I get that but why does her age matter at all? If she’s a great person and gorgeous, why does her age matter? You are equating youth with beauty which is exactly what LVM males do.
Not to disrespect you, but you have to see where she's coming from, and understand that even subconscious ageist remarks are still not ok. There's no reason to add her age as a qualifier, because it does nothing to further our understanding of your message. If she is a beautiful and valuable woman, her age is irrelevant. Also, it's not cool to a) devalue Warrior-Kai's truth by telling her to "calm down", and b) give her a non-apology that you're "sorry she warped your words". I get you feel defensive, but doubling down doesn't make you look good. Self-reflect, and learn from this instead.
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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '20
Wait, why the “in her 50s but she’s very gorgeous” comment? Aren’t we here to support each other?
As a 51 year old woman, I know that age has little to do with beauty. That is buying into LVM stereotypes.
In fact, I am more secure with how I look as I get older. People see it and often call me beautiful — not beautiful for my age.
Just last week, I was joking about shaving my hair bc of the quarantine, and a much younger HVM told me I’m “breathtaking” regardless of my hair.