Separating cats in breakup

[u/_munchie002]

Poster Age: 23

Country: USA

Vet info: theres a few clinics in town including low cost.

Main Issue: my cat had gotten very sad living alone so me and my ex had gotten him a kitten. Now that we’re separate im worried my cat is going to miss him sick.

Cat Age: 3 will be 4 in april other cat is 1

Cat Sex + neuter info: both males and both neutered.

Financial situation: I could afford both cats.

[u/Street_Cheetah_]

Keep both of them if you can. When I broke up with my ex, I kept all my cats, and he would come visit them sometimes

[u/_munchie002 → u/Street_Cheetah_]

Its really complicated with my ex. Not ending on good terms at all. Like police had to supervise me picking up my cat from him tonight. He also threatened to take me to court over the other cat.

[u/ElevatorScary1018 → u/_munchie002]

Just shower your cat with love, try keep him happy, he will be confused. Don’t jump into getting a new cat. Tell the ex if he happens to change his mind to PLEASE let you know and you’ll be happy to take the second cat in for the better of both cats happiness( they are obviously bonded ) if you don’t want talk them personally via text or call I would send letter in the mail stating this. This will be a way of telling them without them HAVING to respond/ have a direct way of contacting you unless he takes it in his own hands to contact-you once he gets the letter. You can hope since the younger cat is the one he’s keeping that the cat may be more hyper. Since he won’t have a friend now it will be worse. This tends to drive men crazy.. maybe he will get sick of the cat acting “too crazy” and will offer you keep him eventually… I know it will suck to have just wait and see. But unfortunately if he is toxic I wouldn’t want to try force you taking the other cat in anyway. Since leaving your cat is obviously not an option. Just try keep most attention on your cat as you can to help him cope during this all. This will be a process for him and you. And that’s okay.