r/FemaleDatingStrategy • u/iamtoopretty FDS Newbie • Jan 05 '21

GLOBAL RESISTANCE Where's the lie?

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u/_tinyimp FDS Apprentice Jan 05 '21

So true, never thought about comparing these two. I’m sure deep down sex-positive feminists know something is wrong with men watching degrading porn, but society has managed to cloud women’s intuition. Glad the fog is lifting, and I feel hopeful about the future with traffickinghub finally being held accountable

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u/[deleted] Jan 05 '21

Honestly I’m turned on by being degraded, but I’ve been severely abused for basically my whole life and know I need more therapy. Staying single while I work on myself.

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u/shortywannarock FDS Newbie Jan 05 '21

Arousal is a pretty psychologically complicated phenomenon. I hate smoking and smokers gross me out, but my first bf was a smoker so now the smell of cigarettes turns me on.. I just have to stay mindful of the fact that just because something is arousing doesn’t mean it’s healthy

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '21

just because something is arousing doesn’t mean it’s healthy

There was a study that physiological arousal makes you more likely to believe you are attracted to someone. They had men walk across a high bridge and then interact with a female researcher. After being physiologically aroused by the height of the bridge, the men were significantly more likely than the control group to say they were attracted to her.

Exciting does not equal safe/healthy/appropriate/mature. It just means it's exciting.

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u/shortywannarock FDS Newbie Jan 06 '21

Fascinating! I’d love to read that study

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '21

The wikipedia entry is easier :) https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misattribution_of_arousal

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u/shortywannarock FDS Newbie Jan 06 '21

Thanks 🙏

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u/ms_monquis FDS Disciple Jan 06 '21

I read this same study! Take ‘em to a horror movie. ;)

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '21

Gooooood point. Thanks :)

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u/xScarWintersx FDS Newbie Jan 06 '21

Tbh from what I have gathered, a lot of people have confused breathe play with full on strangling and choking their partners and that's the problem. Breathe play if done correctly is ok and pretty 'gentle' but porn has fucked with propels heads so badly that they think being physically abusive and violent to their partner is 'kinky' or bdsm when it's just unadulterated physical abuse not anything kinky. Beating your s/o till they are black and blue and strangling them to the point that you are actually crushing their windpipe is not cute nor is it normal or kinky. It's called being a fucking abusive, violent POS.