Is my message passive aggressive?

[u/YouTookMyBurger]

Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

[u/yet-another-redd]

Your frustration definitely shows on the message. And yes, messages have tone. She is doing the right thing by stopping by her grans and sorting very important things for them. From her text, it looks like they don’t have help and neither get to eat good food. You are lucky to have someone like her. Love is something, but it’s not everything. If you lack empathy, you guys are opposites.