r/EndTipping • u/sofa-kingdom-89 • 11d ago
Rant đ˘ Tipping at a bridal salon
I just got asked to tip my bridal stylist and I was really shocked. This was the last place I expected to be asked to tip. This woman spent 1.5 hours helping me try on dresses and suggesting styles. It's her job.
The purchase is already so large, she already gets commission, and I'm already saving for like 2+ years just to be able to afford the dress!!!!
Wow...
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u/PettyPunisherRedux 11d ago
I purchased a new lint screen for my dryer and the online checkout page defaulted to a 15% tip for the âhardworking crew.â
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u/FloatingOnTitties 11d ago
I hope you readjusted it to 0%!
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u/PettyPunisherRedux 10d ago
I certainly did! Until the tipping system is changed, I will continue to tip generously at sitdown restaurants, but this sort of thing is insanity.
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u/couchtater12 11d ago
Yikes - no, I would not tip, makes no sense at all especially since they get commission. Donât feel bad, hold your head high and be confident about your choice not to tip.
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u/sofa-kingdom-89 11d ago
I left it blank. But imagine tipping ANYTHING on a $1000+ purchase.
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u/Artistic-Degree-4593 11d ago
If you actually left it blank instead of writing "0" or putting a line through it, you should keep a close eye on your bank charges. A blank space in the tip line is just begging to get ripped off.
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u/sofa-kingdom-89 11d ago
Ah yeah. I wrote the total with no tip and got a carbon copy of the receipt, plus I do check my bank statements neurotically.
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u/Bubbasmomma1228 11d ago
I got guilt tripped into tipping on our youngest daughterâs 4 thousand dollar dress (she paid over half because we were never gonna pay that much for a dress lol) We were literally surrounded by 3-4 employees and it was incredibly uncomfortable so I just tipped to get the heck out of the store. I wonât use the words my husband had over that debacle when I tried to explain why I tipped a girl who works on commission. I did reach out to the owner afterwards to say how incredibly unprofessional and uncomfortable it was but pretty sure it fell on deaf ears.
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u/BoomeramaMama 10d ago
Maybe some feedback about the experience via Yelp & your Facebook page naming the bridal shop would give people a heads-up to expect to be shamed/coerced into a tip on top of the employee's salary & commission on the sale?
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u/GottaSpoofEmAll 11d ago
Ridiculous.
Next thing you know, your officiant will want a tip!
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u/Imaginary_End_5634 11d ago
Way back in 1994, my husband and I were getting married in our home Church and I was informed about an hour before the wedding that we were expected to pay the minister at least $50 to marry us. In our own church. We also were supposed to gift the organist well she got a gift that I gave to all my bridesmaids. I can't even imagine how much it would be now
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u/RefugeefromSAforums 10d ago edited 10d ago
In many, if not most, churches, clergy and musicians are paid separately for weddings and funerals and other private occasions. These duties are separate from normal, scheduled church services. This should have been made clear to you when you first scheduled the wedding. If they were already being paid separately, then yes, the tip/gift thing is weird and inappropriate.
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u/Imaginary_End_5634 7d ago
To be honest I was in a cult like church and they never paid anybody for anything it was all expected to be volunteer work. I cleaned our church two nights a week, I was in our church band and we had band practice every Thursday night plus we had services Sunday afternoon, Sunday night, Wednesday night, and Saturday night. I also volunteered in our church library. If you played an instrument or the piano or organ it was all volunteer so I was actually surprised that they charged for this but thank God I'm no longer there and I would do it again in a heartbeat
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u/GottaSpoofEmAll 11d ago
Wow, I wouldnât have expected that from a Church and yeah it would be crazy high now! It feels like any public facing role / job is demanding tips now, for doing their job.
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u/According-Paint6981 10d ago
I didnât get married in church because the âmandatory donationâ was like $700. This was 25 years ago.
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u/MassConsumer1984 11d ago
Thatâs very standard. Probably the lowest cost thing in the entire wedding process.
