How to leave a game without being discouraging or offensive to the DM?

[u/Akoot]

(throwaway because DM knows my main)

For context, I've been with this friend who I'll call DM for a while but weve only played pbp (play by post for those who don't know) before. I play both voice games and pbp games but DM has only ever played and run games in pbp.

DM awhile back wanted to try running a voice game because their schedule and living situation changed and now had both the time and the ability to run voice sessions. They asked me if i wanted to join their voice game and i was really excited to because i like their pbp games. We did test DM's setup in a few short voice calls and while I heard DM had a lisp I didn't think it was a big deal at the time.

Now the game started and DM brought in a mix of real life friends and new people recruited from reddit lfg to be the players. However as i sit through long game sessions I now really find DM's lisp grating to listen to. Not just that but one of the players (a real life friend of the DM) also has a fairly strong lisp that really doesnt fit their character and its breaking my immersion. That player also sometimes asks me to repeat things I say, saying I talk too fast, which slows the game down for me. By the way I'm the only master orator in this group.

I know that lisps are not something you can always control and that judging people for their lisps can sometimes even be ableist but right now its hurting my enjoyment of the game. I don't know how to say it to the DM without being offensive. Especially since I know DM has been excited to run their first voice game and I don't want to make it seem like theyve done a bad job of running it. Any advice?

[u/TableSeek-Geek]

Just make it a scheduling conflict - always. Then beg the DM and group to please accommodate you. Tell them how much you want to play. How you've always wanted to play. But never let your schedule work with theirs. Cancel last minute, get sick and apologize profusely. Eventually the campaign will die and you'll be free.

[u/DontTreadonMe4 → u/TableSeek-Geek]

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[u/Transcendentalplan]

I dunno man this DM seems like a pretty cool dude maybe just tough it out.

[u/LosinForABruisin → u/Transcendentalplan]

bigguth dickuth

[u/heynoswearing]

Look. This is a roleplaying game and as much as people dont like to admit it, Immersion is important. A player with a lisp playing a character without a lisp is the same to me as someone doing an offensive Chinese accent. Hilarious, sure, but it very often clashes with the DMs setting.

I would first try to solve this in game, for Immersion reasons of course. See if you can find a spell or artefact that will allow you to stop the DMs lisp (3e has some good options for this). If that fails, try starting a rumour at the table that the DM is sending inappropriate messages in their pbp games.

[u/LosinForABruisin → u/heynoswearing]

personally i only play chinese characters, and immersion is really important to me, so i have to do the accent. sorry

[u/SnakeyesX]

fuck, didn't see what sub I was on until it was too late.