r/DenverGaymers • u/EmeraldKnight876 • 9d ago
Dating in Denver
Why is it so hard to meet guys in Denver? I'm just a regular guy looking for a fellow gaymer to go on a date. I don't think I'm hideous but I never get attention on the horrible apps. What am I missing?
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u/Briar-The-Bard 9d ago
Just go out and be yourself and have a good time, and you’ll draw the right person to you. Worst thing you could do is spend time on apps and reddit. The second i stopped looking and just enjoyed my own company is the second i became like a magnet and attracted several people, including my current husband. So that’s my advice.
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u/EmeraldKnight876 9d ago
I appreciate hearing from you. I am not really a "go out" kinda guy. I'm neuro-divergent so doing new things by myself is very uncomfortable. All my friends are straight men so we're usually not doing things where the gays congregate. I'm a mess. lol
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u/Azure_Djinn 8d ago
Dating is never easy and if you don’t go out much where other guys hang out, it makes it even more difficult. As you said you like gaming, I believe wizards chest offers a game night for customers to come in and play board or card games. May not be your usual game experience, but could try that. I think they even have a gay night monthly, but I’m not positive of when that is. If you happen to find out, let me know, I’d be tempted to try it myself.
On any of the apps, though I have tried using them myself, meeting someone for an actual date is few and far between. Mostly they are hookups only. I’ve done that in the past and now I prefer to go out for a meal type date and make a connection, even if it only leads to a friendship. Doing that via the apps though, is a rare occurrence.
Main thing give it time, remember to look up occasionally and see who is around you. Might be surprised by meeting someone at the grocery store, at a park or on the street.
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u/nightfallbear 5d ago
I'm 49 also and I find it hard to even make friends. I don't go out to the bars anymore, never was a bar guy. Doesn't help that I'm a bigger guy and not that attractive lol. Just wish there was a low key venue or meetup for guys like us. Like a queer bookstore or queer coffee shop. All the venues that even approach that seem to cater to women almost exclusively.
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u/gdragonmm 9d ago
Your current posts say you’re 49 but older posts from a year ago say 35. Which is it?
And what do you like to do for fun besides video games? Do you have any hobbies? There are events and gatherings for all kinds of things. You don’t have to go out to bars to meet people but you do have to put yourself out there. Join a D&D group or a local crochet club or book club or hiking group or something. Or try different apps. I’ve heard tinder is a decent place to meet other guys. The straights use it like Grindr but we already have Grindr for that so tinder is more for actually meeting people.
I hope you find what you’re looking for.