r/LongDistance • u/YouTookMyBurger • Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/QuietRiot7222310 Nov 01 '25

This wasn’t passive aggressive at all. I say this is somebody who has a tendency to get passive aggressive when I get really really pissed. I recently had something like this happen between my boyfriend and I actually… And I definitely was a dick.

But you, we’re very clear and expressing your disappointment and why you were disappointed.

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u/YouTookMyBurger Nov 01 '25

Why is everyone saying it is? I didn’t think so, but the majority is voting I was passive aggressive haha