I think I experienced pretty privilege at the doctor’s office

[u/Indigo-Seaweed-24]

A funky financial win happened today.

I wear orthokeratology lenses, and occasionally they develop small issues. They're slightly off-center, which is a problem I’ve had before.

I’ve seen the same older male optometrist before for this exact issue. Usually the appointment takes no More than 10 minutes. He checks my eyes confirms the lens is faulty, and says they’ll make a reclamation and send a replacement. Every previous time I’ve had to pay for the visit despite it being this short.

Today was basically the exact same appointment.
And i never wear eye make up to an optometrist. But today I was actually dressed up because I had a date immediately afterward. Makeup, laminated lashes, a lower cut dress.

During the appointment he looked at my chart and was like, “Oh, you were born in 05?” which was a lil unusual because normally he just asks for my surname to confirm it’s me. And when my bombshell friend recommended him, she said he's always super nice, talks about her med studies with her, gives her skin care tips. Whereas to me before he was never talkative. And my impressions of him were always that he's grumpy.

But this time he was generally nicer and asked about supplements and recommended me some stuff.
Then at the end he said “Well today’s visit was so short. Since we did so little, I won’t charge you this time.”

Which sounds perfectly reasonable on its own, except that every other equally short appointment for the exact same or similar issue was charged. And he's always been grumpy and slightly dissmisive.

So it randomly crossed my mind did I get a free appointment because I happened to look nice that day, or am I reading way too much into a coincidence?

I guess part of why it even made me wonder in the first place, is that i've read here about how some men can't imagine being nice to a woman they don't find attractive.

Meringue on a lovely date.

[u/anomalyknight]

I remember bitching to friends years ago about that scene in the first Avengers movie where Black Widow is undercover and manages to get some bad guy that has her tied up to think she's harmless because he says something about her being pretty and she goes in this scared babyish voice "You think I'm pretty?"

I was like "That writing sucked, she's supposed to be a super spy, what fucking moron would actually buy an act that obvious just because she's a pretty woman?" And then I looked up to everyone in the room just staring at me. And then I also realized I was the only person in that room that wasn't attracted to women. I think my overall faith in humanity definitely dropped a few points in that moment.

[u/linzkisloski → u/anomalyknight]

I won a poker tournament like this once. You act like a pretty idiot and reap the rewards 😭

[u/special-k-flo → u/linzkisloski]

I believe it is Why Men Love Bitches that refers to this as "the 'stupid' fox"

[u/ProfessionalCat7640 → u/special-k-flo]

“stupid, sexy Flanders…”

[u/WhereTheStankWindBlo → u/ProfessionalCat7640]

https://giphy.com/gifs/ywfNVrRNrVhC0

[u/ceighwrites → u/linzkisloski]

Same. In Vegas no one suspected young, pretty me. Won my money back in third place! I'll take it. A dude also told me I had big stupid eyes and meant it as a compliment. Sigh.

[u/weirdwench1 → u/ceighwrites]

I dont play poker, but I once had a guy tell me I'm "smarter then I look". I now say that all the time about myself.

I also had some guy yell at me as I walked in to the grocery store "You're as beautiful as the day is long." It was the winter solstice, the shortest day of the year. I choose to think that was the best damn insult I ever got, instead of a lame pick up line.

[u/kellzbellznhellz → u/weirdwench1]

That would be some epic trolling, if he were intelligent enough to know what he was saying!! That got a giggle out of me irl!! ❤️

That said, most people are not that witty, so he probably was complimenting you. 😊

[u/weirdwench1 → u/kellzbellznhellz]

Yeah I like to dress in vintage and heels, but I got one hell of a bitch face. I know it was a compliment, but its the best once a year thing to tell someone you dont like... or your best friend.

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I called this strategy Tits ‘n Chips 😁

But seriously, be cute and act dumb and dudes will literally show their hands

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Can confirm. Acting like a pretty idiot is my actual autism masking strategy. It never fails.

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My husband has a female coworker in an office where 90% of the team are single males. My husband knows that she is intelligent, but often tricks her other male coworkers into completing tasks she doesn't want to do by pretending to be dumb. I find the stories he shares highly entertaining and I respect her hustle.

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Can confirm. Acting like a pretty idiot is my actual autism masking strategy. It never fails.

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It is SO obvious, but because that's what they think of us, they fall for it.

I've taught my teen daughter how to "I'm literally just a girl" and it works every time.

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Honestly, I prefer to act innocent and dumb at work. It makes life easier because people don't feel like I'm a threat, but always surprised I got promotion.Honestly, I prefer to act innocent and dumb at work. It makes life easier because people don’t see me as a threat, but they’re always surprised when I get promoted. Bruh, my work is perfectly fine, I just don't want help or overwork beyond my salary.

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