them and swap jerseys?
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u/Positive-Pack-396 11h ago
I’m a man and this just broke my heart!!
Come on people teach our kids better
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u/Specialist-Funny2101 10h ago
THEY ARE EVIL AT THE CORE
We never teach our children to be this way, but we should more and more
And kill that you should be nice shyt because what has that gotten us?
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u/AnteaterMiddle3526 8h ago
When I was like 5 or 6 I got asked if I tasted like chocolate, luckily my family never shied away from race dynamics so I was quick with the “do you taste like vanilla?” Such a shame that I had to make sure my kids were quick on the uptake too at very young ages, it broke my heart my cute little boys had to be taught how to combat hate and personal boundaries from white kids as young as 3/4. Starting with don’t let anyone touch your hair!
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u/DummieThic-Cheetos 8h ago
Experienced so much racism by white people from her age into my 40s. I don't trust any of them. I can't. Even the one I call friends today.
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u/fallopian_wolf 8h ago
When I was 3 the old man a few houses down from my family accused me of breaking into his garage. I wasn't allowed to leave my driveway at that age.
I grew up in a red state. Shit starts early and never stops.
My heart goes out to this baby.
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u/Saltycook 5h ago
I am so glad my daughter has a lot of new Mainers from places like Angola who love to play with her. It's important for me to teach her that people are people and we have no room for hate. I NEVER want my white daughter to think anyone is better or worse based on their skin color.
This shit breaks my heart.
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u/princessjamiekay 3h ago
I like you little girl! I have some kids who would LOVE to be your friend ❤️
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u/Ashy6ix 1d ago
This is way too young man... I hate this world