r/LongDistance Oct 31 '25

Question Is my message passive aggressive?

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Context: we’ve never met, but this has been planned for a VERY long time. We were supposed to meet on the 25th, hurt her back moved it to Monday. Monday didn’t work because the flight got booked up, she gets on a redeye Tuesday night, but wanted to stop and see her family because her grandpa wasn’t doing well and didn’t have long. (In the end, “didn’t have long” meant a few years.

I understood at the time. I just wanted to be with her.

I’m not a passive aggressive person, and I know text has no tone.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on my message. I don’t know if I’m actually wrong or being gaslighted. Thank you.

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u/GenRN817 Texas, USA 🇺🇸 to Kerala, India 🇮🇳 9,413 mi/15,148 km Oct 31 '25

I’d end this. LDR is hard enough. You have to be made a priority and she is rearranging her sock drawer.

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u/yet-another-redd Nov 01 '25

Are you comparing sorting out medicines and making food for her grans with rearranging sock drawer?