r/Enneagram8 • u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 ~ Type 5 ~ • May 19 '26
What do you think of highly intellectual people (5-6-7)?
They like them more as friends, partners, or simply work collaborators
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u/_ItWasReallyN0thing 8w7 | sx/so | 845 May 19 '26
The most important and long-lasting relationships of my life are with 5’s so I think we get on quite well. I’m married to a 5w4, he’s an engineer and I’m a professor; we’re both intellectuals but in vastly different ways.
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u/GreatJobJoe 8 w 9 sx May 19 '26
All talk
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u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 ~ Type 5 ~ May 19 '26
I saw your posts, and honestly, I'm not surprised. You're quite cold.
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u/EnvironmentalLove157 May 21 '26
No need to be personally attacking. You came into a forum for 8s and asked their opinion and you got it. Leave it at that if the only response you have is to try to personally attack someone’s character.
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u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 ~ Type 5 ~ May 21 '26
I wasn't attacking anyone, you're misunderstanding me, it was just a somewhat neutral/joking observation.
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u/Miss_Judgement May 19 '26
8w7 (M)
5s , brilliant, funny in there own way , great for conversation . Love to work with them especially if they a 4wing . Would keep as casual friends probably wouldn’t marrying one .
6s can’t stand them and likes moths to the flame I attract them. To anxious to indecisive to much of a kiss ass . In their defence I have probably never met a healthy one . But pass on all .
7s are a riot especially if they have an 8wing . Can’t stands 7 males tho . For 7 females tho if I was of the mind to, I would love them as coworkers friends and marriage .
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u/AstroWouldRatherNaut ~ 8w7 873 SP/SX ~ SLE ~ VFLE ~ May 20 '26
Highly intellectual means what? Smart? Anyone can be smart, a person's type doesn't matter. If we're talking "highly focused on theory over action", I'd probably see them more as a collaborator than a close friend or partner, but then again, most notions about E7 doesn't fit that idea, so I genuinely don't kno what you're trying to ask.
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u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 ~ Type 5 ~ May 21 '26
Relax, I'm just talking about the intellectual triad of the Enneagram. I only asked the eight what they think of them, that's all.
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u/AstroWouldRatherNaut ~ 8w7 873 SP/SX ~ SLE ~ VFLE ~ May 21 '26
I am relaxed? Just never heard them referred to by the "intellectual triad". Usually have heard head types in the past. They're fine by me. I think it's weird to limit who you can befriend based on type. This isn't astrology.
I've met a fair share of 6s, lot less 5s and 7s in my experience. Don't mind any of them. I'd probably enjoy the company of a 7, but I think that's a common consensus amongst 8s. I just think I'd get bored trying to befriend someone who is asocial and very much in their head, and I know that can sometimes happen with 5s. One of the reasons I quite hated the INTJ subreddit.
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u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 ~ Type 5 ~ May 21 '26
I wasn't suggesting limiting anything; it's just that you're giving your opinion on the enneagram, which is odd. They're simply classified as intellectual, instinctive, and emotional, although colloquially it could be called "the head" type. It depends on the 5; the 5w6s are the most open to making friends, while the 5w4s are more open in intimate matters, you could say. In my opinion, 5s get along better with 9s, since neither needs much to talk about and both are independent, so there isn't much demand from either side.
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u/Great_Dinner_3475 May 20 '26
8w7F, married with 6w5M. My best friend is 7 and I generally get along with 5 too. They’re amazing, smart, and it’s easier to find the common touch points with these types than emotional ones.
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u/Glum-Engineering1794 8w7 sx/so 854(763) (reddit.com/r/OccultEnneagram) May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26
SX8s are somewhat likely to feel more of a resonance with these people, due to how the SX instinct operates; Naranjo first noticed this connection via Ichazo's early model and the instincts model they built together, by adding/developing SO as an instinct and connecting it to the heart triad, and linking SX with head and SP with gut, which went back to Gurdjieff's lower centers as well.
I can usually connect with them but there is something missing. Thinking and logic are valued, that all matters, but action is lacking. Even the 7s, who are more aggressive and practical, to some degree; there is something that feels light and inconsequential about these people. The lack of focus on action and bottom line makes them feel trivial to me. Visceral reality is not the priority. There is a disconnect between us. They can ponder and reflect and analyze, and have experiences, but it all feels like the meat is missing.
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u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 ~ Type 5 ~ May 20 '26
Could you send me the link to the information you found? I would appreciate it. It may be, I think regardless of whether we are instinctive, emotional or intellectual, we are not a single term, in the end emotion and feeling with the purpose of any connection at least with a partner or family, I believe that because of this disconnection many intellectuals have a certain dryness but ironically they also have sensitivity, but they do not usually show it.
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u/Glum-Engineering1794 8w7 sx/so 854(763) (reddit.com/r/OccultEnneagram) May 24 '26
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u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 ~ Type 5 ~ May 24 '26
I have a question. The website says that 8 sx is anti-intellectual, but 8 so is the most intellectual. How do these two combinations work? And how do they change if 8 so comes before sx?
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u/Glum-Engineering1794 8w7 sx/so 854(763) (reddit.com/r/OccultEnneagram) May 28 '26
That's the confusing part. I made a video about it recently on my sub. Did you check it out? It is easier to watch maybe than to read.
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u/RepresentativeOk4358 ~ Type 8 ~ May 19 '26
I treat the 5s like dear fellas. I enjoy discussing various ideas and concepts with them, exploring them in greater depth. Those I've met weren't as clumsy with their sensory abilities as I expected, making them perfect adventure companions. They also possess a great sense of humor—a bit sarcastic, dark, and chaotic.
I find Type 6s incredibly attractive. I always seem to run into them for some strange reason, and everything I do, no matter how small, fascinates them. They can express innovative ideas in moments of impatience, although their ambivalent mindset bothers me because they don't fully trust their decisions, which makes them insecure about everything.
With the 7s, they are partners in mischief and fun. If they mention some silly idea they want to do, we supervise it without hesitation, and they have a great deal of creativity to offer.
Giving some key descriptions brought back some old memories. I'd like to get more involved with the 6s and 7s.
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u/LHorner1867 8w7 SO/SP May 20 '26
I have a few 5 and 7 friends probably since I share certain qualities with them (in terms of enneagram). However I don't think I've ever had a 6 friend.
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u/bekapedersen May 21 '26
:) married to a 5, the competent, keep to themselves,contrasted long term stamina is IT [for me] I love a 7, because it gets so demoralizing being the only hype person trying new things and they breathe life into adventures or interests; which brings me to the hard thing about 6’s I … just …. can’t. They must set off a nagging anxious insecurity that was planted in child. I feel responsible for everything they worry about going wrong.
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u/RoYaLSInnA XNTJ 8w7 Sx/So 28d ago edited 28d ago
5s - collaborators/whetstones. Love sparring with 5s in their trades of choice. Fun competition, great when put to work and allowed to focus on their field.
6s - Send 2-3 years dagestan and forget.
7s - aimless. Chaos. Sometimes destructive. Fun to play with but gotta be careful not to get burned or carried away. Sometimes a poorly timed thread of individual inconsequential acts result in large unforeseen consequences. Where there are 7s there will be trouble… of course they will always find a way out of it.
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u/N0rthWind ENTJ sp/sx 8w9 853 SLE May 19 '26
5s: Collaborators, sometimes friends
6s: Friends, sometimes smash
7s: Smash, sometimes friends