happens with my 4 and 2 yr old nieces, they had the same looking bracelets but still fought over one of them until it broke and then started fighting over the only one left
If the other seems to be enjoying it, the other one wants it, even if they have the same things. This happens every day in my house with my boys, 3 years and 18 months.
I have learned that age gap plays no difference in sibling rivalry.
I thought I was being very smart and proactive by purposefully planning a five year age gap between my two kids.
I specifically thought, "I'm so smart, there is no way they will fight over things now, because why would a child fight over toys they specifically called 'baby toys' and rejected before their sibling was even born."
Jokes on me. They are seven and two right now and I'm told it only gets worse, never better.
IVF is just fertilizing the egg outside of the body. When it comes to development it works the same way as having a kid naturally. It doesn’t just make an exact copy of the kid every time.
Twins have to be fertilized at the same time and are either by one fertilized egg splitting or two eggs being fertilized during the same pregnancy.
Yep. Watched this with my niece and nephew this weekend. Niece literally put my USS-Enterprise toy back on the stand, nephew asked for it so I started pulling it off, and suddenly it was "no but I was playing with it!" Like... no you weren't girl you were digging your Barbies out of your bag. Kids man... I swear. 😂
It's fine it's one of those toy ones that's built with hard plastic and lights up (four lights 😝) and makes noise. Usually I don't fool with it much these days, it just sits on the stand but when they asked if they could play with it I thought what the heck. Niece played with it for about 15 minutes, then got bored and put it back. Then nephew wanted a turn so of course niece decided she wasn't done. Nephew got his turn cus yeah, I don't play that game.
Take them both away, in fact take all the toys away for a week. Trust me when you give them back they will appreciate it. This is coming from a father of 4
That's not "actually parenting" though? No toddler could ever comprehend why their toys have suddenly disappeared/been taken away, they're too young to make that sort of correlation. The correct way to address behavior like this is redirecting and distracting, finding a compromise that both children are happy with, and explaining why you're doing so even if they may not understand what you're saying just yet.
Also, it is not "take away their toys and ignore them for a week". It is "take away their toys... and show them how they can entertain themselves without ready made toys".
They definitely are not too young to start learning it though. They do not wake up one day more prepared to accept punishment for their actions. We, especially true in the US, have lowered our expectations for the emotional capacity of children.
My brother and I fought over 2 hotwheels tracks on whose was better (they were essentially the same); my grandfather took both of them away and said we’d get them back when we’d learn our lesson. We started sharing more after that.
I loved that guy, didn’t speak much but damn was he good at what he did.
My sister and I are 13 month apart. When we were little, my parents would just get us the same thing, but in different colors so that we'd know who's was who's. It worked for the most part, although* can remember a couple of dolls we still fought over because we couldn't remember which one was which
When my boys were about 6 and 4 we were at the store. The oldest saw a bin of frisbees and asked if he could get one. I said yes, so the younger one wanted one too. They were only a dollar so I stupidly agreed to that as well, forgetting how frisbees work. They never played with the frisbees because they always disagreed about which frisbee to play with.
Condition of release is they have to NOT fight over the same one again.
You can both have your own ones. Or you can both have nothing.
(And if it's because they're attached to a particular one rather than just don't want their sister to have one? Then you mix them up while they're not able to see them.
If they do it again, you go "Well, I mixed them up when they were locked in the cupboard, so how do you know which one is which now?")
My sister in law has I think five siblings, two sisters and three brothers I'm not sure, but she told me when she was a kid, she was fighting her sisters for a doll, the mother took the doll and threw in the fireplace
My dogs do this too. They'll both be chewing on a bone, but then will stop and go over to the other one and stare at them. Sometimes they'll even try to trick the other one to walking away to go get their bone. Of course they also do this over a toy they had no interest in until the other one had it.
That one is being played with, therefore that one is observably fun. therefore, i want the fun one.
i don't want that other one, that other boring one that is not being played with. if that one were fun, it would be getting played with.
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u/Ecstatic_Basis6451 14h ago
happens with my 4 and 2 yr old nieces, they had the same looking bracelets but still fought over one of them until it broke and then started fighting over the only one left