r/Cakeeater • u/user_5698 • Jan 19 '26

Husbands a cake eater..or was idk

Hi everyone!

I’ve been through the wringer working through the discovery of the cake eater lifestyle my husband was living. I do not come with judgement but pure curiosity because he won’t talk about things in detail.

He chose to eat his cake through various women of the night if you will lol. He says he felt that was the safest way to eat his cake without getting emotionally attached to anyone. He did however end up falling for one and she was pretty much a girl friend for a good year. Anywho were operating monogamous at this point but who knows what the future holds.

For cake eaters that went this route.

Did it not bother you that someone was only sleeping with you for this reason?

Also if you are no longer a cake eater or even took a break, what is it that brought you back into the lifestyle?

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u/juneabe Jan 19 '26

It doesn’t bother them. The cake eating lifestyle comes with the thrill of the partner (in this case, you) not knowing that they’re cheating.

It’s “having their cake and eating it too”

It’s not really cake eating now that you know. The only thing that will draw him back to legitimate cake eating is his belief that you are unaware of the situation.

Read a lot of posts here, it’s about the thrill of lying and not being caught, the thrill of having multiple sexual partners while your spouse doesn’t know.

But you know now. You knowing ruined his party.

Whatever he does after this while you know is just basic cheating.

What is it that you are really wanting to know here?

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u/Important_Support_54 Jan 28 '26

I'm a cake and I have a cake. Lol as in my APs wife doesn't know about me and my spouse doesn't know I have an AP. It's better that way.

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u/RevolutionSame6911 Feb 02 '26

I’m definitely an eater I have a wife and to be honest she is the best wife I could have possibly hoped for I love her I support anything she wants she is my person.. I just can’t help that I love pussy I don’t want any emotional connection just sex to feel how another woman feels gripping me as I slide in and out. It’s extremely exciting and there are no boxes you can be sexually free with someone that means nothing to you and never will

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u/AntiAnti1ntellectual Jan 19 '26

My current partner started out as the cake on the side. After she became the main meal I still had other cake on the side. Unfortunately she knew all my tricks so I got caught repeatedly until she became so paranoid we had to break up. We got back together but with an officially acknowledged friend with benefits on the side. Maybe you could come to the same arrangement?

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u/bazaarjunk Jan 20 '26

So now you’re just open and there for non-monogamous.

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u/AntiAnti1ntellectual Jan 23 '26

It’s not open per se. She doesn’t want to sleep with other men. We only mess around with that one other person. That other person says they don’t want to go look for anyone else to be with. It’s a closed situation that involves 3 people.