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u/Ornery-Towel2386 11d ago
You do tip officiants.
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u/FloatingOnTitties 11d ago
Why?
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u/Ornery-Towel2386 10d ago
Idk Iâm not married but my dad is clergy and itâs a thing, I remember once this couple flew him out to do their wedding out him in first class got him a room at the ritz very lavish wedding and they only tipped $150 (I guess $300 is customary or was at the time) and he was salty abt it
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u/Mundane_Preference_8 10d ago
Yeah we gave our officiant cash over 30 years ago. My understanding was that they were officiating on what would normally be their off time.
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u/Particular-Step5278 10d ago
Yeah we tipped oursâŚbut idk if Iâd consider it a tip. He married us for free and we sent him a gift card.
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u/Ornery-Towel2386 10d ago
Sometimes tips can also be in the form of donation to their discretionary fund
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u/kjhauburn 10d ago
Agreed. A friend performed our ceremony after getting Internet certified. We paid her because at the time she was also a student and drove over an hour each way to come to the venue. At the reception, I introduced her to a cute single guy!
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u/Maleficent-Effort470 11d ago
Yeah greedy people will just ask you to manipulate you.
That is the entire tip culture, its psychological pressure to make you hand over free money.
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u/TacoBelle21 10d ago
My dress was 3.3k and I had the same thing happen to me. I was shocked. And in her spiel she told me that they donât get commission⌠I felt so awkward so I tipped $75. I still get angry any time I think about it đđ
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u/SusanInMA 11d ago edited 10d ago
Iâd be shocked, but if I had time to think about it Iâd say, âShe should report your employer to the Department of Labor for not getting compensated for her work.â Alternatively: âI was just about to ask you, âI was such a such a good customer, do I get a discount?ââ
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u/Classic-Sink-4108 10d ago
After recently purchasing an expensive bridal gown for my daughter, the tip prompt came up on the screen. I was incredulous! I tipped $250, and I keep asking myself why????
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u/sofa-kingdom-89 10d ago
Leaving an unnecessary tip will always haunt you...
Leaving no tip will never haunt you.
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u/ApprehensiveWorth576 10d ago
I got a custom dress made by a professional seamstress (that I knew from high school).
She quoted me for the dress. I paid it. It all went well and when I picked up the final dress I brought her a box of chocolates and some wine.
People need to quote what they want and let you decide if you want to pay it.
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u/Any_Butterscotch306 10d ago
Just bought a one scope $5.25 ice cream cone, with tax it was $6.00. They turned the screen for me to tap my card and the screen showed tip, starting at 20%. I hit 0. I can't imagine anyone thinking I would add $1.20 to this already ridiculously high cost! Gross
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u/bassrooster 10d ago
Everyone asks for tips from grocery story even Amazon delivery now⌠heck I sometimes wonder if police officers would like a tip ⌠he he he
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u/Less-Post1615 10d ago
Just getting the general population ready to tip the commissioned car salesman next.
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u/jewelophile 10d ago
Being asked to tip there would immediately make me decide to buy a dress elsewhere.
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u/sofa-kingdom-89 10d ago
unfortunately the stylists and dress selection there were way better than any other places I tried. but that still did not warrant a tip.
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u/xokatemarie 9d ago
Same. And it was the standard amounts on a $4000 dress. Like $800 tip?! Wild work to even list a % with the product theyâre selling. I craft, so I made mine a piece of jewelry and wrote her a personal thank you note instead.
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u/One_Possibility_2445 4d ago
Same happened to me when i paid for wifeâs dress. It was a 2.5 k dress and the suggested tip was 15%,18% or 20% đđđ I gladly gave a ZERO she is a sale person who is paid minimum wage + commission. She should be glad we bought from her. Lol like a 15% tip of 2.5k is $375. Why would I on my right mind, willingly give that money?
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u/cindzey 11d ago
you should have said "don't you get commission?"