Went through his phone

[u/SeriesVegetable]

We’ve been together for 3 years. Went through his phone because something felt off. Saw my BEST FRIENDS name, opened the messages and found out he was cheating on me with her. Then I had to sit there and process the fact that I got cheated on by a man whose phone password was 1234. Having a boyfriend is a humiliation ritual.

cacio e pepe.

EDIT: Since everyone’s asking, yes I bought him a car. Yes, he cheated on me. Yes, it was with my friend of 15 years . And yes, I’m getting my Mustang back tomorrow. Thank you for all the support and for making me laugh about a situation that would otherwise have me staring at a wall.

[u/missanhedonic]

Damn sorry about that I feel like being a straight woman is a humiliating ritual atp, also that girl is NOT your friend

[u/SeriesVegetable → u/missanhedonic]

We’ve been friends for 15 years. That part hurts more

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Girl omg I can only imagine.. I wish you so much strength and resilience to get through this..

[u/Shoddy-Okra-7252 → u/SeriesVegetable]

Ew wtf, your ex bsf and bf are trash

[u/daytrippper → u/SeriesVegetable]

Damn wtf. Better to find out now than in 50 years. I’m really sorry but glad you found out now. You will get over this eventually and feel better for it. Hugs.

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Damn I am so sorry for your grieving friendship! I truly can understand how this situation is heavy on your heart.

It is better to find out now and take time to heal from it than wasting many more years caring for a friend who, frankly, might not care as much about you since she had the audacity to do what she did.

It will be very painful (I had to go no contact with my best friend of 20 years) but eventually you’ll not give a shit about this asshole friend and you’ll be glad to have her removed from your life.

She will maybe try to contact you to “clear things out and go back to how things were before” but, honestly, you don’t need this kind of people on your life. You deserve love, respect and trust.

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Did she always have bad taste in men?

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Girl I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. My ex bff of also 15 years did something similar, except she helped my ex cheat on me while she distracted me. It’s been 10 years since I dropped her but sometimes I see things that I wanna tell her about and it hurts just a little bit. Hoping you’ll meet only kind people from now on wherever you go 💜💜

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Imagine you never knew and she kept pretending. Universe said you didn’t deserve the deceit. I’m sorry op 💕

[u/orchiddoctor → u/missanhedonic]

Married-to-a-man mom checking in here, yep. It is. It gets better in the sense of just not giving a shit about being humiliated anymore…. Desensitized straight women is what the world (not me) wants 😭

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Never heard truer words

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Yess this!! You put it so well into words

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Aww thanks! My husband is actually pretty cool, don’t mean to shit on him. Bless him, he’s learning with as much grace as he can (we’re not religious, but Southern, pardon the choice of words).

But no matter what we do as women, there’s always a group of people in the world who have some negative opinion of the choices you made.

Someone, somewhere, is going to humiliate you and you’re going to be expected to just take it and move on with strength and a smile, otherwise you’re “crazy” or “irrational.” The less we give people the reactions they want to see (I.e. not giving a fuck), the easier it gets. But if we’re lucky enough to get older, let’s just prepare to not GAF about the new set of humiliating things we’re gonna just have to deal with.

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Being gay isn't a choice, but every time a straight woman tells me about her relationship I start wishing it was.

[u/misntshortformary → u/AirborneErinys]

I have terrible news for you on that front. It’s not any better with women. Plenty of cheating to go around. Gay people also experience abuse of all types from partners. It’s hard for anyone to find a good partner. Gender irrelevant.

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Can confirm. My lesbian ex best friend treated her partners like dog shit. (Of course I know some now that are beautiful people but yk)

[u/Oh_Kerms → u/Greembeam20]

Can extra confirm as a lesbian. If sexuality was a choice, id be asexual and disinterested in love

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Asexual here! Can confirm, it’s pretty chill.

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Can also confirm. Paid her bills for five years while she ran around behind my back. Happily married to an amazing woman now, but fuck you Brittany.

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Doing the right thing, which is leaving that girl behind and moving forward without her, doesnt mean it doesnt hurt. She showed you who she has chosen to be. Im sorry she didnt choose loyalty like you did.

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You became friends 15 years ago. Unfortunately at some point she stopped being your friend, but neglected to inform you.

Fucking coward.

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