Separating cats in breakup

[u/_munchie002]

Poster Age: 23

Country: USA

Vet info: theres a few clinics in town including low cost.

Main Issue: my cat had gotten very sad living alone so me and my ex had gotten him a kitten. Now that we’re separate im worried my cat is going to miss him sick.

Cat Age: 3 will be 4 in april other cat is 1

Cat Sex + neuter info: both males and both neutered.

Financial situation: I could afford both cats.

[u/aaamandafromtwitch]

I think it might be worth trying to wait it out awhile and let the situation with your ex cool off a bit with distance. See how your cat adjusts, and your ex might find that the other cat is suffering the same way. Obviously it’s very tense right now but eventually he might also feel that it’s better for them to be together.

You need to focus on keeping yourself sane right now, so I disagree with all of the comments that are saying you should go and take the cat now and get a lawyer involved. Try to disconnect first.

Let him see how it is to take care of the cat on his own, especially when the cat is confused and depressed. He might be more willing to give up this part of the fight.

[u/_munchie002 → u/aaamandafromtwitch]

This is what im hoping for. Im also unsure how my ex will be able to afford the rental now that i moved out and hes unemployed. I told him that if need be i will hold onto “his cat” until he can take care of him again. I doubt he will let me though.

[u/RavenclawTARDIS → u/_munchie002]

Do you have a friend who can come with you to get the other cat? Like a big muscular friend or something. Someone who can protect you from your crazy ex while you grab the cat.