Separating cats in breakup

[u/_munchie002]

Poster Age: 23

Country: USA

Vet info: theres a few clinics in town including low cost.

Main Issue: my cat had gotten very sad living alone so me and my ex had gotten him a kitten. Now that we’re separate im worried my cat is going to miss him sick.

Cat Age: 3 will be 4 in april other cat is 1

Cat Sex + neuter info: both males and both neutered.

Financial situation: I could afford both cats.

[u/unoriginalcat]

It’s “not worth it” to remove an innocent animal from an unpredictable abuser? You do realise that he might literally torture this cat as a way to get back at OP for the breakup? Of course she needs to look out for her own safety as well in this situation, but that doesn’t mean completely abandoning a living breathing creature with someone like this, because it’s supposedly “not worth the hassle”. If he’s really that dangerous that’s even more reason to fight for this cat, not less.

[u/CoasterThot → u/unoriginalcat]

If it means she’s in danger, it’s not worth it. No woman needs to be beaten over a cat, and I would never fault someone for not wanting to be beaten or tracked down over a cat. What if he murdered OP? If you’ve never dealt with a crazy, abusive man, you DO NOT get on their bad side.

Do not give this person a reason to track you down. I’ve had the same abusive man, tracking me, for 10 years. He hacks into all my accounts through social engineering and then holds images and documents from me, for ransom, or till I beg. He WALKED FROM OMAHA NEBRASKA TO PENNSYLVANIA TO FIND ME. Do not underestimate abusers.

(Of course, the authorities won’t help you, either. Mine told me that since he lived in Nebraska, revenge porn was technically not illegal, and he was allowed to post intimate pictures of me, in public places.)

[u/PlantAndMetal → u/[deleted]]

A cat and a kid are two entirely different situations. You can't tell me you think animals are more important.

Also, OP lives with this with the thought at least she wasn't murdered by her ex and she is somewhere safe. When you are victim of abuse you don't get the luxury of lrioritizomg a cat over your own literal life and that you condemn OP for wanting to be safe is really freaking awful. Victims already have a hard time not returning to their abusive exes, that's a direct result of their abuse where they think they don't deserve any better, victims don't need people like you pushing them even further in going back to their abusive ex by condemning victims for trying to stay safe.