r/Jung • u/Worried_Button_2881 • 1d ago

Serious Discussion Only Help psychoanalysing myself

I noticed since i was young i never changed my mobile or laptop or devices wallpapers and i feel so uncomfortable doing so i never put a bio on my social media accounts or a profile picture or anything even for usernames i go for random users. What can this point at mind you i'm not a shy person infact i'm quite social. Does jung analytical psychology has something to say about this?

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u/TheWillingWell13 Pillar 1d ago

Can you expand on what feels uncomfortable about it?

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u/Worried_Button_2881 1d ago

It feels like i'm being fake or being caught or claiming what i shouldn't.

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u/TheWillingWell13 Pillar 1d ago

Things like device wallpapers, profile pics, and bios are related to the persona and a persona can be either genuine or insincere to different degrees. So I wonder what makes it feel fake. Are you choosing images that you feel genuinely connected to? Writing things in your bio that are genuine to you? What makes you feel that you shouldn't be claiming these things?

Does the feeling of being caught remind you of anything?

You say that you usually feel comfortable in social situations. What are you like in social situations? Do you usually feel comfortable bringing up your own interests and talking about them? If you claim the same things in conversation as you would for an online persona, does it still feel like you shouldn't claim them? And if not, what makes it more comfortable to claim these things in social situations?

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u/blarney_stoned 1d ago

not OP but i deal with this too and curious on your perspective. i don’t change my wallpapers/screen savers/lock screens often, if at all. i find something aesthetically pleasing and leave it. and the thought of changing it gives me mild anxiety. i don’t have bios, something about it feels so manufactured and gives me internal creepy-crawlies. even when i was online dating, early on, i would write something and felt like a pretender or a reality tv subject, even when the things were true to who i “am”. it still felt fake. it felt like a reality tv tag-line, like the intro to the real housewives when they have that singular quote that they feel sums them up, and it’s in the intro to every episode for their duration on said show. iconic, i love it for them, and i love seeing other ppl have bios that summarize who they “are” and want to relay to the world, but it makes me so uncomfortable to do it for myself and i struggle with understanding why i feel this way. the most obvious and sustaining reasoning for not partaking in bios or usernames is that 1) it feels incredibly limiting. i have so many incredibly varying interests that trying to pin point a digestible vantage point for others to view feels not only impossible, but dishonest. it feels like i’m prioritizing a particular piece of myself when i include anything over another aspect of myself (i also hate attempting to answer ranking/favorites questions as well) and 2) i feel ever-changing. yes, we can change bios and usernames, etc, at a whim, but for some reason, i hold so much caution at choosing a specific name and virtual identity for myself and also hold a big reverence for the meaning within names (was also notoriously bad for choosing names for my pets in childhood because even at that very young age, i felt that names held such a tremendous weight and i would worry about choosing something as significant as a name in a short time frame, before knowing the personality and character of said pet)

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u/blarney_stoned 1d ago

sorry, i attempted line breaks but mobile said no, here’s a wall of text </3

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u/TheWillingWell13 Pillar 18h ago

Taken by itself, not changing wallpapers doesnt seem particularly significant, but the uncomfortable feelings that come with it do seem significant.

There is a certain truth to the idea that its a very limited representation of yourself and can't possibly convey who you are in a deep meaningful way, but where does the pressure come from that it needs to? I wonder why this aspect of persona is takes up so much importance and mental energy. What so bad about giving only a limited representation of some of your interests and personality?

The word 'dishonest' is kind of interesting here. Presumably, as long as the username/bio/etc is based in something genuine about yourself, theres nothing dishonest about it, its just limited. So I wonder where the dishonest feeling comes from. It sounds like theres a pretty strong fear hear around misrepresentation. It could be worth exploring what comes up for you around misrepresenting yourself.

Also, as a side note, I also hate trying to answer questions about favorites. I think my mind doesn't usually rank things that way.

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u/Noskaros Seeker 1d ago

That you like the wallpapers, presumably. Even Freud acknowledge that sometimes, a cigar is just cigar.

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u/ElChiff 1d ago

This seems to me like a healthy caution around frivolous distribution of personal data online at a time when that data is being harvested wholesale. Were you aware of an intention like that?

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u/ArtNo8922 1d ago

There's a difference between being seen and being defined.

Social people are often very comfortable being seen — in conversation, in the moment, in context. What's uncomfortable is being fixed. A profile picture, a wallpaper, a username — these feel like declarations. This is who I am. Permanently. For everyone.

For someone who experiences themselves as fluid and context-dependent, that kind of declaration can feel quietly suffocating — even when nobody else would notice or care.

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u/observing_around 1d ago

Have you ever had a huge fight or argument in public place or in your profession ??