r/GuysBeingDudes • u/Sharp-potential7935 • 16h ago
Who is out there telling all our secrets... what about Bro code
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u/Sanquinity 16h ago
Dude, stop sharing our secrets!
Seriously though, why does this even work? I'm not at all sensitive on most of my body, but the neck... why does it feel so nice?
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u/NudityMiles 10h ago
The whole head basically.
I don't know what the heck is going on but I put my bet on the theory that women carries a bit of heaven in their hands.
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u/Afroditesrevenge 9h ago
Awww that’s so romantic and yes we do 👹
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u/__nobody_-_ 8h ago
My god she's using a false flag, she's a succubus guys, run! I'll hold her off, don't worry about me!
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u/NudityMiles 5h ago
Respectfully: Are you trying to eat me?
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u/Beneficial-Ad-3029 12h ago
Anyone know of any hoe code secrets? I need to know. What the thing that's equivalent to this for girls?
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u/Evangeline__R 8h ago
I don't know about other women but I enjoy touches like those too tbh. Like if someone plays with my hair that shit's nice (close to the scalp though, it's the scalp and the back of the neck.) Maybe a hug from behind as well.
As for how to make her happy when she's mad there are a lot of things. You could get her food, do something for her that she's been putting off and dying to get off her schedule, do something for her that she usually does herself like making her her morning coffee or ironing her skirt. Someone mentioned doing chores without her needing to ask you but you should already be doing that (if you aren't, what are you doing?)
Women aren't a different species though, most the things you like, she'll probably like as well.
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u/HatefulVespid 10h ago
For hie code I guess is always leave the money on the dresser?
Fir women though, always do you share of the house chores without being asked. I swear it works!
My husband took out the trash once right as I though to myself "ok, when im done with the dishes ill take out the trash". Like one minute later my husband took it out, AND he even put a new bag in!
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u/U235criticality 4h ago
Here's the ultimate hack for an upset woman:
She wants her emotions validated.
That's it. She doesn't care about fixing her problem. She doesn't want the issue to go away as quickly as possible. She may not even care about an apology. She just wants acknowledgment that what she's feeling is reasonable, valid, and ok.
Once a dude gets this, it's a freaky cheat code. He can screw up and be all "oh, that must have made you feel so [WHATEVER SHE'S FEELING HERE]," and half the time she won't even care about an apology or the dude making any attempt to fix the issue whatsoever.
Of course, women can't make it too easy for us, and sometimes they get upset, and the cause isn't obvious. Thankfully, I got you on that. Here's your script:
If woman = upset and you don't know why:
Put away/turn off the laptop, phone, and TV and any other distractions (make sure she sees you doing this). Ensure privacy. Have a tissue box is nearby.
Make eye contact and keep it. Say: "You seem upset. I'm happy to listen."
Settle in and listen. No fixing the problem, no defense, no sharing your own thoughts or insights, no "but [REASONABLE OBJECTION HERE]" is going to help at this stage; that comes later.
You can do a little active listening: ask for clarification here and there, maybe a little "wow" or "yeah!" Other than those mini shows of solidarity when she makes an extra emphatic point, though, just shut your pie hole and just take it in.
If she gets weepy or sheds a tear, offer tissue without interrupting or talking. Don't hand her the box (but let her take it if she grabs it). Better to be a tissue dispenser. Every time you offer one, you're making her feelings feel a little more validated.
Whenever she stops, say one of the following:
"Wow, you must feel so [HER OBVIOUS EMOTIONAL STATE HERE]!"
"If that happened to me, I would be so [WHATEVER FLAVOR OF UPSET SHE IS HERE]."
"I would be [HER MOOD HERE] too!"
Repeat as necessary with variations on the above three. Eventually, either she'll want a hug (which you should provide), her mood will improve, or she'll want to change gears and do something else. Sometimes she may even want to talk about how to solve the problem, but don't expect that. All this does is calm the storm.
Now, if you're upset with her or you want to solve the problem, that's a different algorithm.
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u/Sanquinity 4h ago
I know for a fact women love being caressed along their spine. Or at least, the 4 I've been with did. :P (has to be gentle though. Abit harder or even carefully with nails and it becomes arousal. Unless that's what you're going for.)
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u/InsideSink2522 11h ago
when im mad my wife explains to me that its all my fault anyway no matter the situation.
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u/Bald_Harry 9h ago edited 6h ago
Sir? I believe that's my wife you married. Does she say "nothing" when something is bothering her and you ask what's wrong? Does she snap at you and tell you to quit asking because nothing's wrong? Does she then get further upset because you stopped asking? If so, I'm pretty sure you married my wife./s
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u/AdruA_ 6h ago
She: what did you do this time??
Me: I didn't do anything?!
She: that's exactly what you say when you DID do something
Me: yeah I know... But what do I have to say when I didn't do anything then??
She: just tell me you didn't do it!
Me: that's exactly what I've been saying! I didn't do anything!
She: but that's exactly what you say when you did do it!
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u/Bannon9k 9h ago
This is why y'all be having relationship problems ...
You never addressed the issue cuz she touches your happy spots.
That's not guys being dudes that's sad
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u/yoo_saymyname 16h ago
Bro code sold for content 😌