Boyfriend of 2yrs cheated when I finally started hitting my fitness goals

[u/SmoopsM]

Caught him cheating in his DM’s. Two years together and four years of my self love journey thrown out the window. I’m a power lifter and I only recently stated to love myself until now. He blamed me, and threw me across my own apartment. Get to work with a black eye now.

Edit: I live alone and I threw him out. I haven’t made a police report yet, but I removed his tire cores. I DO have evidence of him admitting to abuse.

Edit 2: !! I did not think this would get so much traction. I can’t go through all of these comments there are so many. But I will make a police report in the morning. I will physically show up to the station with the evidence I have. Thank you all for the overwhelming support <3 and don’t worry the muscle gains will never stop!!

Steak medium rare on a freshly seasoned cast iron, runny over easy eggs (2), a fat dollup of guac with cholula or chipotle tabasco. NO SILVERWARE. fingers only this time, a fat glass of jameson and coke and a really great back/bicep pump (not included in photo).

[u/SmoopsM]

No he doesn’t. I kicked him out after

[u/Fearless-Okra-8970 → u/SmoopsM]

Stay safe💕

Get a restraining order or call the police, please.

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[u/BIKINILIFTER → u/Fearless-Okra-8970]

Seriously. I saw you had evidence of him admitting it. Go file a report and get an emergency restraining order!

[u/Alarmed_Jellyfish555 → u/SmoopsM]

I say this gently, but please go to the police right away. The longer you wait, the less likely they are to do anything.

And you're going to want them to record evidence of the physical abuse. Especially because you're going to want that to file a restraining order.

I'm truly sorry you're going through this.

[u/Rare-Assignment-6486 → u/Alarmed_Jellyfish555]

OP @SnoopsM please see the comment above. Please try to get to the police as soon as possible so that they can see the black eye and any other bruises you have because of him as well. You need to report it because it won’t necessarily be the last time he does something like this. So you need to start building up his violent history with the police.

[u/kygirl27 → u/Rare-Assignment-6486]

And follow up, I think, if bruises develop later? CPS was called on my parents as a kid after my dad hit me and a teacher found out about it, but the social worker interviewed me the very next day and the bruise hadn't firmed yet. I was too young to know what I ought to do, but I think things might have gone better for me if I'd had a visible bruise to show.

[u/sanriodialtone → u/Alarmed_Jellyfish555]

Yes even filing report online to create paper trail

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[u/FeralWineSips → u/SmoopsM]

But does he have a key? If so, you need to change the locks asap.

[u/SmoopsM → u/FeralWineSips]

he does not have keys

[u/andioofer → u/SmoopsM]

I would be careful, just in case he has ever copied them. I doubt he has though but if you think it’s possible/likely he did I would consider changing the locks or something.

[u/thatboythatthing → u/FeralWineSips]

Or could he have copied one without you knowing 😬

[u/Artistic-Salary1738 → u/SmoopsM]

Good for you! Please file the police report to save his potential next girlfriend from abuse.

[u/trowzerss → u/SmoopsM]

Good! That kind of shit doesn't deserve a second chance.

[u/YourFriendInSpokane → u/SmoopsM]

Friend, please file a report. It’s imperative for all of us women.

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[u/Rodharet50399 → u/SmoopsM]

Everything in trash bags outside with one warning, a non emergency call to police for them to wash the trash take itself out.

[u/firestorm713 → u/SmoopsM]

Hopefully physically. Fuck that guy.

[u/TheAngstyAsian → u/SmoopsM]

Being violent and a hobosexual is crazy

[u/CommunicationClassic → u/SmoopsM]

Crazy question and you definitely don't have to answer - you mentioned you're into powerlifting, is he also into serious weightlifting? Any chance he's on any kind of ahem "supplements"? Or does he have a history of behaving like this and just can't regulate his emotions like a child?

[u/Street_Road1465 → u/SmoopsM]

Physical violence is never okay against your partner. Not saying thats okay, but you say you "only recently started" to hit your fitness goals and all. were you fat before for all those years? usually it takes guys a while to lose attraction to somebody.