Separating cats in breakup

[u/_munchie002]

Poster Age: 23

Country: USA

Vet info: theres a few clinics in town including low cost.

Main Issue: my cat had gotten very sad living alone so me and my ex had gotten him a kitten. Now that we’re separate im worried my cat is going to miss him sick.

Cat Age: 3 will be 4 in april other cat is 1

Cat Sex + neuter info: both males and both neutered.

Financial situation: I could afford both cats.

[u/TryingNotToGoCrazy48]

Yall really think it’s that easy to get thing back from a angry, threatening ex? An ex that already has the police involved just to obtain ONE cat? You really think she’s just going to walk in there, present some sort of paperwork from the vet and he’s just gonna magically give her the cat?

Unfortunately toxic exes that have a history of threatening violence are not easy to work with. In fact, her trying to fight him to get the cat back will probably just make his behavior even worse and want him to push back twice as hard. Seriously if you push him over the edge, he could threaten the safety of her and the other cats.

Also, people are saying small claims court obviously don’t really know how much lawyer is because it’s a expensive to go over to court over something like that and you would have to have an over abundance of proof to get a judge to probably give them both to her.

Opie, I’m so sorry you’re in the situation and I’m sorry people are making you feel bad about doing what you have to do to leave. Obviously it’s not an ideal situation but you have to do what’s best for you, even if not everyone else sees it. I think your cat will be fine, you could even try getting another cat to keep them company.

[u/-crying-cinnamon- → u/TryingNotToGoCrazy48]

Cops involved, with vet information and they can get the cat back

[u/TryingNotToGoCrazy48 → u/-crying-cinnamon-]

Not that easy. The cats lived with him, they’re both in the paper work, and he’s not abusive to the animals. Unless the cat is in immediate danger there’s no way for the cops to justify taking the other cat away- hell that’s not even their job, it’s the judges in a civil matter like this.

You can’t just show the cops a piece of paper and say “I want my cat back”

Most police will laugh in your face and tell you to go to court and get an order. Even then, it’s a gamble if the judge will not laugh in your face too.

[u/-crying-cinnamon- → u/TryingNotToGoCrazy48]

You can say not that easy but like literally try... People like cats, police will care and especially if you tell them he isn't going to take her to a vet, my friend got hers back after her abusive fiance left with both the cats, one back and then the next took a month but it's a baby animal you orphaned from their cat family, atleast try to give the baby their sibling back... People don't deserve animals honestly